Nothing is going to change here until the husband stops reacting to the ex wife and daughter’s manipulations. I don’t agree that something is better than nothing here. Their behavior is abusive and he doesn’t have an obligation to tolerate it. If dad stops reacting and allows daughter to fully experience mom’s behavior, perhaps something would change.
HelenCMarch 11, 2022
My husband and I have been married almost 28 years, now, and my ex-husband still believes her is the one who broke up the marriage. However, over time he and our children have accepted that we are happy together. Each of my children has come to me and expressed past frustration along with present acknowledgement that he is a good man and I am happy.
While it is easy to fall into the trap of needing validation for ourselves and our choices, the truth is we owe our happiness to no-one but ourselves. As the late psychologist Wayne Dyer put it, “Your opinion of me is none of my business”.
tfMarch 11, 2022
Geoff: I'm surprised that you didn't mention that the ex-wife is obviously mentally ill. The troubles described seem to be a clear indication of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, if I am not mistaken.
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MickeyMarch 12, 2022
Nothing is going to change here until the husband stops reacting to the ex wife and daughter’s manipulations. I don’t agree that something is better than nothing here. Their behavior is abusive and he doesn’t have an obligation to tolerate it. If dad stops reacting and allows daughter to fully experience mom’s behavior, perhaps something would change.
HelenCMarch 11, 2022
My husband and I have been married almost 28 years, now, and my ex-husband still believes her is the one who broke up the marriage. However, over time he and our children have accepted that we are happy together. Each of my children has come to me and expressed past frustration along with present acknowledgement that he is a good man and I am happy. While it is easy to fall into the trap of needing validation for ourselves and our choices, the truth is we owe our happiness to no-one but ourselves. As the late psychologist Wayne Dyer put it, “Your opinion of me is none of my business”.
tfMarch 11, 2022
Geoff: I'm surprised that you didn't mention that the ex-wife is obviously mentally ill. The troubles described seem to be a clear indication of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, if I am not mistaken.
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