Perhaps the boy should be told some of the reasons for the divorce. In my limited understand, as I have not been through an experience like this, the boy is living the effects of the divorce but without the dignity of knowing why. I can see myself seriously rebelling against those who kept me in the dark as to why my world had been turned upside down without my permission. It seems to me that he has the right to be told something just for his mental progression. I would think he needs his own form of closure to the event, but can't resolve anything until he has some answers. Again, I have no personal experience in this sort of life event, but this is how I see it. I have a grandson who has been through it, however, and at the same age as the child talked about in this letter. He had no resolution until he knew some hard, solid facts -- he was then able to make peace with both parents. Food for thought.
Having lived through this exact scenario and unfortunately having done all the things you shouldn’t do, I would advise three things:
1. Pray unceasingly for everyone, always.
2. Only time sifts the sands of pain, adjustment, and yes, karma. Be patient.
3. In the end nothing earthly matters but relationships. Value them, nurture them, and above all embrace the notion you will want to be forgiven for your mistakes along the way so be prepared to forgive everyone anything that has offended or hurt you. It’s the only way to create some joy in the sometimes awkward journey of blending families.
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