I hope your husband can change, be faithful and honest with you and you can stay in your marriage. I went through the same thing with my husband of 29 years. He refused to change his behavior so I left. I realized that forgiving him didn't mean I had to stay and continue to be emotionally and psychologically abused. God doesn't expect us to stay as part of the forgiveness process. I also went to al-anon meetings. They helped a lot. The spirit is very strong there.
Marsha NewmanAugust 29, 2018
I recommend an amazing counselor, kind, insightful, realistic, and tender hearted. His name is Seth Ellsworth. Find him on Facebook. He can help you see yourself and your spouse compassionately.
JanetAugust 27, 2018
I too have experienced this betrayal in my marriage and I've struggled with these feelings of wanting to keep a soft heart and yet feeling huge disappointment and loss.You do eventually get through it. I've learned that you have to move through the pain and experience it -- not suppress it or ignore it. For me, along with allowing myself to grieve and acknowledging the pain, it was helpful to take on an important project which takes my concentration and gives me greater purpose -- family history and temple work,getting a degree or learning a new skill so that you can serve others effectively, becoming involved in a community project. . . something that requires an outward focus (while you are still working on your own stuff). This will facilitate the healing process and help you find joy as you move through the pain.
DeniseAugust 27, 2018
You can love your husband, but after his multiple betrayals in your marriage, he has lost your trust. It is his role to earn that back while you work on the process of grieving your losses. Your relationship will be something different in the future. I wish you all the best in your journey and sincerely hope you have a trusted girlfriend to share your grief with and get all the hugs you need.
sallyAugust 24, 2018
get to LOTS of s-anon and al-anon meetings. best solution there is. you can find them online.
ChuckAugust 24, 2018
I know this hurts you terribly. I speak from experience. I surely don't have any answers for you, but find ways to be involved in truly helping others. Contribute to the church humanitarian fund; that's a good place to start. The church has many ways to help others---get involved, both in your local church unit and internationally. As you pray about what to do now, the Holy ghost will become more involved in your life, as you help others, and not focus just on your hurt all the time. Again, I speak from experience. The Lord loves you, and will comfort you, strengthen you, and bless you in ways you cannot think of right now---and that comfort will mean so very much to you. Let His precious love surround you and guide you---you truly need His comfort and guidance right now.
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MBTAugust 29, 2018
I hope your husband can change, be faithful and honest with you and you can stay in your marriage. I went through the same thing with my husband of 29 years. He refused to change his behavior so I left. I realized that forgiving him didn't mean I had to stay and continue to be emotionally and psychologically abused. God doesn't expect us to stay as part of the forgiveness process. I also went to al-anon meetings. They helped a lot. The spirit is very strong there.
Marsha NewmanAugust 29, 2018
I recommend an amazing counselor, kind, insightful, realistic, and tender hearted. His name is Seth Ellsworth. Find him on Facebook. He can help you see yourself and your spouse compassionately.
JanetAugust 27, 2018
I too have experienced this betrayal in my marriage and I've struggled with these feelings of wanting to keep a soft heart and yet feeling huge disappointment and loss.You do eventually get through it. I've learned that you have to move through the pain and experience it -- not suppress it or ignore it. For me, along with allowing myself to grieve and acknowledging the pain, it was helpful to take on an important project which takes my concentration and gives me greater purpose -- family history and temple work,getting a degree or learning a new skill so that you can serve others effectively, becoming involved in a community project. . . something that requires an outward focus (while you are still working on your own stuff). This will facilitate the healing process and help you find joy as you move through the pain.
DeniseAugust 27, 2018
You can love your husband, but after his multiple betrayals in your marriage, he has lost your trust. It is his role to earn that back while you work on the process of grieving your losses. Your relationship will be something different in the future. I wish you all the best in your journey and sincerely hope you have a trusted girlfriend to share your grief with and get all the hugs you need.
sallyAugust 24, 2018
get to LOTS of s-anon and al-anon meetings. best solution there is. you can find them online.
ChuckAugust 24, 2018
I know this hurts you terribly. I speak from experience. I surely don't have any answers for you, but find ways to be involved in truly helping others. Contribute to the church humanitarian fund; that's a good place to start. The church has many ways to help others---get involved, both in your local church unit and internationally. As you pray about what to do now, the Holy ghost will become more involved in your life, as you help others, and not focus just on your hurt all the time. Again, I speak from experience. The Lord loves you, and will comfort you, strengthen you, and bless you in ways you cannot think of right now---and that comfort will mean so very much to you. Let His precious love surround you and guide you---you truly need His comfort and guidance right now.
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