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Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT
MEET AUTHOR Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT
Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist in St. George, Utah. He specializes in working with couples, pornography/sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, and infidelity. He is the founder of Lifestar of St. George, Utah and Alliant Counseling and Education. Geoff is the co-author of “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity” and has produced online relationship courses available on his website www.geoffsteurer.com. He hosts the Illuminate Podcast and has created a marriage educational vlog on YouTube with his wife. He earned degrees from Brigham Young University and Auburn University. He is married to Jody Young Steurer and they are the parents of four children. You can contact him at www.geoffsteurer.com
Author's Published Articles
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m so depressed I want to give up
I am so depressed and feel so worthless. I was…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m on my deathbed and my daughter won’t talk to me
My time here on earth is limited due to a…
The Role of Anger in Healing
Today we discuss anger from the viewpoint of women, specifically…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is hooked on televised sports
My question is how to deal with the problem of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is financially irresponsible
When we got married, I liked to shop and spend…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m afraid of commitment
I don’t know why I’m afraid to be in a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is marrying a guy we don’t like
Our daughter dated this guy for a couple of years…
Building a Marriage-Centered Family
Children undoubtedly require a massive amount of time and energy.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My toddler is still terrified of Halloween festivities
I have a daughter, 27 months old, who, somehow has…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband Revealed a 20 year-old Secret
My husband had an affair with a co-worker, and he…
Taking Care of Yourself as You Rebuild Broken Trust
It is understandable that someone who has betrayed their partner…
Your Hardest Family Question: How long do I stay in my marriage?
Can a marriage become dead, or is it simply my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-wife already introduced the kids to her new boyfriend
My wife and I divorced recently and within less than…
Should I Feel Compassion for My Addicted Partner?
We know that those who struggle with addiction suffer in…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t give me his phone password
I don’t know his phone password because he has never…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has an addiction. What do I tell my kids?
I just discovered that my husband has a pornography addiction…
Why Marriage Cannot Fix a Pornography Addiction
A common reaction in hearing about a pornography addiction is…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I balance care for my mentally-Ill daughter and her kids at the same time?
I am dealing with a family situation that involves mental…
Taking the First Steps After a Sexual Betrayal
In the aftermath of a sexual betrayal discovery, the most…
Healthy Support vs. Parenting Your Partner
Couples going through betrayal issues will often have one partner…
Your Hardest Family Question: What are the rules about dating later in life?
My husband, to whom I am sealed, passed away a…
The Problem with Acting Like You Don’t Need Anything
When we haven’t learned how to ask for what we…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Keep Going When My Children Have Strayed?
How do I find strength to make it through their…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my kids during our marital separation?
My husband and I are separated right now and I…
Your Hardest Family Question: What’s wrong with my kids?
I have a 17 year-old daughter and 15 year-old son…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our kids don’t connect with my wife
My wife and I have very different parenting styles, which…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband is playing games with his visitation
I’m a single mom and have been divorced for two…
Balancing Autonomy and Partnership in a Committed Relationship
Our relationships, especially committed ones like marriage, give us the…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter keeps sneaking inappropriate books
How do I respond so she will not be shamed…
How Our Relationships Influence our Internal Motivation
Each of us have areas of our lives where we…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I say “no” and still be Christ-like?
I grew up believing that you don’t say no to…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I repair my relationship with my daughter?
How do I repair the relationship with my daughter? She…
Helping Children be Intrinsically Motivated
Have you ever wondered what motivates you to make good…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter and her child moved in with us during her divorce
My daughter is going through a divorce. She is living…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Can I Know My Husband is Telling me the Truth?
What would you say the difference is between being honest…
Relearning Touch After Betrayal (Part 2)
Today we conclude our conversation with internationally recognized sex therapist,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is there hope for me to have an eternal family?
I dated non-Latter-day Saint men and, as a result, I…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our Daughter May Need Residential Treatment
Our daughter is sixteen and has been dealing with depression…
Patterns of Conflict in Your Relationship (Part 2)
We continue our conversation with Dr. Adam Fisher, discussing conflict…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m a Horrible Wife
It seems that I am forever doing something to irritate…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband Expects Me to be His Mother
In so many ways he is still a little boy…
Patterns of Conflict in Your Relationship
Through his extensive research and experience as a clinical psychologist,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Father-in-Law Won’t Let Me Repair Our Relationship
A few years ago I had a falling out with…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Extended Family Doesn’t Include My Family
Our family has not lived near our extended relatives most…
Living After Interpersonal Loss with Lisa Clark (Part 2)
One commonality between betrayal and loss is that they are…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I support my mentally ill daughter and her children at the same time?
I am dealing with a family situation that involves mental…
Your Hardest Family Question: What are the rules about dating later in life?
My husband, to whom I am sealed, passed away a…
Living After Interpersonal Loss with Lisa Clark
Interpersonal loss can look very different in any given situation,…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Keep Going When My Children Have Strayed?
I know my children have the same gift of agency…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Adult Stepchildren Don’t Include Me
I guess on the outside it appears we are one…
Why Porn is Bad for Marriage with Wendy Maltz (Part 2)
We continue the conversation with Wendy Maltz as she describes…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Respond to Opinions From Others About My Divorce?
I’m recently divorced. And sometimes I’m completely content to tell…
From Crisis to Connection: Why Porn is Bad for Marriage with Wendy Maltz
We welcome Wendy Maltz back on the podcast to dive…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Make Friends in My Ward When My Spouse is a Non-Member?
I am an active Latter-day Saint woman, married to a…
Finding Comedy in Tragedy with Lisa Valentine Clark (Part 2)
Today we continue our conversation with Lisa Valentine Clark. We…
Your Hardest Family Questions: My Son Abused My Daughter
I recently learned that approximately 20 years ago, my daughter…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Depressed Husband Says He No Longer Loves Me
About 2 months ago I realized my husband has depression. …
Great Truths That Nurture Our Marriages and Families
In the early days of our marriage, an unexpected encounter…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I put up with abuse in my marriage or just endure to the end?
I just heard from our Patriarch that "difficulties" in marriage…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is It Worth Trying to Rebuild Trust with In-Laws Who Have Betrayed You?
How should we deal with them? Straight up tell them…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do We Deal with My Husband’s Former Affair Partner?
The woman my husband had an affair with over 30…
Finding Comedy in Tragedy with Lisa Valentine Clark
Each of us experience moments of tragedy in our lives.…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why Do I Feel Threatened by My Husband’s Daughter Who Was Born Out of Wedlock?
My husband recently found out he has a 45-year-old daughter…
From Crisis to Connection: When Women Abuse Men (Part 2)
In today’s episode, Lisa Renda and I continue our conversation…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Address My Husband’s Online Shopping Addiction?
At what point is his spending and our lack of…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I Celebrate Our Anniversary When We’re Separated?
Our fourth wedding anniversary is coming up soon. We agreed…
From Crisis to Connection: When Women Abuse Men
In today’s society there are still many relationship roles and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Trust My Husband When He Won’t Stop Hurting Me?
My husband and I have been married for 40 years.…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can Married People Still Be Friends With Their Exes?
This question keeps coming up in a singles Facebook group.…
Going to the Source of the Problem in Overcoming Addiction
Today we continue the conversation with Sam Tielemans about identity…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband says hurtful things and moves on, I can’t
We have been married for 43 years. We will never…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Navigate Online Relationships with Integrity?
I’m currently talking with a gentleman two decades older. We’ve…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Stop Bickering in My Marriage?
My husband and I have different perspectives on just about…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Navigate My Fears About Autism in My Future Children?
I'm engaged to be married to the man of my dreams.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Respond to My Sister’s Accusations of Abuse?
I have recently been knocked sideways by an unexpected interaction…
From Crisis to Connection: Getting to the Source of the Problem
It is human nature to bypass the root of our…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should We Seek Reconciliation Amidst Family Crisis?
My stepson was convicted of molesting his 12-year-old stepdaughter. He…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can My Daughter and I Find Healing After Being Left Behind?
My husband of twenty years has left me and our…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can You Find Happiness in a Marriage Without Romantic Love?
I married my husband because I felt he loved me.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Can We Overcome Differences in Ambition in Marriage?
I grew up with a father who was a successful…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Can I Support My Daughter’s Wedding While Protecting My Emotional Well-Being?
My daughter is getting married in Europe soon. She's expecting…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is It Possible to Find Healing and Joy When Your Spouse Walks Away?
I know he loves me. I know in this moment…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can I pursue personal happiness without neglecting my familial duties?
I finally have the opportunity to move across the country…
From Crisis to Connection: Sexual Healing from Sexual Abuse
The statistics of sexual abuse are staggering. If you haven’t…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Can We Support Our Daughter’s Independence Without Enabling Irresponsibility?
Our daughter in her mid-twenties recently came out as gay…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I respond to being blocked from seeing my grandchildren?
Other than praying, how can we be effective grandparents when…
A Better Way to Approach Sexual Brokenness in Our Churches
Although church is a place for imperfect people to go…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I feel safe after my husband’s affair?
I wonder what would be considered an unreasonable request. My…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I be worried about my adult son’s lack of social skills?
For some time, I’ve wondered if my oldest son may…
Decreasing Chaos in Recovery
With an increase of activities, over-scheduling, and an overall feeling…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with my family pulling away from me?
The past year has been draining and I have started…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I honor my self-absorbed mother?
Everyone thinks she’s the perfect lady but don’t know her…
Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 2)
Moving forward after a betrayal is critical, but when the…
Your Hardest Family Question: Am I overreacting to my boyfriend talking to a former affair partner?
I’m in a committed relationship with a man who admitted…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stay close to my husband when we sleep in different rooms?
How do I deal with having to move out of…
Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 1)
If the betrayer does not disclose the important information to…
Your Hardest Family Question: How soon should I start dating after my spouse’s passing?
I’ve heard about the time frames for refraining from relationships…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get my best friend to forgive me?
My best friend is very upset with me because I…
Your Hardest Family Question: The religious differences in our marriage are getting harder to handle
My husband left the church over 10 years ago and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I get my wife to care about my pain?
I’ve been married a little over two years. At first,…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get closure from my divorce?
My wife and I were married for 24 years then…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my son cope with his dad’s rejection?
My teenage son suffers from anxiety and depression. He has…
Supporting Our Teens with Screens, Social Media, and Mental Health
Our children live in a wonderfully terrifying world of tech…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband lied about who he really is
When I was dating my current husband, I thought he…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I tell my granddaughter she can’t cohabitate at our reunion?
I recently found out that my 26-year-old granddaughter is living…
Moving Forward in the Aftermath of Her Worst Case Scenario
Kim courageously tells her story about confronting the realities of…
Your Hardest Family Question: When Ecclesiastical Support Isn’t Supportive
I’ve talked to many women and I’m hearing the same…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can we heal when my wife blames me for everything?
In my experience, my wife and many of her friends,…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I support my adult children when I don’t like their choices?
I am seeking God’s direction in how to respond with…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why is my daughter-in-law leveraging my grandchildren against me?
My daughter in law is angry with me because I…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I cultivate humility after being betrayed?
How do I practice humility without being a doormat? Is…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m depressed after ending my affair
All affairs are driven by failure of integrity. They are…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t stand my mom’s new husband
I absolutely cannot stand my mom’s new husband. He’s 12…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if my mentally ill husband really loves me?
I have known my husband over 20 years since we…
Practicing Mindfulness in Marital Intimacy
When our sex lives are struggling, we have a tendency…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why is my daughter allowing her abusive ex-husband back into her life?
How do you make sense of a daughter who allows…
Four Phases of Healing from Sexual Betrayal
Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I hold my family together after discovering my husband’s secret life?
My husband and I were married in the temple almost…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I reduce the risk of a workplace affair?
I’m recently divorced for the second time. Both of my…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if my mother really loved me
I was a sad and lonely child in need of…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it normal to need regular reassurance in marriage?
Does a “normal”, or average, person need to be regularly…
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery
After years of struggling to overcome pornography, my guest in…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I respond to my entitled grandchildren?
Several years ago, my then teenage grandson stole property from…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband took a family picture with his ex-wife
My husband recently took pictures with his son and his…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with my socially inappropriate husband?
For the past several years, we've been losing friends and…
From Crisis to Connection: Improve Your Self-awareness
Self-awareness will improve your relationship with yourself and with others.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stop trying to please everyone?
How do I stop trying to please everyone and respond…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I tolerate my loved ones uninformed political beliefs?
How can I stop my negative feelings towards family/friends/acquaintances when…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my mentally ill husband?
My husband is mentally ill and has given up on…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I handle my wife’s attraction to my best friend?
I have a childhood friend and we have been through…
Launching Young Adults Doesn’t Have to Become a Crisis
Many young people experience anxiety, isolation, and depression that can…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why didn’t I properly grieve my daughter’s suicide?
Several years ago, my teenage daughter took her life on…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do help my wife become more physically affectionate?
My wife and I have been married for two years.…
Please Don’t Automatically Assume You’re Broken
If you're a woman and you have a low sex…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my husband feel wanted?
My husband and I seem to keep having the same…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if my husband is abusive?
I have been staying with my daughter for about six…
A Better Way to Discuss Pornography Concerns When Dating
How do you know if it's safe to be in…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get over feeling betrayed by my therapist?
Years ago, when I found out about my husband's secretive…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why do some people have commitment issues?
I know that some people have commitment issues and are…
Settling into the Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma
For this week's episode, I was thrilled to sit down…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I keep buying baby supplies for my grandchildren?
My son has been married about ten years now. My…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I protect my son from his manipulative father?
I am a single mom; my ex-husband and I had…
How Families Can Be a Resource in Addiction Recovery
Family members can both help and harm those recovering from…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I have a relationship with my son when his wife won’t allow it?
My daughter in law is very controlling in every aspect…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I move on from my third failed marriage?
I am 73 years old, and this is my third…
Refusing the Victim Mindset Even When You’ve Been Victimized
In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, I interview…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I celebrate my marriage anniversary while separated?
I want to find out how I can celebrate my…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I detect verbal, mental, and emotional abuse?
There seems to be plenty of training on how to…
Marriage: Feeling Safe in Intimacy
Creating a safe relationship in marital intimacy is difficult for…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we reconcile our different styles of managing stress?
My husband and I just drove in from vacation and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband Brought Drugs Into the House with Our Kids
It’s something he had struggled with, and I assumed he…
How to Stay Optimistic and Motivated After a Recovery Setback
Some call them relapses. Others call them slips. Regardless of…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I let go of my ex-husband when I still feel connected to him?
The divorce was final a year and a half ago,…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m turned off by my husband’s weight gain
What can I do to voice my concerns to him…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I create peace with my critical in-laws?
My in-laws use ecclesiastical means to damage my reputation. For…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why does my husband excel at work but not in our marriage?
At work, he's attentive, task orientated, he sets priorities, he follows…
How Burnout Can Make You Stronger
If you're feeling burned out, you're not alone! We're all…
Your Hardest Family Question: What if I don’t want to hang out with my wife’s brother?
What do I do if I don’t really want to…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we get out of “good cop/bad cop” with our kids?
My husband feels like I give in our children and…
How to Rebuild Trust Once It Has Been Damaged (Part 2)
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My stepdaughter won’t let me see her new baby
We regret doing what we did to our families, butall…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we work with different time management styles in marriage?
How do you address troublesome differences between time management styles…
How to Rebuild Trust Once It Has Been Damaged (Part 1)
What does it take to build trust in our close…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I break a power struggle with my wife?
My wife and I are locked in a power struggle…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my angry and isolated teen daughter?
I wonder if she’s got secret behavior that troubles her. I’ve…
Helping Children Develop Their Own Internal Filters
Emily Jones, co-founder of Family Tech University, joins me to…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m afraid of commitment
I don't know why I'm afraid to be in a…
Your Hardest Family Question: We are struggling to parent our new blended family
My husband has a daughter from his previous marriage who…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I force my daughter to do activities with her dad?
My 14-year-old daughter doesn't want to talk much with her…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t talk to our kids during our marital separation
The kids are staying with me in our home and…
Why Healthy Self-talk Matters in Recovery–Todd Sylvester
Todd Sylvester spent years in the grip of multiple addictions.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I open up communication about religion with my nonmember husband?
I have been struggling with how to separate my beliefs…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it possible to live a healthy life without a healthy marriage?
My husband has been unfaithful multiple times in serious and…
A Mindful Way to Address Addiction and Trauma
On this week's From Crisis to Connection podcast, I had…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we get out of “good cop/bad cop” with our kids?
I feel like my husband and I are playing “good…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s anger is making me physically ill
My husband is emotionally distant and gets very defensive about…
From Dark to Light: One man’s recovery from pornography and lust
After 30 years of addiction to pornography and lust, Thomas…
Your Hardest Family Question: I just found out my boyfriend is still married
I've been dating a guy for almost two years and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with my romantic infatuation for a work colleague?
I am completely, head-over-heels infatuated with a woman on my…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I cut off contact with an unfaithful friend without making a scene?
I recently discovered my wife of twenty plus years was…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why does my husband’s family keep punishing him for marrying me?
I have been married to my husband for almost ten…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I face the pain of miscarriage?
I was barely six weeks pregnant when I started bleeding.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I re-engage with my son who won’t speak to me?
Recently one of the sons has pulled away from phone…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I help my depressed husband get help?
I’m exhausted and at my wits end as to what…
Your Hardest Family Question: What’s the difference between being humble and allowing someone to walk all over me?
I’ve been told that I need to be more humble…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is more loyal to his long-time lady friend than he is to me
In the beginning of our marriage, she started calling within…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I teach my kids to communicate in a technologically saturated world?
How can I help my children learn to communicate with…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I forgive myself for failing my daughter?
I filed for divorce a year ago after years and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get my husband out of his sedentary lifestyle?
We have two beautiful little children who are dying to…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with my “prepper” parents who think I’m unprepared?
How do you deal with family members who treat anyone…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get over my deceased husband’s affair?
I lost my husband in June 2021. I think I'm…
Your Hardest Family Question: What are the risks of marrying a hoarder?
I am in a committed relationship with a man I…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I know if I’m having inappropriate feelings for my bishop?
There's a neighbor who's my bishop and has influenced me…
Setting Boundaries With Family During the Holidays – Geoff & Jody Steurer
The Holidays are upon us and that means family and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has an insatiable need for intimacy
My husband feels like his needs are never met. His…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I protect our children from the unhealthy influence of their older sister?
We are terrified of the effect she will have on…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I reveal another person’s affair to his wife?
One of my best friends is dating and recently went…
From Crisis to Connection: Improve Your Life by Choosing Faith over Fear
Join me as I chat with best selling author, world-renowned…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get my husband to engage with me?
I have a relationship where my husband is either on…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I teach my kids that their father’s behavior is wrong?
I discovered my husband had been having a relationship outside…
A Club at BYU For Those Struggling to Overcome Pornography Addiction
One of the biggest factors in healing from an addiction…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stop my attraction to my brother-in-law?
I've been married to my husband for seven years. In…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife’s childhood issues cause her to mistrust me
My wife was abused as a child by her brothers…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stop my parents from controlling my life?
My parents both went to Brigham Young University and when…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with feeling threatened by my husband’s newly discovered daughter?
My husband recently found out he had a 47-year-old daughter…
From Crisis to Connection: Building Trust with Our Children to Increase our Influence
If we want our children to learn from us, they…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m burned out watching my widowed brother-in-law’s kids
My brother-in-law takes many trips, sometimes for work but mostly…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I choose between saving my grandchildren or saving my sanity?
I have a 38-year-old daughter who is a functional alcoholic.…
Protecting Your Marriage in a Faith Crisis (Part 2)
This is the continuation of my interview with therapist and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we not offend each other when we’re so stressed out?
My husband and I love and respect each other, but…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I help my children stop fighting and genuinely care about each other?
I have three of eight children left at home, and…
Protecting Your Marriage in a Faith Crisis
In this episode, I'm joined by therapist and fellow podcaster,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is using his PTSD as an excuse for bad behavior
My husband was diagnosed with PTSD years ago and now…
Your Hardest Family Question: Even though I hurt my wife, don’t my needs still matter?
I’m feeling overwhelmed as I try to rebuild my marriage…
From Crisis to Connection: Creating an Intentional Life
What can someone who appears to have "arrived" teach us…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I confront my dad about his rudeness to my mom?
My father has a habit of saying hurtful things about…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why do I feel guilty for not wanting to be labeled as an “addict”?
How do I deal with the guilt I’m feeling as…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I rush into trusting my husband again?
My husband has betrayed me in countless ways over the…
From Crisis to Connection: Balancing Independence and Dependence
Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to stay with…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know when enough is enough in my abusive marriage?
How do I know when it is okay to walk…
From Crisis to Connection: Creating Space for Your Emotions
In this episode, we discuss why emotions matter to our…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why do strong emotions overwhelm my peace?
My family is going through a difficult trial right now…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get over jealousy of my husband’s ex-wife’s beauty?
My husband's first wife was and still is a beautiful…
Should We Have Empathy for Those Who Betray Us?
In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, I interview…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my son break his attraction to fictional characters?
It’s kind of a strange thing to get help with,…
From Crisis to Connection: Trusting Yourself After Betrayal
Guest Melissa Ruff discusses rebuilding trust and how to develop…
Your Hardest Family Question: How should I respond to the angry wife from my affair with her husband?
I had an affair on my husband, but we have…
Reclaiming Your Sexuality with Guest Dr. Finlayson-Fife
This is a confusing topic for those who have sexually…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Move on From a False Accusation of Child Sexual Abuse?
I am really struggling with being resentful against my wife…
From Crisis to Connection: How to Become More Honest in Our Dealings with Others Part 2
Dr. Mattheson shares specific skills we can practice and teach…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with an adult son who suddenly disowned me?
It’s been four years since he cut off contact and…
From Crisis to Connection: How to Become More Honest in Our Dealings with Others
In this episode, I interview Dr. Mark Matheson on the…
Your Hardest Family Question: Have I invested too much in this relationship to just walk away?
I need some direction. I lost my husband nine years…
From Crisis to Connection: Breaking the Silence Around Shameful Struggles
In this episode, I'm joined by Creed and Crishelle, both…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with husband abuse?
I’m an enormous mountain of good with a few bad…
How a Group of Young Adults are Changing the Conversation around Sex and Shame
Vauna Davis is my guest today on the From Crisis…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should my husband have a relationship with his ex-fiancée’s daughter?
My husband had a fiancée from almost 20 years ago…
Ministering to the Those Who Struggle with Mental Health: A Virtual Conference
The Mentally Healthy Saints Virtual Summit begins May 18 and…
From Crisis to Connection: How One Couple’s Recovery is Helping Thousands
Rhyll and Steven share the mission behind the SA Lifeline…
Your Hardest Family Question: How I do get over triggers from my husband’s affair?
I am still struggling with my husband’s emotional affair from…
From Crisis to Connection: Living in Longterm Addiction Recovery
I'm joined today by Rhyll and Steven Croshaw, founders of…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’ve somehow convinced myself I don’t love my husband anymore
I have the most loving husband who is an excellent…
From Crisis to Connection: Ashlee’s Story of Recovery from Pornography
Ashlee has struggled with pornography since she was 11 years…
Your Hardest Family Question: Do I have to spend time around my daughter’s affair partner?
I am the father of a 29-year-old daughter, who, less…
Illuminate Podcast: Why Disclosure is Essential to the Process of Healing from Pornography Addiction (Part 2)
Disclosure is such a delicate topic, it's such a difficult…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my daughter get out of toxic relationships?
I have a 22-year-old daughter that at the age of…
Illuminate Podcast: A Guide to Therapeutic Disclosure for Couples Trying to Heal from Sexual Betrayal
When someone comes forward with the truth or gets caught,…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I make sure my teenage sons don’t turn out like my ex-husband?
After spending years in a marriage where I experienced betrayal…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I help our outspoken gay son be respectful to our family?
As the years go by our son has become very…
LISTEN: Transforming Fear and Conflict in Your Relationships
In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, I interview…
Your Hardest Family Question: What should I do with family pictures now that I’m divorced?
My wife and I ended our 12-year marriage a few…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband ignores our granddaughters in favor of our grandsons
What can I say to my girls, to help them…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much verbal and physical abuse should I put up with from my wife?
I know I bring my own problems to this marriage.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my husband be more considerate in our sexual intimacy?
I am finding it difficult to communicate what I want…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much is too much sacrifice in marriage?
I just feel I’m trapped in a marriage where I’m…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I be jealous of my husband’s relationship with his sister?
My husband and his brother were small children when their…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we heal after our daughter’s suicide?
My husband's daughter took her life even though her dad…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I give up on trying to interest my husband in sexual intimacy?
My husband and I are both over 70 now and…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I marry a guy who thinks gay people aren’t normal?
He is stern on the fact that we will bring…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I know if my son has a pornography addiction?
Our young teen boys have locked phones but one of…
Illuminate Podcast: Confronting Abuse in Marriage
In this episode I interview Kimberly Day, LMHCA, about how…
Your Hardest Family Question: How I start a new relationship when I miss my ex-wife and kids?
My wife divorced me last year after I worked hard…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I take back my husband who abandoned me for six months?
My husband of 26 years left me right before COVID…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I get my husband to help me with our five children?
We have five small children, and I am a stay-at-home…
Illuminate Podcast: The Challenge of Enjoyment in the Age of Addiction
In this episode, I interview author and psychologist, Dr. Mark…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do you convince someone that you really care about them?
My granddaughter-in-law’s mother has multiple sclerosis and is fairly home…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can our son thrive in a marriage with a disabled wife?
Our son’s last visit home was filled with despair. His…
Illuminate Podcast: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity
Dr. Mark Chamberlain and I co-authored the book, "Love You,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should we help our niece get out of her unhealthy home environment?
Recently an extended family member reached out to me. She…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is a narcissist and won’t get help
My husband was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder three years…
Illuminate Podcast: Compassion in Marriage After Betrayal with Dr. Wally Goddard
Betrayed partners are understandably terrified to offer forgiveness and compassion…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can I ever feel happiness and love again after divorce?
It has taken me over three years of deep grief…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m not allowed to visit my severely disabled daughter because of COVID
She doesn't understand why I don't come anymore or anything…
Illuminate Podcast: Your Blueprint for Happiness with Dr. Wally Goddard
I join my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Wally Goddard,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I give up on my recent marriage?
My husband and I just got married seven months ago.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I quit checking out other women?
I am working very hard to recover from an addiction…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I celebrate our anniversary when we’re separated?
My ten-year wedding anniversary is coming up very soon, but…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I convince my boyfriend I’m not his abusive ex-wife?
I'm dating a man who was left by his wife.…
Illuminate Podcast: Protecting Yourself in a Relationship When There Has Been Betrayal
Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is fighting me about wearing a mask in her home
I have been wearing a mask to help keep the…
Your Hardest Family Question: Did we emotionally mess up our daughter?
My oldest daughter (now in her mid-twenties) has always been…
Illuminate Podcast: Practicing Self-care When You’ve Experienced Betrayal Trauma
Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m married to a man who can’t emotionally connect with me
I'm married to a man who can't emotionally connect with…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m tired of caring for my stepdaughter
My partner and I have a daughter that is almost…
Illuminate Podcast: Discover and Use Your Voice
Both men and women have the desire to be heard…
Your Hardest Family Question: My best friend had an affair with my wife and still wants to be friends
Recently, I caught my wife cheating on me with a…
Your Hardest Family Question: I just discovered my biological father is alive
I grew up four decades plus with little or no…
Illuminate Podcast: 20 Keys to a Healthy Intimate Life (Part 2)
Join me as I continue my interview with certified sex…
Your Hardest Family Question: I caught my young daughter reading a trashy novel
I just found out (20 minutes ago) my 11-year-old has…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband doesn’t seem to care about my health concerns
Several months ago, I had a pulmonary embolism and thankfully…
Illuminate Podcast: 20 Keys to a Healthy Intimate Life
Join me as I interview Laura Brotherson, licensed marriage and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is shutting down sexually
My wife and I have been married for 25 years…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband keeps revealing new details of his old affair
I have been married for 23 years and during the…
Illuminate Podcast: How to improve your body image
Amy Harman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, shares some practical…
Your Hardest Family Question: My fiancé won’t meet with her bishop to repent for sexual sins
This girl and I are very interested in each other.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband treats me like I’m an idiot in front of others
My husband and I have been married for 26 years…
Illuminate Podcast: Making Peace with Your Body in an Image-Obsessed Culture
In this week's episode, I interview Amy Harman, LMFT about…
Your Hardest Family Question: What is the difference between helping and being used?
Our neighbor drives old cars and calls us whenever he…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I expect to know my husband’s phone code?
After 25 years of marriage, my husband put a code…
Illuminate Podcast: Peaceful co-parenting after divorce
This week, I continue my interview with Jessica, Matt, and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband discovered he has a 32-year-old son and I have so many questions
Will I be wrong by asking the mother of his…
Your Hardest Family Question: Am I obligated to financially support my irresponsible aging father?
I want to honor my father. I want to obey…
Illuminate Podcast: Creating a healthy post-divorce relationship with your Ex
Steve and Jessica were happily married for seven years until…
Your Hardest Family Question: How often should I be sexually intimate when I don’t feel like it?
I have been married to the most patient, kind, loving,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is dying and I’m a mess
My 74-year-old wife has recently been diagnosed with cancer that…
Illuminate Podcast: The Problem with Idealizing Motherhood and Glorifying Self-neglect
In this episode, I interview Dr. Julie Hanks, Licensed Clinical…
Your Hardest Family Question: I am horrified by my son’s scars from cutting himself
Our son is a recently returned missionary, and we learned…
Your Hardest Family Question: I don’t feel happy when my son is around
I have a young adult son, still at home, that…
Illuminate Podcast: Assertiveness for Betrayed Women
In this episode I interview Dr. Julie Hanks, Licensed Clinical…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can we get out of this “feast and famine” pattern in our marriage?
Our relationship seems to always be feast or famine. We’ve…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it wrong to dance with my ex-husband at our son’s wedding?
I still love my ex-husband very much after 24 years…
Illuminate Podcast: When missionaries struggle with pornography
These missionaries aren't immune to the temptations and struggles of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My alcoholic son refuses to honor our rules
Our son is having financial issues. He can work from…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sister-in-law is possessive of my husband
My husband’s older sister was widowed two years ago. She…
Illuminate Podcast: Moving Toward Healing After Abandonment
Gaelyn Rae Emerson joins me to talk about the impact…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex wants me to comfort him after a family death
My ex-boyfriend and I have dated for almost two years…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we help our daughter see she’s dating the wrong guy?
My husband and I are devastated and just don’t know…
Illuminate Podcast: Staying Resilient When Your Husband Relapses
The uncertainty of a potential relapse often leaves betrayed women…
Your Hardest Family Question: I don’t believe I’m special to my wife
I just barely found out that my wife had been…
Help for Distressed Couples in Quarantine
Sheltering in place is tough for most people, but it's…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if I should marry this woman?
How should I be feeling when looking into the potential…
Illuminate Podcast: Why you should share your addiction recovery story (and how)
Building an authentic community around those struggling with pornography addiction…
Your Hardest Family Question: I feel like I’m only a paycheck to my wife
We are both covenant-keeping members of the church and are…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I have a good marriage when my husband has Asperger’s Syndrome?
My husband is on the autism spectrum. He is highly…
Staying Emotionally Healthy During a Pandemic
How do we stay emotionally healthy in the midst of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My stepdaughter went behind my back to reunite my dying husband and his ex
I had to leave home for a brief time because…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I protect myself from my narcissistic husband and still live the gospel?
I would like to try to continue to live with…
Illuminate Podcast: Couples Share Their Stories of Addiction Recovery
Kayla had no idea when getting married to Steven that…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter won’t accept my health advice
Our fifth child is in her early thirties and living…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m worried my husband isn’t attracted to me anymore
I walked in on my husband looking at pornography. I…
Illuminate Podcast: Being Sensitive to Women Who Struggle with Pornography
In this episode, I interview Alice Taylor, author of, "Restored:…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I have to share my space with adult children?
My boyfriend lives in Canada and has two adult daughters…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I support my daughter’s relationship when I disagree with it?
We have a daughter who is getting serious with a…
Illuminate Podcast: Women Who Struggle with Pornography
In this episode I interview Alice Taylor, author of, "Restored:…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much financial help do I give my irresponsible ex-wife?
I'm not in a financial position to take care of…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I prevent my kids from becoming addicts?
I’m in recovery from an addiction that started when I…
Illuminate Podcast: Wendy Ulrich on Forgiving Ourselves
In this episode, I interview Dr. Wendy Ulrich, author and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband tells me my body is repulsive
When our fifth child was only three months old, my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sisters have cut me out of their lives
Since the death of our mother last year, the relationship…
Illuminate Podcast: Wendy Ulrich on Forgiving Those Who Betray Us
In this episode, I interview Dr. Wendy Ulrich, author and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My son-in-law doesn’t want to spend time with our family
Since my daughter got married four years ago, they have…
Your Hardest Family Question: My in-laws have blocked me on social media
My in-laws have blocked me on social media. They blocked…
Illuminate Podcast: Responding effectively to abused children
In this episode, I continue my discussion with Jessica Mockett,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it possible to overcome lust?
I am a recovering addict, but I seem to never…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I be kind to my son’s ex-wife?
My son is divorced and currently lives with us. He…
Illuminate Podcast: Protecting Children from Sexual Abuse
Pornography isn't a victimless pastime, especially when considering the role…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband sold my pain pills
My husband has a drug addiction. I thought he was…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I change the role I play in our marriage?
My husband and I have been married for seven years…
Illuminate Podcast: How to Avoid a Victim Mindset
When we're abused or rejected, it's easy to form a…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I reach out to my husband’s affair partner?
My husband and I are working on renewing our marriage…
Illuminate Podcast: Healing from Neglect, Rejection, Betrayal, and Abuse
If you've ever been betrayed, rejected, abandoned, or betrayed as…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t say “no” to our toddler
My husband and I have a 3-year-old. The issue is…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I schedule kid visits with my unpredictable in-laws?
So, we are at that time of year again of…
Illuminate Podcast: What Every Leader Needs to Know About Pornography
What are the most important things we should know when…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife controls the music I listen to
My wife and I really enjoy music together but she…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband still takes family pictures with his ex-wife
Even though his youngest is 23 years old, his ex-wife…
Illuminate Podcast: On Toxic Give and Take in Relationships
In this episode, we discuss: the differences between givers and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t pray or read scriptures with me
I don’t understand why he is so begrudging and hesitant…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I get my sister-in-law to move out of our home?
She's messy, rude, manipulative, and vindictive. She also uses the…
Illuminate Podcast: How Mindfulness Can Help in Addiction and Betrayal Trauma Recovery
In this episode, I interview Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend
My husband was recently hospitalized and I came across an…
Your Hardest Family Question: I think my husband has a crush on our son’s friend
I have a friend of my son living with us…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do you cope with a betrayal discovered after someone dies?
Soon after my father-in-law's death, my mother-in-law was going through…
Illuminate Podcast: How Betrayal Trauma Affects Women’s Spiritual Lives
Geoff Steurer interviews Dr. Carmel White, a researcher and author,…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I best support my disabled son without offending his wife?
I have an adult son with a disability. He is…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I tell my children about their half-sibling they’ve never met?
In 1980, I was raped and became pregnant. I placed…
What Betrayed Women Need Everyone to Know
In this episode of the Illuminate Podcast, I interview Dr.…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I get rid of my ex-wife’s pictures on my phone?
In a scenario where a man and woman are married,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I pursue back child support and alimony?
My divorce was over 27 years ago. My ex-husband paid…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our newlywed daughter can’t let go of us
Our beautiful daughter was recently married to a remarkable young…
Your Hardest Family Question: My new wife lied about her past
I am in my sixties and I recently married a…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I keep trying to communicate with my absentee husband?
My spouse of almost four years moved out a couple…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our teenage son’s future plans make us nervous
We have an 18-year-old son who recently graduated from high…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I protect myself when my husband threatens divorce?
My husband is on the fence about divorce. It seems…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why does my wife get upset when I compliment her body?
My wife hates it when I compliment her body. I…
Your Hardest Family Question: Have I done enough for my son before he leaves home?
My oldest just turned 15 and I’m starting to worry…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I deal with my husband’s constant lies?
My husband isn’t a member of the Church and drinks…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why does my husband require constant attention from others?
My husband requires constant attention from others. If I get…
Your Hardest Family Question: My special needs grandchildren are burning me out
I am raising three grandchildren. They have lots of issues,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Does physical attraction matter in romantic relationships?
I met a girl recently in my apartment complex and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s mental illness is causing me to break down
I have been married for 25 years. It's been a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband keeps leaving and then returning to our marriage
My husband left, saying he was unhappy. He said he…
Illuminate Podcast: Six Guideposts of True Healing from Pornography Addiction
How does someone prove that they're truly healing from a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband insists on watching trashy shows
I'm having a hard time knowing what to think and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I celebrate our anniversary when we’re separated?
I’m separated from my wife because I had an affair,…
Illuminate Podcast: Practice Exercises for Healing from Trauma
In this episode I continue my interview with Katy Willis…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I attract a healthy man?
"I experienced horrible verbal and a little physical abuse from…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stop going back to my manipulative husband?
My husband has separated from me multiple times and continues…
Illuminate Podcast: Healing the Body from the Trauma of Betrayal
In this episode, I interview Katy Willis and discuss how…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother is controlling me
My mother has worked very hard my whole life to…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I know if I’m shaming my husband?
My husband is really defensive and tells me I'm shaming…
Illuminate Podcast: Determining the Place for Couples Therapy During Addiction Recovery
The discovery of pornography and other sexual secrets is a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t protect me from his abusive son
I love my husband deeply but his oldest son is…
Your Hardest Family Question: If I lower expectations in my marriage, is there hope that things can still improve?
I'm struggling with understanding the difference between hope and expectation.…
Illuminate Podcast: Using Mindfulness in Addiction Recovery
In the latest episode of the Illuminate Podcast, Taylor Chambers,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why are betrayed women’s sexual needs often minimized?
I’m just frustrated with the strong theme that addicted men…
Your Hardest Family Question: When does flirting cross the line?
My husband has a twenty-something female co-worker who happens to…
Illuminate Podcast: Helping Families Cultivate Resilience to Pornography
In this interview, Taylor Chambers, licensed marriage and family therapist,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is there such thing as a seasonal pattern for cheating?
It seems like every spring, around the month of April,…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t feel God’s love after enduring years of abuse
I experienced abuse and neglect in my childhood. Once I…
Illuminate Podcast: Developing Sexual Wholeness in Marriage During Addiction Recovery
This week, I interview Michelle Linford, the founder and administrator…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our daughter-in-law won’t allow us to speak to our grandchildren
I have heard about children cutting off communication with their…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband committed suicide and my children are struggling
I divorced a few years ago and then remarried about…
Illuminate Podcast: The Role of Group Therapy in Overcoming Pornography Addiction
This episode features an interview with Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP…
Your Hardest Family Question: My young stepson is behaving like his unhealthy father
I recently got married and have been put in a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife has filed for divorce, but I don’t want to give up on us
My wife filed for divorce last week. For the past…
Illuminate Podcast: The Importance of Self-Care on the Path of Addiction Recovery
This week, I interview Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP about how…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I know if my daughter is manipulating me?
I have a 11 year-old daughter who is pretty emotional…
Your Hardest Family Question: My inactive husband has given up on our temple sealing
My second husband, to whom I am sealed, has given…
Illuminate Podcast: Improving “The Talk”, Addressing Sex without the Shame
Our kids are tired of the same "porn is bad"…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is obsessed with women in our ward
I have been married for 25 years. A little over…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it healthy to schedule marital sexual intimacy?
My wife really struggles to care about and enjoy sexual…
Illuminate Podcast: A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex
The ways we've attempted talking to our kids about sex…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mentally ill wife left us and now wants to return home
I feel pain for her pain, but I'm not sure…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I share my concerns without shaming my husband?
Prior to marriage, I was aware that my husband had…
Illuminate Podcast: A Renowned Neurosurgeon Discusses Pornography’s Impact on the Brain
Dr. Don Hilton, a world-renowned neurosurgeon and expert on the…
Your Hardest Family Question: My rude mother-in-law wants to stay with us for Christmas
My mother-in-law is a difficult person and has been very…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband just walked out on me and I’m in shock
My stomach is tied in knots and I feel in…
Illuminate Podcast: Respectfully Addressing Pornography in a Dating Relationship
In this episode, Geoff Steurer and Vauna Davis discuss how…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I honor my abusive mother?
Can you help me know how I can “honor” an…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sister’s husband came out as gay and is leaving her
For nearly 40 years, my sister has been married to…
Illuminate Podcast: Offering Immediate Support to Those Who Struggle with Pornography
In this episode, I interview Vauna Davis, the founder and…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I tell my family about my husband’s affair?
My husband cheated on me one year ago and we’ve…
Your Hardest Family Question: I have a lonely marriage and it’s hard to be around happy couples
When I see very connected couples, I feel profoundly sad,…
Illuminate Podcast: Healing is Possible Even if the Marriage Ends
I return with a second interview with Roxanne Kennedy, author…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t ask his adult daughter to move out and be independent
An older couple, my husband and I have been married…
Your Hardest Family Question: I betrayed one of my ministering families and they won’t talk to me
I am an active member of the Church and have…
Illuminate Podcast: When an Addicted Spouse Gives Up on Recovery
Many couples who work through recovery from sexual addiction, pornography…
Your Hardest Family Question: My best friend broke my confidence and spread gossip
I recently learned that my best friend shared some deeply…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t quit fantasizing about an old high school boyfriend
Many years ago, when I was way too young, I…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife of less than a year is already done with me
Recently my wife told me to pack up and leave…
Illuminate Podcast: The Reality of Longterm Recovery from Addiction
In this episode, Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews Brandon and…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m married and can’t stop flirting with other women
I’m 75 years old, married, and I want to learn…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife and I don’t have anything in common
My wife and I didn’t have a lot in common…
Illuminate Podcast: What Media Messages are Sticking to Our Children
Media is all about messages. Every post, every commercial, every…
Your Hardest Family Question: I have regrets about divorcing and remarrying
The Spirit confirmed that my first husband was the one…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I best support my sister leaving an abusive marriage?
My sister is leaving her emotionally abusive twenty-plus year marriage.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I stop seeing my husband as a disappointment?
I still love him very much and want our marriage…
Illuminate Podcast: How to Teach Children to Make Good Media Decisions
We live in an image-based culture and even though we…
Your Hardest Family Question: My fiancé wants to hide me from his children and grandchildren
I've been told by my future fiancé that he never…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I reassure my husband I feel remorseful about my affair?
I had an affair for eight months and after my…
Illuminate Podcast: How to Get Rid of Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms
In this episode, I continue my interview with Amy Cluff…
Your Hardest Family Question: Am I being too emotionally sensitive?
I’m a highly sensitive person and I know that I…
Your Hardest Family Question: Do all men struggle with self-control?
Every man in my life has betrayed me. My dad,…
Illuminate Podcast: Why Self-Care is Crucial in Addiction Recovery
Self-care is a critical component of healthy recovery from betrayal…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s sister expects him to take care of her
My sister-in-law discounts other people's opinions, especially mine, and lauds…
Your Hardest Family Question: Am I doing the right thing by evicting my ex-daughter-in-law?
Am I doing what Christ would do or am I…
Illuminate Podcast: Am I Responsible for My Husband’s Addiction?
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT finishes his interview with Dr. Adam…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother wants me to take care of her, but won’t care for herself
How can I show love and support to someone who…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is suddenly done with our marriage
I’ve been married to my husband for 24 years. He’s…
Illuminate Podcast: Is Everyone Who Looks at Pornography an Addict?
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT and co-director of LifeStar of St.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband is emotionally unavailable to our children
While my children were growing up I was able to…
Your Hardest Family Question: Do I need to reveal my pre-marital sexual past to my husband?
I grew up in the Church and never imagined myself…
Illuminate Podcast: How Church Leaders Can Help Those Who Struggle with Porn
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT continues his interview with CEO and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s parents expect him to take care of them financially
My in-laws think that my husband should buy them a…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t stand the way my in-laws talk to my son
My husband’s parents speak really rudely and sharply to our…
Illuminate Podcast: Interview with the co-founder of ‘Fight the New Drug’
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews CEO and co-founder of Fight…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband stopped giving me gifts for special occasions
I know it seems selfish of me, as it really…
Illuminate Podcast: Protecting Your Child’s Mind When They’ve Seen Something Explicit
This is part 2 of my interview with Kristen Jenson,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband rejects our children and everything he taught them
A little over five years ago, I found out that…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I care for my mentally ill husband?
When you’re married to someone who has a serious mental…
Illuminate Podcast: How to Protect Your Children from Online Dangers
Geoff Steurer interviews author, speaker, and founder of Protect Young…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband insults me in public
I have been married for almost five years. For the…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I give long-distance support to my son and his children during his divorce?
My son and his wife of 14 years have filed…
Illuminate Podcast: How “Letting the Past Go” is a Process Not an Event
Geoff Steurer continues his interview with Jeff Ford, licensed marriage…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter tells me I’m acting like a martyr
I am in the middle of a separation from my…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much should I advocate for myself when my ex-husband spreads lies about me?
Over 10 years ago I went through a divorce. Though…
Illuminate Podcast: Who Needs to Know About My Addiction?
In this latest episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Jeff Ford, licensed…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m uncomfortable with how my wife is parenting our children
My wife and I have very different philosophies for raising…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s former fling is now hanging out with my sister-in-law
Recently I discovered via social media my sister-in-law has been…
Illuminate Podcast: When You’re Not Finding Hope in Isolation
Michelle's online volunteer work took an unexpected turn in late…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I support my gay son without agreeing with his lifestyle?
We have a 34-year-old son who is gay and is…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I control my thoughts during intimacy with my husband?
I used to struggle with an addiction to pornography that…
Illuminate Podcast: Lessons from a Betrayal Trauma Support Group for LDS Women
In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Michelle Linford, the founder…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is addicted to his smartphone
My husband is addicted to his iPhone. Really. Within less…
Your Hardest Family Question: Sometimes I think I married the wrong man
I know that I do love him in some ways,…
Illuminate Podcast: What a Betrayed Woman Can Do Now to Begin Her Recovery
In this episode, Geoff Steurer shares the second part of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband tells me I’m not fit to be a mother
He tells me I'm not qualified to raise our child…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife’s past bothers me
Currently, I deal with some (PTSD) from past life threatening…
Illuminate Podcast: How to Heal When You’ve Been Betrayed
In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Jaylynn, a woman who…
Your Hardest Family Question: My father-in-law makes me uncomfortable around my daughter
I don’t think he’s been inappropriate with her, but I’m…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sister is a danger to my family
I have tried to speak to my parents about my…
Illuminate Podcast: Why You Can’t Defeat Addiction Alone
In today’s Illuminate podcast, Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT and co-director…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much should I tell my teenagers about our marital struggles?
When my husband and I are fighting or there is…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband suddenly won’t work on our marriage
After our last argument, he said one of us had…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has no motivation to improve his life
My husband of 18 years has slowly become more and…
Illuminate Podcast: The Double Life of a Mormon Addict
What does individual recovery from pornography addiction involve? In this…
Your Hardest Family Question: I slapped my husband and now he’s done with the marriage
My husband and I had a bad fight six weeks…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband pressured our adult children to keep secrets from me
I have been divorced for five years, but have never…
Illuminate Podcast: The Process of Longterm Recovery from Pornography Addiction
How can someone stay consistent and committed to recovery and…
Your Hardest Family Question: Does my 12 year-old need to see the bishop or a counselor for pornography issues?
I discovered that my 12 year-old son has been searching…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m burned out caring for my elderly mother
I am in my 50s, partially disabled, single, and the second youngest of…
Your Hardest Family Question: I keep having flashbacks about my husband’s affair
I caught my husband in an affair a year ago…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife has a crush on another man
My wife of 25 years has a serious crush on…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife kicked me out of the house
My wife told me she is unhappy and I need…
Your Hardest Family Question: I feel abandoned by my leaders and ward members
When will I be noticed as a faithful member of…
Conference on Pornography to be Held in St. George Saturday
The Utah Coalition Against Pornography (UCAP) is proud to sponsor…
Your Hardest Family Question: I don’t like how my extended family corrects my son
I love my extended family and we’re all pretty close…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I ask my adult kids to help buy groceries for Thanksgiving?
My husband and I share a large blended family of…
New Podcast Shines Light on the Darkness of Pornography
Talking about pornography makes most Latter-day Saints cringe. It’s dirty.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My home teacher is a registered sex offender
I am a single female. For the past year, I…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s driving terrifies me
My husband thinks I am a big baby when I…
How Do We Respond to the Las Vegas Mass Shooting?
The aftermath of a mass shooting can leave all of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t let go of a female friend
About 5 years ago I discovered an online chat between…
Your Hardest Family Question: My son-in-law embarrasses our daughter and grandchildren
I have a son-in-law who is a great father and…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should we have a say in naming our grandson?
My son and his wife will deliver our first grandson…
Your Hardest Family Question: I discovered my grandfather’s double life
I was very close to my grandma who passed away…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sister is preventing me from talking to her son
In the past few visits we’ve had, my sister has…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it okay to talk with other people about my marriage problems?
When we got married, we got advice that we shouldn't…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it possible to blend an extended family with people I don’t trust?
I’ve directly asked my sister-in-law to stop her inappropriate advances…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mom told me something horrible about one of my siblings
My mom has never been a stable mother and is…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m haunted by the memory of my fiancé’s former crush
They started out as friends and then she confessed her…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife has schizophrenia and won’t get help
My wife came from a broken home and was diagnosed…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I desire affection again from my husband?
My husband and I have been married for 35 years. For…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is asking me to do all the changing in the marriage
I have made several changes in order to make this…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should we warn our son’s fiancé?
We have an adult son who has serious emotional and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My adoptive son’s enthusiasm for his birth family is hurtful to us
I am an adoptive mom. My husband and I have…
Your Hardest Family Question: My adult children don’t want my homeless ex-con son to live in my home
My 38 year-old son has been homeless for 7-8 years,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Which is more important? Being in love or loving someone?
I'm in a relationship right now. This woman was married…
How to Approach this Incredibly Sensitive Topic With Your Kids
As you teach your children to abstain from masturbation, you…
Your Hardest Family Question: Am I enabling my daughter by providing daycare for her son?
Three years ago my daughter had a baby out of…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it wrong to date a married man who is separated from his wife?
I’m dating a married guy who has been separated from…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is a hoarder and I want to throw everything out
We added a huge room onto our bedroom to serve…
Your Hardest Family Question: Do I have a right to protect my friend’s privacy from my wife?
I have two best friends who are currently having affairs…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is asking tough questions about our impending divorce
A letter from my daughter: “So there are lots of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband wants to take our intimacy in a direction that makes me uncomfortable
We’ve been married for 14 years and I feel like…
Your Hardest Family Question: My New Husband Expects Me to Mother his Children and Grandchildren
I don’t see my new husband making any real efforts…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it too late to bring up my feelings about my wife’s affair?
My wife had an affair years ago and I’m now…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our single daughter is living with a married man
Our daughter has been living with a married man for…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband and I have completely different parenting approaches
My ex-husband I are now two separate parents with totally…
Your Hardest Family Question: What parenting advice should we follow?
My husband and I are the brand new parents of…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is controlling my friendships
I have a friend I don't see too often, and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How long should I financially bail out my ex-wife?
I not only pay my ex-wife child support and alimony,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I stay away from my ex-husband’s family?
I’ve been divorced from my husband for the past two…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has left us financially unprepared for retirement
When I married my husband almost 30 years ago, I…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m struggling to date after the death of my spouse
I am a widow. I was married for 20 years…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I listen to my friend’s marriage issues without getting emotionally invested?
I'm noticing that as I listen to and help my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My new husband ignores me when his kids visit
My frustration is not necessarily the kids, but what happens…
Your Hardest Family Question: My fear of rejection has pushed my fiancé away
As in all relationships, we had our "honeymoon phase". This…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife gets angry with me after she has a bad dream
My wife occasionally has vivid dreams that disturb her after…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has left the Church and continues to break my heart
Almost a year ago on Valentine's Day, my husband gifted…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can a small lie create so much damage in my marriage?
My husband and I have had a stressful marriage and…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I block my mother from my children?
My mother is a schoolteacher and during the summers she…
Your Hardest Family Question: My family won’t apologize to each other
I’m pretty close to my siblings, but when something happens…
Your Hardest Family Question: My new husband isn’t interested in sexual intimacy
After months of marriage, my husband and I have not…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m worried my wife is done with me
My wife and I have had our share of marriage…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I send Christmas cards to my ex-husband’s rude family?
I feel an obligation to keep them in the loop,…
Your Hardest Family Question: I feel caught in the middle between my adult children
I have several grown children and many grandchildren I visit…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is too familiar with his ex-wife
I'm writing to you today about my husband’s ex-wife. They…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I stay out of my friend’s marital problems?
I contacted an old friend recently to see how he…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s touch makes me cringe
My husband will often touch me in intimate ways both…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is my son justified in ending his marriage?
Our son got a girl pregnant when he was 18…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can you unite adult children in a second marriage?
How do you bring together two sets of adult children…
Your Hardest Family Question: When does the honeymoon phase of marriage end?
We have both strived for our whole lives to find…
Your Hardest Family Question: What if he wasn’t the right choice from the beginning?
Our almost 30 year-old daughter married several months ago after…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I just accept my loveless marriage?
My husband and I are in our early 60’s and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I talk to my children about their abusive father?
My husband and I are in the process of a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s new hobbies started during his affair
My husband and I have been married for twenty years…
Your Hardest Family Question: Why do I still want to date my ex-fiancé?
I'm having a serious struggle with my now ex-fiancé. I…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife looked up her ex-boyfriends online
I noticed that my wife was searching for old friends…
Your Hardest Family Question: How loyal should we be to our friends?
We never expected our friends to do these elaborate things…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s sisters haven’t talked to him in 30 years
My husband's sisters have rejected our family because of something…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can two people be friends after they have an affair?
I have a difficult dilemma. About a year ago my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband wants a divorce because of our cultural differences
My husband recently told me he was tired of leading…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I let myself feel love from others?
Following a series of incredibly difficult betrayals, challenges, and losses…
Your Hardest Family Question: My new husband is jealous of my memories of my late husband
My late husband died young, just 45 years old, after…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is easily offended
Sometimes I would like to tell my spouse something that…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife’s past haunts me
My wife and I were both raised in the Church.…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m not sure I want to move with my husband
We have been married almost eight years and have three…
Your Hardest Family Question: My non-member daughter is discouraging me from serving a mission
When I mention going on a mission, she becomes upset…
Your Hardest Family Question: How much should I support my divorced daughter?
Our recently divorced daughter has a child and we want…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is going through an identity crisis
My wife and I are in our early 60s. She…
Your Hardest Family Question: I am completely alone and need to rebuild my life
I am a widow. I used to have a happy…
Your Hardest Family Question: My lifelong friend has become a difficult person
My lifelong friend is extremely ornery. It's embarrassing to go…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband treats us worse than people outside our home
My husband has good social skills when interacting with people…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother-in-law married an abusive man
My husband's mother remarried about a year ago. We tried…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband wants to openly love another woman
My husband of 22 years is obsessed with a woman…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m in love with a man my father’s age
I am emotionally troubled since my divorce. I fell deeply…
Your Hardest Family Question: My children weren’t invited to their father’s funeral
When my ex-husband was terminally ill, he told his current…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-wife and I want to remarry
I was married for about a year and a half…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I help my children be resilient through our divorce?
My husband and I are divorcing in the coming months.…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t be at my son’s wedding with my ex-husband
One of my sons is getting married in a few…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our daughter is directionless
We are concerned about our 18 year-old daughter. She will…
Your Hardest Family Question: I don’t want to burden my children with my sorrow
I’m at the point where I have to divorce my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is having a faith crisis
About two years ago, my daughter, 11 at the time,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband cashed out his retirement without telling me
My husband of almost 25 years recently cashed out his…
Your Hardest Family Question: I blew up at my wife and now I’m separated
Recently this week, after who knows how long since a…
Your Hardest Family Question: I feel like I married the wrong person
For most my marriage I felt like I married the…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband shuts down my opinions
My husband sometimes snaps at me in front of his…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-wife and her husband are showing our son pornography
I am divorced and we have a 12 year-old son…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is lack of motivation caused by laziness or real emotional problems?
Do people who can’t make themselves do things have an…
Your Hardest Family Question: How soon should I wait to date after my divorce?
I am in the process of getting a divorce from…
Your Hardest Family Question: My friend attracts needy people
My best friend seems to have a knack for attracting…
Your Hardest Family Question: I fear I’m too closely involved in my son’s addiction recovery
What is the correct model for a mother who would…
Your Hardest Family Question: We are all enlisted –Help for everyone impacted by pornography
Everyone is affected in some way by this modern-day plague.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My new husband wants me to give up all my stuff
I recently remarried and I moved into my new husband's…
Your Hardest Family Question: My siblings make it hard for me to visit my mother
My mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I want…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I tell my son he’s not my biological son?
We started getting the usual funny questions, like, “He looks…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother is accusing my husband of abusing our daughter
My question is how do I move forward? My husband…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife wants to split me away from my family
I have been married for three years and my wife…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother-in-law has lied about me for years
I am heart broken to think that one person could…
Your Hardest Family Question: My stepson is destroying the peace in our home
My teenage stepson has so much anger and resentment towards…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is just going through the motions
In the last year or so, my husband has changed…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m worried my wife will cheat on me
My wife has pitched in to help a single dad…
Your Hardest Family Question: Can my controlling and angry husband change?
I just want a happy peaceful home where I'm treated…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t keep his mouth shut
I keep everything my daughter tells me private from everybody…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m worried about my daughter’s fiancé
I have a wonderful daughter who has served a mission…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is disrespectful to her stepdad
My daughter's real dad completely dropped out of her life…
Southern Utah Conference on Protecting Families from Pornography and Harmful Media
As much as we’d all like to protect our children…
Your Hardest Family Question: Are we enabling our daughter?
A year ago our daughter had an emergency surgery that…
Your Hardest Family Question: My wife wants me to stop talking to my family
My wife feels threatened by my relationships with my family…
Your Hardest Family Question: My sister is becoming more withdrawn from the family
There are four of us sisters and we've been very…
Your Hardest Family Question: My children either fight me or ignore me
I am a 70 year-old mother of three adult children…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I fix a broken friendship?
I have a friend who hurt me a year ago…
Your Hardest Family Question: How long should I wait for my husband to decide?
My husband moved out six months ago for a “break/space”…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband’s PTSD is destroying our family
I truly want to help him through this, but this…
Your Hardest Family Question: My kids won’t acknowledge their stepfather on his birthday
Am I being unreasonable? My husband doesn't mention being ignored,…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is there any point in enduring another family reunion?
We have a family reunion coming up this summer and…
Your Hardest Family Question: How long does it take to heal from an affair?
My husband had an affair a year ago. I am…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m separated from my wife with no plan for the future
My wife and I are currently separated and living in…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is there any way I can stop this divorce?
I'm in a bit of a rough spot with my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is a financial disaster
I grew up in a home where talking about money…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I break a power struggle with my husband?
We have talked about this multiple times and I have…
Your Hardest Family Question: My son is homeless and mentally ill
I have an adult son who has been addicted to…
Your Hardest Family Question: I don’t know if I can marry this man
I am engaged to a man 12 years older than…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband doesn’t believe in the Church anymore
My husband and I have been married for about 7…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I best help my depressed neighbor?
I'm sad to see my young neighbor so stuck in…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t let me help him with his medications
My husband was diagnosed as an adult with ADHD. He…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t tell my husband our daughter is gay
I have always felt parents should be united in discipline…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I help my wife be less suspicious?
I’ve been married for 6 months now. My girlfriend (now…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should boys and girls compete against each other in contact sports?
My son is holding back on his sports team because…
Your Hardest Family Question: My parent’s favoritism of one child hurts the other grandchildren
I am a single mother of four children and I…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m self-destructing after my divorce
I got divorced almost two years ago and it ended…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I tell my husband I don’t love him anymore?
My husband and I have been together for going on…
Your Hardest Family Question: My mother is self-centered
My mother is the absolute center of everything in the…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our adult sons have forgotten about us
My husband and I have three grown sons whom we…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband keeps lying to me
My husband tells partial truths and it drives me crazy.…
Your Hardest Family Question: My toddler doesn’t know who her real dad is
My 2 year-old daughter’s dad passed away when she was…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I walk away from my adult daughter’s drama?
We have bought her cars, paid her rent, bought groceries,…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-wife misrepresents me to our kids
My ex-wife is always putting the kids in the middle.…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t keep parenting my stepdaughter
My stepdaughter is now becoming a teen and has been…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do we deal with a difficult sibling?
Since my sister's second divorce, she has become negative, mean…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I get past my deceased husband’s affair?
I am still in pain from an affair my husband…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter wants to marry a man with three children
My daughter is 31 and lives on her own with…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I get my husband’s ex-wife to stop bringing up their marriage?
Ever since the first day I met her five years…
Your Hardest Family Question: I can’t get over my husband’s past girlfriends
I have been married for 20 years. When my husband…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I force my daughter to do activities with her dad?
My 14 year-old daughter doesn't want to talk much with…
Your Hardest Family Question: My children have questions about my dying ex-husband
My husband left my children and me more than 20…
Your Hardest Family Question: My teenage son has depression
How can I tell the difference between a teenage behavior…
Your Hardest Family Question: My toddler is still terrified of Halloween festivities
"I'm wondering if you have any suggestions for me. I…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband keeps breaking my trust
He has worked hard to overcome an addiction and I…
Your Hardest Family Question: My stepdaughter won’t let me see her new baby
Some family situations stay painful for years.
Your Hardest Family Question: Have I been blind to the true nature of my marriage?
"Help! My husband and I have lost our connection. It’s…
Your Hardest Family Question: My irresponsible daughter wants me to pay for her wedding
Our 28 year-old daughter lives at home with her five…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our marital stubbornness is keeping us stuck
My husband and I are both stubborn, and have different…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I move on from a lost relationship?
How do you get over a past relationship with someone…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m losing my identity
So, I've lost my identity as a husband and father;…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I tell my son-in-law to stop yelling at his kids?
We have a wonderful son-in-law that we love very much.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I address my daughter’s overeating?
I've got an 11 year-old daughter who struggles with overeating.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I protect my stepson from his mother?
I have a stepson living with me that has a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband humiliates me in public
When my husband gets frustrated or angry, he takes it…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m being pushed away in my marriage
I've been married about 21 years. Six months after we…
Your Hardest Family Question: When should I ask for what I need and when should I go along?
Sometimes we need to accept our circumstances, perhaps shaped by…
Your Hardest Family Question: Should I confront my adult daughter about her affair?
I have a question for you about my daughter, my…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won
We agreed to set up a visitation, he only sees…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is it unhealthy to talk to others about my marriage?
I think it's important for me to be able to…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m so depressed I want to give up
"I am so depressed and feel so worthless. I've recently…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m on my deathbed and my daughter won’t talk to me
My time here on earth is limited due to a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is hooked on televised sports
While it might be true that lots of guys are…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband is financially irresponsible
How can I have kind feelings for my husband when…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m afraid of commitment
I don't know why I'm afraid to be in a…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter is marrying a guy we don’t like
Our daughter dated this guy for a couple of years…
Your Hardest Family Question: Teaching my Tech-savvy Kids Human Communication
Cell phones and technology seem to be taking over the…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband Revealed a 20 year-old Secret
Question: My husband had an affair with a co-worker 20…
Your Hardest Family Question: How long do I stay in my marriage?
Question: Can a marriage become dead, or is it simply…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband’s Health is Pushing Me Away
My husband and I have been married for 30+ years.…
Your Hardest Family Question: His Brother’s Divorce
My husband's brother and his wife recently separated after 20…
How to Live After Discovering Your Spouse’s Secret World
Discovering the secret life of your spouse's addiction changes your…
Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-wife already introduced the kids to her new boyfriend
My wife and I divorced recently and within less than…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband won’t give me his phone password
"My husband is very protective about his phone. When he…
Your Hardest Family Question: My husband has an addiction. What do I tell my kids?
I just discovered that my husband has a pornography addiction…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I help my kids during our marital separation?
My husband and I are separated right now and I…
Your Hardest Family Question: How can I say “no” and still be Christ-like?
Where is the balance and how can I know that…
Your Hardest Family Question: What’s wrong with my kids?
I have a 17 year-old daughter and 15 year-old son…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter keeps sneaking inappropriate books
How do I respond so she will not be shamed…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I repair my relationship with my daughter?
My daughter and I disagree about moral standards and it…
Your Hardest Family Question: My daughter and her child moved in with us during her divorce
Do you have any suggestions for managing stress and for…
Your Hardest Family Question: What do you think about New Year’s resolutions?
What do you think about New Year's resolutions? Sometimes I…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Can I Know My Husband is Telling me the Truth?
I've dealt with my husband breaking my trust in the…
Your Hardest Family Question: Is there hope for me to have an eternal family?
I pray every day that my husband's heart will be…
Your Hardest Family Question: Our Daughter May Need Residential Treatment
Our daughter is dealing with severe depression and we don't…
Your Hardest Family Question: I’m a Horrible Wife
If you feel you are the sole source of marriage…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Husband Expects Me to be His Mother
Coming from a broken home has left my husband in…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Father-in-Law Won’t Let Me Repair Our Relationship
A few years ago I had a falling out with…
Protecting Children and Families from Pornography and Other Harmful Media
November 16 conference in Southern Utah will give parents and…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Extended Family Doesn’t Include My Family
We raised our family away from our extended family. Now…
Your Hardest Family Question: How do I support my mentally ill daughter and her children at the same time?
"I am dealing with a family situation that involves mental…
Your Hardest Family Question: What are the rules about dating later in life?
"I've been out of the dating game for decades, I…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Keep Going When My Children Have Strayed?
How do we continue when our children makes choices so…
Your Hardest Family Question: My adopted adult daughter has disowned us as parents
After meeting her birth parents, our adopted daughter has walked…
Your Hardest Family Question: My Adult Stepchildren Don’t Include Me
I give a lot and get very little in return.…
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Respond to Opinions From Others About My Divorce?
Sometimes your most personal trials are seen by everyone.
Your Hardest Family Question: How Do I Make Friends in My Ward When My Spouse is a Non-Member?
What do you do when your family isn't everyone's ideal…
Your Hardest Family Questions: My Son Abused My Daughter
I recently learned that approximately 20 years ago, my daughter…
Answering Your Hardest Family Questions
Each Friday, we will take readers' questions about how to…
A Response to Miley Cyrus: Where are the Men?
Why do so many in the public eye believe that…
Discussing Pornography with Your Future Son-in-Law
My hope is that today's parents, especially fathers, plan to…
Open Letter from a Former Pornography Addict
A former pornography addict learns the virtues of spiritual exercise.