I've been married to my husband for seven years. In those seven years I've been attracted to his older brother, who's also married. He's very handsome and is basically an upgraded version of my husband. I know that sounds bad. But I find myself thinking and even fantasizing about him and not sure how to feel about it all.
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My parents both went to Brigham Young University and when I was old enough to attend college, they wouldn’t listen when I told them I wanted to go somewhere else. I was accepted to BYU and the choice was made. I didn’t get a say about where I wanted to spend the next few years of my life.
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with feeling threatened by my husband’s newly discovered daughter?
My husband recently found out he had a 47-year-old daughter as the result of one-night stand before he met me. We met one month before she was born and have now been married for almost 45 years. He changed his life and has been a faithful husband to me all these years. However, I keep feeling like she is taking something away from me.
My brother-in-law takes many trips, sometimes for work but mostly for fun. Before he leaves, he usually asks my husband and me to watch his children for a few days at a time. I am a stay-at-home mom. In spite of having my own children to care for, I believe my brother-in-law thinks I'm not doing anything during the day and can come and watch his children whenever he asks.
I have a 38-year-old daughter who is a functional alcoholic. She has two teenagers. She comes home drunk several times a week, and her drunken behavior scares and angers her kids. I feel my daughter has just given up on parenting. I’ve raised my kids and I don’t want to raise my grandkids, but here I am. I‘m sad that I’m so enmeshed in the neediness of this family.
My father has a habit of saying hurtful things about my mother and it really hurts me. In the past when I have brought this up, he has been defensive and hasn’t owned his actions. I want to stand up for myself and for my mother, but how can I when he is the authority in the house and has held church leadership callings and I’ve been raised to “honor my father and mother”?
Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to stay with the person who betrayed you? Do you sometimes feel insecure and clingy in your relationships? This is a struggle for many adults who believe they shouldn't need other people when they're feeling insecure.