We are both covenant-keeping members of the church and are completely devoted to our family, and also each other. However, I feel at times like an object, a paycheck, without valid emotions or hopes or dreams. I’m lonelier than ever, I want love, excitement, and connection but it seems we’ve missed each other’s timing by several years.
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