I completely agree with Rosie. Someone who would stay in a relationship where there are REPEATED betrayals needs some support and counseling to help them get out of this poisonous marriage.
I think, going off of Rosie's comment, it does depend on each persons situation. Having been in my own similar situation, I believe that if a person is readily willing to change, has a broken heart and contrite spirit, it is required of us to forgive. For some that would be to forgive and leave, for others that would be to forgive and stay to make it work. We are also supposed to follow Christ, his example, and also follow any guidance or answers we receive to our prayers. This is what I did when I decided to stay with my husband. I chose to follow the Lords guidance am I am so happy that I did! People CAN change their actions, lives, and belief systems. They just have to decide to. If they are able and willing to do that, and to be forgiven, shouldn't we as a spouse do the same? I encourage you Rosie, and anyone else thinking along the same lines, to ponder what The Lord has taught. Everyone makes mistakes, some bigger and more hurtful than others, but anyone can change their life. This is what will be taught to children.
I found when dealing with my exhusbands that i could go to the Lord and he would not only tell me what was going on, but even lead me to proof. However, one must be prepared for the answer.
I was married for 11 years to a liar. He lied about being online still looking, and financial lies. During that time, I read and studied the writings of Paul Ekman who researched lies and lying and how to tell. I concluded that when you know someone, you know - if you get past the blind trust of early marriage - or once the trust is broken and you look with new eyes. Also, and more importantly, the gift of the Holy Ghost helps us recognize truth. I didn't always call him on the lies, but I had an awareness. I fasted and prayed and went to counselling, with him and alone. Finally I realized the truth of an old 'joke'. How may psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? One, but the lightbulb has got to WANT to change. Sadly, he was a lightbulb that didn't want to change - at least, not for me and our marriage. Tough decision.
I cannot understand why anyone would want to stay with someone who is so excessively unfaithful etc. etc. - After multiple betrayals the offending spouse in my thinking has lost his chance for good - and for the good of the family it's time to move on otherwise the message is there are no real consequences for that extreme type of behavior. What does this do for the children to have this example to emulate in their future?
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