In my experience, my wife and many of her friends, who are also betrayed wives, have taken on the expectation of perfect behavior as the bar that they are looking for in their marriages. She outlines what that bar might look like, but, as I move closer to it, she moves the goal posts down the field.
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Your Hardest Family Question: How do I cultivate humility after being betrayed?
How do I practice humility without being a doormat? Is this just something I have to abandon for now? I feel like I’m losing large chunks of myself to stay in this relationship and I’m not sure how to navigate that.
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m depressed after ending my affair
All affairs are driven by failure of integrity. They are full of deception to self and others, including the affair partner. Have you told your wife about the affair? Have you any interest in repairing things with her? Regardless of how you handle things with your wife, this is an opportunity for you to confront your own patterns of integrity abuse.
Marriage in “All Compassion Mode”
We’ve found a tool that is better at smoothing the rough edges of our marriage than anything we’ve ever had before. And I want to share it in hopes that it might help others change their thinking about how they handle their marital relationship.
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if my mentally ill husband really loves me?
I have known my husband over 20 years since we were teenagers. We married in 2007 and he was diagnosed with schizophrenia a few months after we got married. There is no doubt in my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I am so overwhelmed. It’s been a rollercoaster of dealing with his mental illness, intimacy issues, my childhood trauma, and other challenges.
Practicing Mindfulness in Marital Intimacy
When our sex lives are struggling, we have a tendency to drive up the intensity as a way to improve our experience. This often feels like an endless chase that leaves us feeling more defeated. Today we discuss the benefits of a different approach.
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I reduce the risk of a workplace affair?
I’m recently divorced for the second time. Both of my ex-husbands cheated on me with women they worked with. I’ve now started a new job and I work alone with my boss. I don’t want my boss or his wife to feel uncomfortable with the fact that we’re there alone together much of the time.