Children need to feel love from their parents more than ever before. That unconditional, deep and abiding love will help our children weather the storms of life. How do we let them know?
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A mother, Julie, recently asked, “Nicholeen, I have four children ages 11-18 and none of them will help out around the house unless I nag them. I hate being a nag, but it’s so frustrating when they disregard my instructions. They only have to keep their rooms clean and help with dishes a couple of nights a week, but they won’t even do those things. Do you think I’m expecting too much from them?”
Due to my parenting courses, many parents ask me for advice. A common request parents are making nowadays is, “how do I get my child to listen to me?” Parents confide that their children simply don’t seem to care to listen or learn from them. Why does this distance happen? And, what can parents do about it?
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m not allowed to visit my severely disabled daughter because of COVID
She doesn't understand why I don't come anymore or anything about the pandemic. After 47 years, everything about this just keeps getting harder. I read my scriptures, pray, serve in the Church, get blessings, and take comfort from conference talks. But I still cry several times a day.
It’s never too late to learn to control yourself and to repair or improve relationships. We can’t ever give up on becoming who we are meant to become or helping our children meet the measure of their potentials, too. This is what I suggest parents to help their children and themselves have changes of heart and improve their relationships.
More than ever before our children need the message that following the prophet’s council and the fullness of the gospel of Jesus Christ is the way to happiness, security, truth, and purpose in this life. And, it’s the parents who have the greatest power to choose who today’s children will follow by allowing them to have or not have contact with other leaders and influencers.
My oldest daughter (now in her mid-twenties) has always been the in-charge, critical child, bossing around her younger siblings and even me. She's narcissistic and has a hard time understanding that anyone else has feelings aside from her, and never thinks any of us are good enough for her.