Twenty years ago, I didn't technically commit adultery but I was disfellowship. My husband and I stayed together for the following two years. I did my best to be a good wife and mother. Still, because his friend, our Bishop, threatened to take back his recommend, my husband stayed until the week after the Bishop had been released. I was the last to know but my husband would not forgive me. He broke up our family; I took all of the blame until just about 5 years ago. Knowing the scriptures, if it were me, I would have stayed and worked to mend the marriage, i.e.: what did I do wrong?
withheldNovember 13, 2018
My husband moved out and I discovered he was having an affair and confronted him. He met with the stake president who said he had to decide if he wanted a divorce or not. He decided he did and informed me. When I told him I was moving out of state to finish school, he changed his mind, not wanting to lose his children. I took him back. He was never sorry for what he did, but eventually seemed to appreciate returning to his family. But, at the first sign of difficulty, he repeated his behavior, and within 4 years we divorced. I do not recommend accepting back into your home, your bed and your heart an unrepentant spouse who has broken your trust. I thought he would be so grateful to have a chance to save his family, but he wasn't. Instead, he acted like I was easy and pathetic to allow such behavior. Over 30 years since he first left, I question my decision to take him back. It was very very hurtful and damaged me in incalculable ways.
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BarbaraNovember 22, 2018
Twenty years ago, I didn't technically commit adultery but I was disfellowship. My husband and I stayed together for the following two years. I did my best to be a good wife and mother. Still, because his friend, our Bishop, threatened to take back his recommend, my husband stayed until the week after the Bishop had been released. I was the last to know but my husband would not forgive me. He broke up our family; I took all of the blame until just about 5 years ago. Knowing the scriptures, if it were me, I would have stayed and worked to mend the marriage, i.e.: what did I do wrong?
withheldNovember 13, 2018
My husband moved out and I discovered he was having an affair and confronted him. He met with the stake president who said he had to decide if he wanted a divorce or not. He decided he did and informed me. When I told him I was moving out of state to finish school, he changed his mind, not wanting to lose his children. I took him back. He was never sorry for what he did, but eventually seemed to appreciate returning to his family. But, at the first sign of difficulty, he repeated his behavior, and within 4 years we divorced. I do not recommend accepting back into your home, your bed and your heart an unrepentant spouse who has broken your trust. I thought he would be so grateful to have a chance to save his family, but he wasn't. Instead, he acted like I was easy and pathetic to allow such behavior. Over 30 years since he first left, I question my decision to take him back. It was very very hurtful and damaged me in incalculable ways.
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