What a beautiful way to honor your birth mother and also the sacrifice she made to place you in better circumstances than she could provide. While she is obviously not your "real" mother, she did give you life and cared enough to seek out the best life for you. That must have been a very joyful experience for you and I'm sure she will embrace you with thanks one day.
Marla SmakaJanuary 30, 2023
I never understand the need some adoptees have to search out a biological parent. I am an adoptee, as are all of my siblings. One day my brother, Scott, said he wanted to know if I could give him copies of pictures I have of him as a child growing up so he could share them with his sister. The absolute kick in the gut. Foolishly I assumed he felt I felt he and I were brother and sister. In his mind the women he was planning to meet was his sister. I gave him the pictures and he shared them with his birth sister. My brother is now deceased. At the end of the funeral a woman came to me and introduced herself as Scott's sister. To my knowledge, this woman had physically been my brother's presence one time. I am 14 years older than Scott. He came into our home when he was just two days of age. I was present in the Mesa Arizona Temple when Scott was sealed to our parents. Does anyone feel my pain? In the current time, it seems the accepted thing to do is gush with joy over adoptees seeking their biological families. The other accepted attitude is basically to say thanks for the relationship, but I need my real family. I advise my childless friends to adopt a cocker spaniel unless they have hearts of cast iron so they can face the moment when their loved one says they want to find their real family.
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MaryannFebruary 3, 2023
What a beautiful way to honor your birth mother and also the sacrifice she made to place you in better circumstances than she could provide. While she is obviously not your "real" mother, she did give you life and cared enough to seek out the best life for you. That must have been a very joyful experience for you and I'm sure she will embrace you with thanks one day.
Marla SmakaJanuary 30, 2023
I never understand the need some adoptees have to search out a biological parent. I am an adoptee, as are all of my siblings. One day my brother, Scott, said he wanted to know if I could give him copies of pictures I have of him as a child growing up so he could share them with his sister. The absolute kick in the gut. Foolishly I assumed he felt I felt he and I were brother and sister. In his mind the women he was planning to meet was his sister. I gave him the pictures and he shared them with his birth sister. My brother is now deceased. At the end of the funeral a woman came to me and introduced herself as Scott's sister. To my knowledge, this woman had physically been my brother's presence one time. I am 14 years older than Scott. He came into our home when he was just two days of age. I was present in the Mesa Arizona Temple when Scott was sealed to our parents. Does anyone feel my pain? In the current time, it seems the accepted thing to do is gush with joy over adoptees seeking their biological families. The other accepted attitude is basically to say thanks for the relationship, but I need my real family. I advise my childless friends to adopt a cocker spaniel unless they have hearts of cast iron so they can face the moment when their loved one says they want to find their real family.
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