In the experience of Alma the Younger, we learn about the miracle of forgiveness: exquisite joy!
Alma 36:16 And now, for three days and for three nights was I racked, even with the pains of a damned soul.
17 And it came to pass that as I was thus racked with torment, while I was harrowed up by the memory of my many sins, behold, I remembered also to have heard my father prophesy unto the people concerning the coming of one Jesus Christ, a Son of God, to atone for the sins of the world.
18 Now, as my mind caught hold upon this thought, I cried within my heart: O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me, who am in the gall of bitterness, and am encircled about by the everlasting chains of death.
19 And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more; yea, I was harrowed up by the memory of my sins no more.
20 And oh, what joy, and what marvelous light I did behold; yea, my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!
21 Yea, I say unto you, my son, that there could be nothing so exquisite and so bitter as were my pains. Yea, and again I say unto you, my son, that on the other hand, there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy.”
That is the joy of receiving forgiveness! How important is it to give forgiveness? What can we do to let go of anger and bitterness when we are offended in any way? How does the atonement of Jesus Christ bring us peace?
In the Sermon on the Mount, the Savior taught: “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.” (Matthew 5:23-24)
“Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin.” (D&C 64:9.)
“I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.” (D&C 64:10)
“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.” (Matthew 18:21-22)
“Verily, verily, I say unto you, my servants, that inasmuch as you have forgiven one another your trespasses, even so I, the Lord, forgive you.” (Doctrine and Covenants 82:1)
After the tragic death of his brother being killed by a drunk driver, Elder Larry J. Echo Hawk of the Seventy spoke about the importance of forgiveness. He also explained: “I am not suggesting that we condone unlawful conduct. We know full well that individuals are to be held accountable for their criminal acts and civil wrongdoings. However, we also know that, as sons and daughters of God, we follow the teachings of Jesus Christ. We are to be forgiving even when it seems others may not warrant our forgiveness.” He continued: “We can all receive unspeakable peace and partnering with our Savior as we learn to freely forgive those who have trespassed against us. This partnering brings the Savior’s power into our lives in an unmistakable and never-to-be-forgotten way.” (Even as Christ Forgives You, So Also Do Ye, General Conference. April 2018).
Our dear prophet President Russell M. Nelson has exhorted us: “I repeat my call to end the conflicts in your life. Exercise the humility, courage, and strength required both to forgive and to seek forgiveness. The Savior has promised that “if [we] forgive men their trespasses, [our] Heavenly Father will also forgive [us].” “… I invite you to seek an end to a personal conflict that has weighed you down. Could there be a more fitting act of gratitude to Jesus Christ for His Atonement? If forgiveness presently seems impossible, plead for power through the atoning blood of Jesus Christ to help you. As you do so, I promise personal peace and a burst of spiritual momentum.” (The Power of Spiritual Momentum, General Conference, April 2022.)
May the Lord bless us to seek forgiveness and to be forgiving that we might feel the exquisite joy offered by our Savior Jesus Christ.
bob taylorOctober 19, 2024
a good article with an excellent observation - i don't have a ready answer for you - perhaps the author will do a follow up article on how to work thru your/my question.
Ronald BarnesOctober 16, 2024
I have often read and heard about how we should forgive others. Forgiving others for small things is not that difficult. However, more severe injuries, such as malicious betrayal, create pains that are very deep and don’t heal well. What I never remember ever reading or hearing is how to forgive. Sometimes, even though you want to, you just can’t figure out how. I think this is an issue that needs to be addressed.