PG I do not agree with you. WG is much more on target. Prophets have told stories of couples who griped and complained about their spouses weaknesses and how it crushes them, even recently. You are right that all communication should be talked about in love and by adding kindness a lot of stuff just needs to be overlooked. My spouse said what you said UNTIL I mentioned something He did. Then All kindness and love was gone. It is much easier to just love him the way he is. He will only change when he is ready. That goes for all of us.
PGMay 24, 2013
I agree with your article and disagree with WG. If you deal with emotions upfront, then you can release them and they are no longer an issue. That doesn't mean it needs to be a fight or cause of discord. You can kindly share your feelings in a spirit of love and acceptance and then both are able to understand each other better. I don't remember any prophet's counseling that we shouldn't communicate in love and truth. I think it builds and strengthens relationships, marriages & families.
MarieMay 24, 2013
The above comment is true about small stuff. You don't want to be whining and complaining all the time. On the other hand these five big things need to be discussed, and both partners' feelings need to be respected in order for a marriage to survive. Also, never hurt your partner's feelings on purpose. Everyone has a fragile heart. Don't be afraid to say, "I'm sorry, I forgive you, I love you, and thank you for all you do."
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LindaMay 31, 2013
PG I do not agree with you. WG is much more on target. Prophets have told stories of couples who griped and complained about their spouses weaknesses and how it crushes them, even recently. You are right that all communication should be talked about in love and by adding kindness a lot of stuff just needs to be overlooked. My spouse said what you said UNTIL I mentioned something He did. Then All kindness and love was gone. It is much easier to just love him the way he is. He will only change when he is ready. That goes for all of us.
PGMay 24, 2013
I agree with your article and disagree with WG. If you deal with emotions upfront, then you can release them and they are no longer an issue. That doesn't mean it needs to be a fight or cause of discord. You can kindly share your feelings in a spirit of love and acceptance and then both are able to understand each other better. I don't remember any prophet's counseling that we shouldn't communicate in love and truth. I think it builds and strengthens relationships, marriages & families.
MarieMay 24, 2013
The above comment is true about small stuff. You don't want to be whining and complaining all the time. On the other hand these five big things need to be discussed, and both partners' feelings need to be respected in order for a marriage to survive. Also, never hurt your partner's feelings on purpose. Everyone has a fragile heart. Don't be afraid to say, "I'm sorry, I forgive you, I love you, and thank you for all you do."
WGMay 24, 2013
Unfortunately the popular observation that
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