Let him know you will leave him if he is unwilling to grow up. Betrayal in a marriage is not some easily rectified error. He will need to act in trustworthy ways for the rest of his life.
And boo hoo. He is not getting access to sex. It is not his decision. He is on probation, with the loss of his eternal family at stake. Sex is not just a physical release. It is sharing your eternal soul with another. Why would his wife wish to share her soul with this man at this time.
Maryann TaylorJuly 26, 2021
It sounds as if this husband is unaware that trust must be earned and that takes time. After hurting her so deeply, rushing her to trust him again indicates he is not willing to pay the price to regain her trust. His impatience also suggests that he doesn't really understand how much he hurt her by betraying her trust in the first place. Sounds like some good counseling needs to take place.
BruceJuly 23, 2021
Very good advise; thank you for this.
tfJuly 23, 2021
The most obvious thing that needs trust is to participate in marital intimacy again, but believe it or not, withholding is the chief way to drive him away. Maybe someone who has been through it can give better advise, I'm surprised that mine is the first comment.
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MartaJuly 28, 2021
Let him know you will leave him if he is unwilling to grow up. Betrayal in a marriage is not some easily rectified error. He will need to act in trustworthy ways for the rest of his life. And boo hoo. He is not getting access to sex. It is not his decision. He is on probation, with the loss of his eternal family at stake. Sex is not just a physical release. It is sharing your eternal soul with another. Why would his wife wish to share her soul with this man at this time.
Maryann TaylorJuly 26, 2021
It sounds as if this husband is unaware that trust must be earned and that takes time. After hurting her so deeply, rushing her to trust him again indicates he is not willing to pay the price to regain her trust. His impatience also suggests that he doesn't really understand how much he hurt her by betraying her trust in the first place. Sounds like some good counseling needs to take place.
BruceJuly 23, 2021
Very good advise; thank you for this.
tfJuly 23, 2021
The most obvious thing that needs trust is to participate in marital intimacy again, but believe it or not, withholding is the chief way to drive him away. Maybe someone who has been through it can give better advise, I'm surprised that mine is the first comment.
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