Thank you for the very uplifting article. I've been struggling with my relationship with my parents. For now, it's a relationship I avoid and ignore. While I once thought I had a 'decent and happy' childhood, I've since come to understand it was a childhood filled with neglect and emotional abuse that has negatively affected my life and relationships. I don't confide in my parents. I don't seek their advice. I don't share the details of my life with them, good or bad.
This article has made me realize that I need to forgive my parents. I don't know if I'm ready to do that, but if I can at least generate a desire to do so, that's a start, and the Lord can begin to help me from there.
Thank you!
KWJune 19, 2013
How can people learn to forgive fathers, when all of society condemns them? When is the last time you saw a movie, TV show or even a commercial when a father was shown as someone with a strong character, friendly, smart and worthy of respect? With so many children of divorce, how many of them were taught that their father was anything other than the scumbag who ruined their lives? I know one woman who got pregnant in an affair, threw out her husband, then when her boyfriend left his wife and moved in, convinced the kids that she had to do all of that because their father was such a monster! Oh, yeah, let's have "Father's Day" and forgive dads one day a year, then demonize them the rest of the time . . .and people wonder why society is falling apart!
AngelaJune 19, 2013
How I wish my daughter could forgive her father. I see how the hurt of his rejection has affected her in all her relationships, and I wish I could help her to come to terms with his inadequacy. You see, I have, in recent years, come to realise that it wasn't his fault, that he has an undiagnosed mental condition that means normal relationships, especially parent/child, are difficult for him. I believe that if she could focus on the pain and confusion he suffers, as he walks through what is to him an alien landscape, she could heal herself. He and I have been divorced many years, and he is experiencing the same problems in his new marriage as we did in ours, because of this condition. But I have come to understand that underneath he is a son of God, a righteous priesthood holder, and that one day God will compensate him, through the Atonement of Christ, for what he, and others, have suffered because of his condition.
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amkerrJune 20, 2013
Thank you for the very uplifting article. I've been struggling with my relationship with my parents. For now, it's a relationship I avoid and ignore. While I once thought I had a 'decent and happy' childhood, I've since come to understand it was a childhood filled with neglect and emotional abuse that has negatively affected my life and relationships. I don't confide in my parents. I don't seek their advice. I don't share the details of my life with them, good or bad. This article has made me realize that I need to forgive my parents. I don't know if I'm ready to do that, but if I can at least generate a desire to do so, that's a start, and the Lord can begin to help me from there. Thank you!
KWJune 19, 2013
How can people learn to forgive fathers, when all of society condemns them? When is the last time you saw a movie, TV show or even a commercial when a father was shown as someone with a strong character, friendly, smart and worthy of respect? With so many children of divorce, how many of them were taught that their father was anything other than the scumbag who ruined their lives? I know one woman who got pregnant in an affair, threw out her husband, then when her boyfriend left his wife and moved in, convinced the kids that she had to do all of that because their father was such a monster! Oh, yeah, let's have "Father's Day" and forgive dads one day a year, then demonize them the rest of the time . . .and people wonder why society is falling apart!
AngelaJune 19, 2013
How I wish my daughter could forgive her father. I see how the hurt of his rejection has affected her in all her relationships, and I wish I could help her to come to terms with his inadequacy. You see, I have, in recent years, come to realise that it wasn't his fault, that he has an undiagnosed mental condition that means normal relationships, especially parent/child, are difficult for him. I believe that if she could focus on the pain and confusion he suffers, as he walks through what is to him an alien landscape, she could heal herself. He and I have been divorced many years, and he is experiencing the same problems in his new marriage as we did in ours, because of this condition. But I have come to understand that underneath he is a son of God, a righteous priesthood holder, and that one day God will compensate him, through the Atonement of Christ, for what he, and others, have suffered because of his condition.
meJune 16, 2013
good!
meJune 16, 2013
Thoughtful1
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