“I don’t have the time to catch every little thing the kids do. I run a business, I have a large family, and I homeschool. Isn’t there an easier way to stop the bad behaviors than having to correct every one of them? I think I need the condensed, quicker approach to parenting,” said Gwen, a mother of six children from Illinois. If only it were that simple.
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While adults may long for and excitedly anticipate the opportunity of cozying up at home and enjoying a relaxing weekend of five General Conference sessions back-to-back, our energetic, active children may not share in the same enthusiasm. How can we as parents help our children and ourselves be spiritually and physically prepared for a successful, spiritual feast?
It’s easy to see how some voices mislead and hurt a child’s potential. Yet, these voices oftentimes come from people who say, or even think, that they are helping children. No matter the voice, the child is influenced. But two voices have a greater power to win the heart and loyalty of the children: the parents.
As a young mother I needed to know if I should parent like my parents, so I started reading child-rearing books, specifically seeking better ways to handle contention. It was tricky because the word contention seemed ambiguous, a one-size-fits-all generalization that included everything from spats at the dinner table to war. So, how do we handle it?
Our young teen boys have locked phones but one of them was given a smart phone from a friend. He’s had it for a long time and we just found out about it. He has been looking at some awful stuff. Is there anywhere we can go for help?
A mother, Julie, recently asked, “Nicholeen, I have four children ages 11-18 and none of them will help out around the house unless I nag them. I hate being a nag, but it’s so frustrating when they disregard my instructions. They only have to keep their rooms clean and help with dishes a couple of nights a week, but they won’t even do those things. Do you think I’m expecting too much from them?”