I highly suggest neurofeedback for trauma as it can heal ptsd. Be sure to get a technician using the Othmer method as it has over 20 years of research behind it. I am a trained professional counselor and trained as a neurofeedback provider. It truly is amazing. It is not yet covered by most insurance and can be pricey but the outcomes are so phenomenal.
Debbi M.March 29, 2024
We had that horrible, relationship strain yrs ago with our 17 year old daughter. She was so oppositional that she was placed at an adolescent hospital treatment facility.. Insurance paid but determined she could be moved to a residential facility, which insurance was not going to pay for and a long waiting period...She did outpatient for a while. She was rather a black hole in our family with our other children getting pretty resentful of her. We more or less just waited her out until she was18 and left for a few years--also sad. She did get somewhat better, but had several pregnancies--one adoption and two she kept, both by different dads. As she got older, we butted heads and she lived with us solely because of her kids.She was not de pressive, but did try one time to take an overdose of aspirin. Fortunately we could get support from our friends and family. Please know you are not alone, and take care of your marriage because spouses are also hurting, and our marriage needs to come first. I remember so many sleepless nights waiting for her to come home, and sometimes wishing she wouldn't! Mostly praying so so much that she would not harm herself or others.
Anonymous to protect my child's privacyMarch 29, 2024
What a timely post this is! My husband and I just placed our 17-year-old daughter into residential treatment a few days ago. While she is specifically in treatment for an eating disorder, we have faced many of the same sorts of issues this poster mentions--a past trauma, unsafe behavior, bouts of suicidal behavior, prior hospitalizations, years of outpatient therapy that haven't worked, etc. We were also facing the fact that our daughter becomes an adult very soon and we needed to do something before it was too late.
The road of getting her into this treatment was one of the most difficult things I have ever gone through, even after many years of extremely difficult and intense parenting challenges. What helped me most was having an excellent therapist for ME. My therapist has provided strong support, has been a safe place to land while sorting through complex options and my own complicated emotions, and most importantly, she has held me accountable to myself each step of the way. She told me that it was time to disengage my heart and engage my mind and my will to see this through. Of course I love my daughter with all my heart, but my emotions were blinding me to the realities of what was needed and keeping me from doing what was best for her.
I also want to say that God has been very close to me over the past few months as my husband and I made and carried out this decision. I have been on my knees constantly--sometimes multiple times a day--pleading for direction, peace, and the ability to do hard things, and those prayers have been answered 100-fold. I have fasted and spent time in the temple. We have had family, close friends, and ward leadership praying for us and keeping our names on the temple prayer roll. I have seen literal miracles happen as roadblocks in this process that felt insurmountable melted away so that this could happen--financial roadblocks, roadblocks in terms of gaining our daughter's cooperation, etc. All of these big and small miracles have helped me know we made the right decision, this is where she needs to be, and it will all be okay in the end.
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Abbie VianesMarch 29, 2024
I highly suggest neurofeedback for trauma as it can heal ptsd. Be sure to get a technician using the Othmer method as it has over 20 years of research behind it. I am a trained professional counselor and trained as a neurofeedback provider. It truly is amazing. It is not yet covered by most insurance and can be pricey but the outcomes are so phenomenal.
Debbi M.March 29, 2024
We had that horrible, relationship strain yrs ago with our 17 year old daughter. She was so oppositional that she was placed at an adolescent hospital treatment facility.. Insurance paid but determined she could be moved to a residential facility, which insurance was not going to pay for and a long waiting period...She did outpatient for a while. She was rather a black hole in our family with our other children getting pretty resentful of her. We more or less just waited her out until she was18 and left for a few years--also sad. She did get somewhat better, but had several pregnancies--one adoption and two she kept, both by different dads. As she got older, we butted heads and she lived with us solely because of her kids.She was not de pressive, but did try one time to take an overdose of aspirin. Fortunately we could get support from our friends and family. Please know you are not alone, and take care of your marriage because spouses are also hurting, and our marriage needs to come first. I remember so many sleepless nights waiting for her to come home, and sometimes wishing she wouldn't! Mostly praying so so much that she would not harm herself or others.
Anonymous to protect my child's privacyMarch 29, 2024
What a timely post this is! My husband and I just placed our 17-year-old daughter into residential treatment a few days ago. While she is specifically in treatment for an eating disorder, we have faced many of the same sorts of issues this poster mentions--a past trauma, unsafe behavior, bouts of suicidal behavior, prior hospitalizations, years of outpatient therapy that haven't worked, etc. We were also facing the fact that our daughter becomes an adult very soon and we needed to do something before it was too late. The road of getting her into this treatment was one of the most difficult things I have ever gone through, even after many years of extremely difficult and intense parenting challenges. What helped me most was having an excellent therapist for ME. My therapist has provided strong support, has been a safe place to land while sorting through complex options and my own complicated emotions, and most importantly, she has held me accountable to myself each step of the way. She told me that it was time to disengage my heart and engage my mind and my will to see this through. Of course I love my daughter with all my heart, but my emotions were blinding me to the realities of what was needed and keeping me from doing what was best for her. I also want to say that God has been very close to me over the past few months as my husband and I made and carried out this decision. I have been on my knees constantly--sometimes multiple times a day--pleading for direction, peace, and the ability to do hard things, and those prayers have been answered 100-fold. I have fasted and spent time in the temple. We have had family, close friends, and ward leadership praying for us and keeping our names on the temple prayer roll. I have seen literal miracles happen as roadblocks in this process that felt insurmountable melted away so that this could happen--financial roadblocks, roadblocks in terms of gaining our daughter's cooperation, etc. All of these big and small miracles have helped me know we made the right decision, this is where she needs to be, and it will all be okay in the end.
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