Each spouse is looking for gratitude and validation from the other. As a husband, no one thanks me each day for getting up, going to work, and bringing home a paycheck that allows my wife to stay home and that provides for the needs of the family. It's just expected. Likewise my wife is rarely complemented by me or the kids for cooking, cleaning, and driving kids to activities. It's expected. Yet, I would bet that the wife is more often thanked for a great meal than the husband is thanked for a great paycheck.
mary janeOctober 1, 2015
This principle works with other family relationships, too, such as mother-daughter or daughter-mother. Love is the answer.
A Happy HubbyOctober 1, 2015
This is good and it reminds me of one of the best little one-liners about marriage. "Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship, it is a 75/75 relationship." It is human nature to discount our shortcomings and ascribe negative motivations to others. If we have the assumption that we are going to feel we are doing a bit more than our share (our perception), we will be better prepared. It is normal to feel you are doing more than your spouse even when things are equally shared.
Some have said it should be a 100/100 and that to me just feels like a cold contractual relationship where you NEVER feel your partner does anything. I am not interested in that.
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Brother YodaOctober 2, 2015
Each spouse is looking for gratitude and validation from the other. As a husband, no one thanks me each day for getting up, going to work, and bringing home a paycheck that allows my wife to stay home and that provides for the needs of the family. It's just expected. Likewise my wife is rarely complemented by me or the kids for cooking, cleaning, and driving kids to activities. It's expected. Yet, I would bet that the wife is more often thanked for a great meal than the husband is thanked for a great paycheck.
mary janeOctober 1, 2015
This principle works with other family relationships, too, such as mother-daughter or daughter-mother. Love is the answer.
A Happy HubbyOctober 1, 2015
This is good and it reminds me of one of the best little one-liners about marriage. "Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship, it is a 75/75 relationship." It is human nature to discount our shortcomings and ascribe negative motivations to others. If we have the assumption that we are going to feel we are doing a bit more than our share (our perception), we will be better prepared. It is normal to feel you are doing more than your spouse even when things are equally shared. Some have said it should be a 100/100 and that to me just feels like a cold contractual relationship where you NEVER feel your partner does anything. I am not interested in that.
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