I have to agree with JH about foisting a child's siblings on the parents of that child's friends. It's more than a gross breach of etiquette; it's a form of selfishness that takes the love of family overboard. Yes, it can be overdone. If my son had a friend over to play and they decided to go to the friend's house, I would never have let a sibling go along unless I called and got permission. What if the parents didn't feel up to multiple kids of mine? What if they didn't have space or it was inconvenient or a bad time? Families are eternal, but I think we latter-day saints overdo family interest often enough to cause a hymn I recently heard in a Methodist Church praying to do good OUTSIDE the family as well as within it. I think we need some perspective, here.
JHMarch 9, 2017
I think this information is mostly good. However, when a child is invited to a birthday party, it would be a gross breach of etiquette, and possibly a major inconvenience to the parents throwing the birthday party, to have uninvited siblings showing up. Sometime kids have to understand that they don't get to participate in their siblings invitations and experiences.
jozsMarch 9, 2017
What about blended families and the hows there? Much harder it seems...and very little classic literature to draw from aside from Cinderella...;)
Mr GuitMarch 9, 2017
The biggest challenge is for adult siblings to be friends. All children are going to have disagreements throughout life. It's up to parents to set a good example because "as you sow, so shall ye reap". If we had bad upbringings it is up to us as adults to decide to get along. It's a decision and not always an easy one, as there's always a child in a family who feels shortchanged. As adults we must overcome those feelings. On the other side of the coin the children that may have been (more spoiled?), need to come down off their thrones to make this world a better place. Lets face it, most problems in life stem from the family. If we are to make this world a better place we need to let our kids know we love them and try our hardest not to play favorites. No body is perfect with this family thing!!
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IngridMay 15, 2017
I have to agree with JH about foisting a child's siblings on the parents of that child's friends. It's more than a gross breach of etiquette; it's a form of selfishness that takes the love of family overboard. Yes, it can be overdone. If my son had a friend over to play and they decided to go to the friend's house, I would never have let a sibling go along unless I called and got permission. What if the parents didn't feel up to multiple kids of mine? What if they didn't have space or it was inconvenient or a bad time? Families are eternal, but I think we latter-day saints overdo family interest often enough to cause a hymn I recently heard in a Methodist Church praying to do good OUTSIDE the family as well as within it. I think we need some perspective, here.
JHMarch 9, 2017
I think this information is mostly good. However, when a child is invited to a birthday party, it would be a gross breach of etiquette, and possibly a major inconvenience to the parents throwing the birthday party, to have uninvited siblings showing up. Sometime kids have to understand that they don't get to participate in their siblings invitations and experiences.
jozsMarch 9, 2017
What about blended families and the hows there? Much harder it seems...and very little classic literature to draw from aside from Cinderella...;)
Mr GuitMarch 9, 2017
The biggest challenge is for adult siblings to be friends. All children are going to have disagreements throughout life. It's up to parents to set a good example because "as you sow, so shall ye reap". If we had bad upbringings it is up to us as adults to decide to get along. It's a decision and not always an easy one, as there's always a child in a family who feels shortchanged. As adults we must overcome those feelings. On the other side of the coin the children that may have been (more spoiled?), need to come down off their thrones to make this world a better place. Lets face it, most problems in life stem from the family. If we are to make this world a better place we need to let our kids know we love them and try our hardest not to play favorites. No body is perfect with this family thing!!
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