I don’t have children but, you sold me on the book. It sounds like wonderful principles to practice with all my relationships. Thank you for sharing your struggle and your reward after so much searching to have a peaceful home.
DavidFebruary 8, 2018
When conflicts arise, the natural human tendency is to focus on the other person and point out how what they're doing is wrong. The difficult thing is to look within at how we might be contributing to the problem. All too often, the solution lies in putting down our magnifying glass and reaching for a mirror!
DavidFebruary 8, 2018
When things get tense, the natural human tendency is to focus on the other person's contribution to the conflict. What is hard is to look within to see what we might do differently! The answer to many conflict situations is simply to put down the magnifying glass and reach for a mirror!
BeckyFebruary 8, 2018
Well said and explained. I also saw when I started working on myself and changing how I reacted instead of focusing on changing my child’s behavior that was when we moved forward together. I am excited to read this book and apply some new parenting skills.
ViolaFebruary 7, 2018
You are an amazing woman! Your daughter is blessed to have a mother who has kept trying to find a positive way to work with her. Thanks for sharing the book title. I think it would be helpful for many relationships. I don't have children, but I'd love to have read this when I was teaching. I learned some of these things from experience, but it would have been nice to learn it sooner. These principles would work, with some adaptation, with any important relationship. I'm sharing this on my FB page. Everyone needs to read it!
Hang in there. As hard as it gets, know the Lord is with you and loves you. He must trust you to give this child into your care. Good for you for being willing to change, and for sharing what you have learned.
RosieFebruary 7, 2018
So important for those who were not allowed to cry as children, or shamed for being "too emotional"!
Bonnie CaldwellFebruary 7, 2018
Thank you so much for this article and recommendation on the book. I will buy it and give it to my daughter (who was my A) as she is having a hard time dealing with her child. I can so relate to all of what you described and I just wish the book had been available for me when I was dealing with my difficult child. I also read the Arbinger book and it did help me a lot, but I needed it sooner!
Sarah M.February 7, 2018
I love this♡ Your passion and knowledge of this topic comes through very well and the story of your journey is emotional and candid but told with love and humor. Any parent struggling with a pathway for a child can see hope and strategies regardless of their specific situation.
KatjaFebruary 7, 2018
Anette, your experiences shared are a treasure to yourself and others. Because of your bravery in being so raw, honest and accessible you are a true success. You are a single parent at this time on earth but you are not parenting alone. The Lord guided you and continues to do so. Especially when you feel least deserving of His closeness because of a slip up through a weak moment. He works miracles so we can become miracles to others. Look how far you have come on those days when the messy moments return.
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Holly JoFebruary 10, 2018
I don’t have children but, you sold me on the book. It sounds like wonderful principles to practice with all my relationships. Thank you for sharing your struggle and your reward after so much searching to have a peaceful home.
DavidFebruary 8, 2018
When conflicts arise, the natural human tendency is to focus on the other person and point out how what they're doing is wrong. The difficult thing is to look within at how we might be contributing to the problem. All too often, the solution lies in putting down our magnifying glass and reaching for a mirror!
DavidFebruary 8, 2018
When things get tense, the natural human tendency is to focus on the other person's contribution to the conflict. What is hard is to look within to see what we might do differently! The answer to many conflict situations is simply to put down the magnifying glass and reach for a mirror!
BeckyFebruary 8, 2018
Well said and explained. I also saw when I started working on myself and changing how I reacted instead of focusing on changing my child’s behavior that was when we moved forward together. I am excited to read this book and apply some new parenting skills.
ViolaFebruary 7, 2018
You are an amazing woman! Your daughter is blessed to have a mother who has kept trying to find a positive way to work with her. Thanks for sharing the book title. I think it would be helpful for many relationships. I don't have children, but I'd love to have read this when I was teaching. I learned some of these things from experience, but it would have been nice to learn it sooner. These principles would work, with some adaptation, with any important relationship. I'm sharing this on my FB page. Everyone needs to read it! Hang in there. As hard as it gets, know the Lord is with you and loves you. He must trust you to give this child into your care. Good for you for being willing to change, and for sharing what you have learned.
RosieFebruary 7, 2018
So important for those who were not allowed to cry as children, or shamed for being "too emotional"!
Bonnie CaldwellFebruary 7, 2018
Thank you so much for this article and recommendation on the book. I will buy it and give it to my daughter (who was my A) as she is having a hard time dealing with her child. I can so relate to all of what you described and I just wish the book had been available for me when I was dealing with my difficult child. I also read the Arbinger book and it did help me a lot, but I needed it sooner!
Sarah M.February 7, 2018
I love this♡ Your passion and knowledge of this topic comes through very well and the story of your journey is emotional and candid but told with love and humor. Any parent struggling with a pathway for a child can see hope and strategies regardless of their specific situation.
KatjaFebruary 7, 2018
Anette, your experiences shared are a treasure to yourself and others. Because of your bravery in being so raw, honest and accessible you are a true success. You are a single parent at this time on earth but you are not parenting alone. The Lord guided you and continues to do so. Especially when you feel least deserving of His closeness because of a slip up through a weak moment. He works miracles so we can become miracles to others. Look how far you have come on those days when the messy moments return.
Nancy PerkinsFebruary 7, 2018
Interesting article!
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