MYTH: You wouldn’t buy a car until you had taken a test drive, and it is unwise to make a marriage commitment before you have lived together long enough to know if it will work. TRUTH: It is the commitment that will make a marriage work. Real security comes from promising and implementing complete allegiance, not from conditional, tentative try-it-and-see.
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MYTH: In marriage some things are better left unsaid; and it’s safest to float along and not make waves. TRUTH: Unexpressed feelings never die; they are just buried and come forth later in uglier forms. Timing is important, but the best marriages communicate everything—even when it creates some turbulence.
My husband is on the fence about divorce. It seems to change day-to-day, so I never know how to respond to him. I want to stay married and work things out, but he says he’s unhappy and doesn’t know what he wants to do. I want to protect myself with finances, with my emotions, and even with getting too physically close. At the same time, I worry that being too closed off will make it easier for him to walk away. What’s the best way to show him I want to stay married and give it a chance while still making sure I don’t get completely burned?
My wife hates it when I compliment her body. I always thought that it would be nice for a wife to hear these types of comments from her husband. She’s often complaining about her body and I thought that saying positive things about her body would help her feel better about herself. Instead, she acts like I’m a creep when I flirt with her or tell her that I’m physically attracted to her.
There are so many young adults out there looking for soul mates and perfection. With the perspective of shared values and with real love and genuine appreciation for the uniqueness of our partners, we may find that the things we thought needed to be fixed may in fact be just the things that we need most or that make our spouse endearing. Sometimes the very things that bother us most about a partner are just another version of the things that we liked most about them when we were falling in love.
Independence and freedom are the hallmarks of our American culture and economy and perhaps the best measurements of government and society around the world. But they are not always so good for marriage. Here's why.
My husband isn’t a member of the Church and drinks alcohol, which he is ashamed of because he knows it’s not a healthy behavior. So, he lies about it. He’s never aggressive or gets mad when I bring it up, but when I ask if he has been drinking, he lies every single time. I’m so tired of having to catch him in a lie, but I can’t just pretend like my feelings aren’t hurt.