In a scenario where a man and woman are married, is it okay to be flirty and explicit if your partner initiates the conversation with an image or hints at some kind of intimate behavior? My wife was like this with me for our entire marriage, now I find it difficult to turn that off. I also question myself about the appropriateness of keeping the saved photos acquired over our marriage. Should I delete these photos? If the answer is “yes”, should all other memories be discarded and deleted as well? And, is there something wrong with me because I want to revisit those images and experiences?
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We’ve all seen the headline: “Money is the leading cause of divorce.” In fact, it isn’t money itself, but disagreement about it that makes financial conflict the strongest predictor of divorce. Financial disagreements “last longer, are harder to resolve, and are more important to spouses than other types of disagreements.” Indeed, one reason financial issues appear to be so important to marital quality is because they reflect deeper, more serious marital processes and challenges.
I am in my sixties and I recently married a woman my same age. She is a true gift. She is what I have wanted since I was in high school. I suffer, many times every single day, thinking about a terrible decision she made shortly before we met. She invited an old classmate, a convicted drug addict, into her home and bed. They lived together for only 10 weeks. She was not truthful about that relationship for the first eight months of our relationship. I don’t want this to poison our relationship.
The wedding day came and we were all so thrilled for her as we watched Camille marry the love of her life in the Payson Temple. Every detail of the wedding seemed flawless, and all of us friends danced the night away at her reception, silently wondering what the rest of the night would hold for Camille. We couldn’t wait for her to start this perfect honeymoon phase we had talked about for months. But her report to us a few days later was devastating.
My spouse of almost four years moved out a couple of months ago. We went on a scheduled vacation together two weeks after he moved out and had an amazing time. We really reconnected and even talked about our future together. This past week my mom passed away. I asked him to come see me the other day and he said he would. Not only did he not come see me, but he also isn’t answering my calls or texts. I feel completely abandoned by him. I don’t know what to do. Do I continue trying to contact him or do I back off and let him come to me?
In Rachel Joyce's fictional story: The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry, you meet Harold, a retiree, and his wife, Maureen, who have lived in a small English village for many years. It is not a happy home and “marriage” is not an accurate label for their living arrangement. They co-exist under the same roof but live separate lives. Maureen finds most everything Harold does an irritant, including the way he butters toast. Harold lives colorlessly as one predictable day blends routinely into the next, that is, until a letter arrives.
MYTH: You wouldn’t buy a car until you had taken a test drive, and it is unwise to make a marriage commitment before you have lived together long enough to know if it will work. TRUTH: It is the commitment that will make a marriage work. Real security comes from promising and implementing complete allegiance, not from conditional, tentative try-it-and-see.