I was thinking trauma too, before it was even mentioned in the question. The book The Body Keeps The Score would be an excellent read for this brother. EMDR and some forms of massage can be extremely effective at helping to resolve trauma.
AnonymousNovember 5, 2022
Biggest problem there is in marriages, even President Kimball said something to that effect, hence the proliferation of books, articles, blogs, etc about sexual intimacy especially in the LDS and Christian realm. I'm no expert other than having been married for 45 yrs but I would say to this brother sounds like his wife may very possibly be depressed, unfortunately most often the fix for depression is medication, which makes the problem worse because most medication prescribed for depression kills sexual desire or libido, especially in women. It also sounds like there are cultural, social issues of abuse which has probably left her with low self esteem. I'm sure many including the columnist would recommend counseling for her or both but it may or may not help, in our case it made things worse.
KayNovember 4, 2022
A mother who cannot have physical relationship with her child--hugging, cuddling, being physically close--will do serious damage to her child. This is more than the husband's problem, it is a problem for her children as well. I hope she will agree to seek professional help.
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MickeyjNovember 6, 2022
I was thinking trauma too, before it was even mentioned in the question. The book The Body Keeps The Score would be an excellent read for this brother. EMDR and some forms of massage can be extremely effective at helping to resolve trauma.
AnonymousNovember 5, 2022
Biggest problem there is in marriages, even President Kimball said something to that effect, hence the proliferation of books, articles, blogs, etc about sexual intimacy especially in the LDS and Christian realm. I'm no expert other than having been married for 45 yrs but I would say to this brother sounds like his wife may very possibly be depressed, unfortunately most often the fix for depression is medication, which makes the problem worse because most medication prescribed for depression kills sexual desire or libido, especially in women. It also sounds like there are cultural, social issues of abuse which has probably left her with low self esteem. I'm sure many including the columnist would recommend counseling for her or both but it may or may not help, in our case it made things worse.
KayNovember 4, 2022
A mother who cannot have physical relationship with her child--hugging, cuddling, being physically close--will do serious damage to her child. This is more than the husband's problem, it is a problem for her children as well. I hope she will agree to seek professional help.
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