I was thrilled to have my friend and co-author, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, join me on this episode of the podcast. Mark and I co-authored the book, “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity” back in 2011. In this episode we talk about the origin of this book, how it helps couples, and what things we would change if it were reissued today. We also discuss the challenging nature of couples recovery and what couples need to fully heal from the impact of pornography.
You can purchase “Love You. Hate the Porn” HERE
Mark Chamberlain Bio:
I love listening to individuals and couples in an effort to enter their world as they see it, and hopefully over time help them rise above the limits of their current perceptions to take a broader perspective and discover previously unseen possibilities. Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships. I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples heal the negative cycles that can sabotage such closeness. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit.
Credentials:
• Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology
• Licensed Psychologist
• Trained in Lifespan Integration
• Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
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Debbi M.December 10, 2020
To Patricia: I can only image your pain. You can still be healed--it does not take renewing a negative relationship to do that. You sound much better off without the hurt of that relationship. You are not less because you choose not to be with that man anymore. Be kind to yourself. You are the one in charge of your own happiness, and not a damaged vessel. Be free and positive!
A happy wife in recoveryDecember 9, 2020
This was good to listen to now. I bought the book 10 years ago when it first came out. It was scary and painful then. I am so much farther down the road of healing. I just want wives to know that healing is possible through the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ. I can't saw where my husband is in his journey, since he is still not ready to share his thoughts, feelings or experiences with me. I have always stuck with him, since we are married for time and eternity. I still have hope for him to change and be happy!. I found that I couldn't change him; I could only change myselt to be a happy person. I have grown closer to the Savior and my husband by accepting him, forgiving him and love HIM, NOT his behavior. Once I could separate the two, I could heal.. Thank you for the book and the podcast. You guys are wonderful!