Richard, the scriptures state unequivocally that we are to forgive in the moment or in other words right now. Please go back and read the Savior's iteration of what happened to his disciples when they postponed forgiveness.
JAMES P FOLEYJanuary 23, 2019
If a ward clerk steals money from tithes, it seems he can be forgiven, but it also seems as if the Church will never again place him in a position that handles money.
Secondly, if a hubby commits adultery, the wife can forgive him, but she doesn't need to stay married to him. After all, she'll want someone to trust for eternity, and if she doesn't want him, there's no need to hang on to him. Please see Carlfred Broderick, "But What If Your Husband Is A Jerk?"
Heather RiemanJanuary 22, 2019
When my spouse cheated on me and deserted our family I felt emotional pain that physically hurt my body. I wanted him dead because I thought his death would be easier to deal with than his infidelity. As I struggled with these emotions I was blessed to have personal revelation that in order for me to be forgiven I absolutely must forgive my spouse. It took two years of concentrated effort and continual petitions to the Lord before I received the precious gift of forgiveness. And it was a gift from Heavenly Father. I knew I had not been able to give the complete forgiveness which I received without His grace. I spent the next 25 years in a very toxic second marriage which ended when I began to do whatever was necessary to be healed by our Savior and become whole. Perhaps I should mention that my patriarchal blessing is 75% about my first husband and I mourned the loss of the promises contained in my blessing about him. Then in 2015 our youngest granddaughter was born. My son invited his father to the blessing. At that sacred time my first husband and I renewed our friendship and over the course of the next year we decided to remarry. Our marriage is what it should have been over 30 years ago but more importantly I have been given a second chance to do what the Lord instructed me to do in my patriarchal blessing. How grateful I am for the Lord's patience with me, His gift of forgiveness, my growth, and His profound love for both my husband and myself. I know our story is unique but it happened because of forgiveness and I know that forgiveness came from the Lord.
Richard ChristensenJanuary 22, 2019
Nowhere in the scriptures does it say forgive right now. Forgiveness takes time and is a gift from God. We can't push this time table any more than needing answers from prayers. My favorite article in the ensign. https://www.lds.org/ensign/1997/02/my-journey-to-forgiving
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MichaelJanuary 23, 2019
Richard, the scriptures state unequivocally that we are to forgive in the moment or in other words right now. Please go back and read the Savior's iteration of what happened to his disciples when they postponed forgiveness.
JAMES P FOLEYJanuary 23, 2019
If a ward clerk steals money from tithes, it seems he can be forgiven, but it also seems as if the Church will never again place him in a position that handles money. Secondly, if a hubby commits adultery, the wife can forgive him, but she doesn't need to stay married to him. After all, she'll want someone to trust for eternity, and if she doesn't want him, there's no need to hang on to him. Please see Carlfred Broderick, "But What If Your Husband Is A Jerk?"
Heather RiemanJanuary 22, 2019
When my spouse cheated on me and deserted our family I felt emotional pain that physically hurt my body. I wanted him dead because I thought his death would be easier to deal with than his infidelity. As I struggled with these emotions I was blessed to have personal revelation that in order for me to be forgiven I absolutely must forgive my spouse. It took two years of concentrated effort and continual petitions to the Lord before I received the precious gift of forgiveness. And it was a gift from Heavenly Father. I knew I had not been able to give the complete forgiveness which I received without His grace. I spent the next 25 years in a very toxic second marriage which ended when I began to do whatever was necessary to be healed by our Savior and become whole. Perhaps I should mention that my patriarchal blessing is 75% about my first husband and I mourned the loss of the promises contained in my blessing about him. Then in 2015 our youngest granddaughter was born. My son invited his father to the blessing. At that sacred time my first husband and I renewed our friendship and over the course of the next year we decided to remarry. Our marriage is what it should have been over 30 years ago but more importantly I have been given a second chance to do what the Lord instructed me to do in my patriarchal blessing. How grateful I am for the Lord's patience with me, His gift of forgiveness, my growth, and His profound love for both my husband and myself. I know our story is unique but it happened because of forgiveness and I know that forgiveness came from the Lord.
Richard ChristensenJanuary 22, 2019
Nowhere in the scriptures does it say forgive right now. Forgiveness takes time and is a gift from God. We can't push this time table any more than needing answers from prayers. My favorite article in the ensign. https://www.lds.org/ensign/1997/02/my-journey-to-forgiving
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