My wife and I have had a very "successful" 52 years of marriage. We share all of the blessings and benefits of that relationship. We don't have any separate bank accounts, vehicles or home ownership. Our names are both on everything we own. We have equal access to everything. However, I do not want to be "equally yoked" with her. That analogy is troubling to me. I really don't want my dear wife to have to shoulder some of the burdens, problems, troubles and difficulties of mortality that I may be able to spare her of bearing if it is at all possible. I have capabilities that she simply does not have just like I do not have the motherly nurturing capabilities that she uniquely possesses in our relationship. Her artistic talents are something I envy because mine are absent. I can cook but she creates. I have tried to be a good dad, but that does not make me a good mom. The jobs are different. God created men and women for a reason. We are different. We are not the same. I do not want to be equally burdened with her. I want to carry as much of the "load" as possible so that she does not have to. I believe that is a reflection of how much I cherish her. So, this whole modernistic approach of men and women being the same is a falsehood that undermines the true elevated nature of men and women, and their role in life and marriage, not only now, but in the eternities. So, I am not going to concern myself with Heavenly Mother(s), her/their job descriptions or how they fit into the big picture. When I am "promoted" from mortality to the spirit world and eventually to a resurrected being one day, they can let me know what I need to know about her/them in that stage of my progression. In the mean time, I will continue to enjoy mortality with my beloved wife.
I appreciated the many insightful thoughts expressed in this article. I find it difficult to know correct boundaries in discussing Her openly. I look to our leaders' examples and since they have not frequently spoken outwardly about our Heavenly Mother, I feel it is wise to follow that pattern. If and when that pattern changes I will excitedly go along with it. But for now, it does not stop me from thinking about Her and acknowledging in my mind that She is as constantly aware of me--loving, guiding, and helping me--as my Heavenly Father is. I am only comfortable praying directly to God, our Eternal Father. I address Him in prayer as my Heavenly Father. I feel strongly that we need to carefully and intentionally follow the pattern of prayer established by our Savior by praying only and directly to our Father alone, both in the verbal words we choose to address Him by, and in our thought processes while we are praying. If Heavenly Father wanted it otherwise I believe He would have included our Mother in Joseph Smith's First Vision. She knows of our prayers without a doubt. Those are just my personal feelings. Thank you so much for your thoughts!
Really loving this series! I will say that it makes absolutely no sense to only be "allowed" to pray to one heavenly parent. This is not directed at the author, just stating the obvious. At least, it really feels like it should be obvious. I like the idea of addressing our prayers to "God in Heaven" or something along those lines to take in both of our Heavenly Parents.
Thank you very much for such an insightful article, and perspective on several points. One of the points I personally appreciate in particular is the point (you implied without stating directly) you cannot achieve a better balance by indulging the opposite extreme for a time. I speak of course, in reference to the idea of focusing on Heavenly Mother to make up for lost time of focus on Her.
When mortal beings discover that they've been indulging an extreme, they too often want to attempt a balance by indulging the opposite extreme. Of course, it may turn out all right in the end, if, like a pendulum, they gradually stop being quite as extreme in either direction until they finally settle in the middle with the actual, proper balance.
It would make more sense though, simply to focus immediately and always on the actual balance, or in other words to stop swinging from extreme to extreme and instead follow the divine guidance, "Be still."
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