I believe couples in this situation might ask themselves, "Do I believe I can learn to like new things."
I married a golfer.
He tried to teach me. I liked to be with him. I liked to be outside, but I did not like to golf.
Eventually I took some cheap lessons at a local driving range with a good friend. I remember the exact moment the teacher gave me the instruction that sent the golf ball flying into the air and down the fairway. Hey, golf can be pretty awesome.
I am not saying you will be successful every time, but if both partners have the core belief that learning to like new things is possible, there will be lots of fun times exploring new interests.
Susan MorrisSeptember 14, 2018
I couldn't help but notice that the things this man said that he doesn't have in common with his wife all involve media--a virtual world with values that often run counter to the Restored Gospel and also promote dissatisfaction with everyday life. Perhaps a media fast and a move into real-world activities (home projects, cooking, service, etc.) would help rejuvenate the relationship and reveal new common interests.
S. JensenSeptember 14, 2018
My husband and I are both active members of the church who have been married for many years with grown children. We have our family and our love of the gospel in common but when it comes to fun or free time, we also found that we are very different. We found a very simple solution that has worked for us. W take turns planning our weekly date. Out rule is that the person who plans has the freedom to plan the food and things he or she likes and the other person had to be a good sport. The next week it's the other persons turn. We also take turns with tv shows. It gives us things to talk about and occasionally we discover we have something in common we didn't know we had or we develop a new thing.
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Christine PartnaSeptember 14, 2018
I believe couples in this situation might ask themselves, "Do I believe I can learn to like new things." I married a golfer. He tried to teach me. I liked to be with him. I liked to be outside, but I did not like to golf. Eventually I took some cheap lessons at a local driving range with a good friend. I remember the exact moment the teacher gave me the instruction that sent the golf ball flying into the air and down the fairway. Hey, golf can be pretty awesome. I am not saying you will be successful every time, but if both partners have the core belief that learning to like new things is possible, there will be lots of fun times exploring new interests.
Susan MorrisSeptember 14, 2018
I couldn't help but notice that the things this man said that he doesn't have in common with his wife all involve media--a virtual world with values that often run counter to the Restored Gospel and also promote dissatisfaction with everyday life. Perhaps a media fast and a move into real-world activities (home projects, cooking, service, etc.) would help rejuvenate the relationship and reveal new common interests.
S. JensenSeptember 14, 2018
My husband and I are both active members of the church who have been married for many years with grown children. We have our family and our love of the gospel in common but when it comes to fun or free time, we also found that we are very different. We found a very simple solution that has worked for us. W take turns planning our weekly date. Out rule is that the person who plans has the freedom to plan the food and things he or she likes and the other person had to be a good sport. The next week it's the other persons turn. We also take turns with tv shows. It gives us things to talk about and occasionally we discover we have something in common we didn't know we had or we develop a new thing.
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