Richard--I have been a fan of yours since The Christmas Box, and all books since. Glad that you and Keri are still together.
jewelFebruary 13, 2015
Great, honest article. Love The Walk series btw.
PaulineFebruary 13, 2015
Simply stated, but very wise counsel. I need to do this. Thanks for being so honest and sharing what you learned with the rest of us.
MARYFebruary 12, 2015
OH MY -NOW I AM WRITING TO YOU-I HAVEN`T MISSED A BOOK- THANKS - YOUR WRITING ABOUT MARRIAGE REMINDS ME OF AN ARTICAL FROM GORDON B. HINCKLE-I CAN`T QUOTE IT BUT BEING KIND TO YOUR SPOUSE AND ABOVE ALL TO BE UNSELFISH. THANKS FOR THIS MOST'' RECENT''STORY" FOR US - "THE BEST ONE OF ALL" THANKS FOR THE SERVICE YOU PERFORMED FOR US . LOVE MARY
mormonyoyomanFebruary 11, 2015
Not all wives respond to kindness or any kind of love. Almost every article or book I've read, puts the blame or responsibility on the husbands. Except for Sister Brotherson's article awhile back, and it has been deleted from Meridian.
Are we males so horrible that not only our wives and society, but now even the Church seems to reject us as husbands and fathers.
Mike MansfieldFebruary 11, 2015
Thank you for the sage advice and insights, Rick.
DuellaFebruary 11, 2015
I loved this article. Very common sense that gets overlooked in the frustrations of every day life. We need to remember the Why's of why we got together in the first place. And service to each other is always the solid in staying together.
Barrie GilesFebruary 11, 2015
At dinner the other night, one of my friends compared marriage to the stock market. It has some gut wrenching drops and some wonderfully high gains. All in all, if you stay in it, your investment generally goes up in value over time, no matter what the stock price is on any given day. I loved this article Richard. It brought tears to my eyes because, like most married people, I have felt the regret of years of misunderstanding, and the joy of finally getting the message from God that the only way to change a relationship is to change yourself. The trick is to keep investing. Most divorces could probably be avoided if we look at the situation from an investor point of view. Smart investors make regular deposits to their account to take advantage of dollar cost averaging. And they never sell low.
bobFebruary 11, 2015
We've been married 37 years. My oldest son, when he had been married ten years, came to us with a problem, "I think I'm heading to a divorce". What? My wife and I had a fight, and I think it means a divorce. Apparently my wife and I had so effectivly hidden our quarels, that he felt that there was no fighting allowed in marriage. We took time to review with him our many trials and suggested that he needs to find a way to work on his marriage just as we did.
I so appreciate your suggestion - that Love means making my partner happy. We just fought it out - or worse, ignored our differences until we created a dull-ache, and learned to live with it. Not an effective tool.
My wife once told me that she Loved me, just didn't lilke me - and wondered if an eternity without a friend woujld be lonley.
Great counsel in the article. Thanks
Randall McNeelyFebruary 11, 2015
Beautiful article. Lessons on many levels. The power of prayer, the blessings that come from selfless service as acts of love, the strength we gain personally and collectively when we forget about ourselves. Thanks so much for sharing. My life has been blessed today because of it.
CharlieBrown2292February 11, 2015
Hi Richard:
I was praying for guidance about my marriage and found your article this morning upon checking on Meridian page...if I had described my own marriage and relationship with my wife, one couldn't have seen any difference with what you experienced. I knew intuitively that your approach to solving your marital challenges was the right one, but it does help to see it in writing. This gives me the kind of perspective I needed in order to work at saving my marriage, family... and myself! May the Lord bless you for your invaluable insights.
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Dorthea, 17 February 2015February 17, 2015
Richard--I have been a fan of yours since The Christmas Box, and all books since. Glad that you and Keri are still together.
jewelFebruary 13, 2015
Great, honest article. Love The Walk series btw.
PaulineFebruary 13, 2015
Simply stated, but very wise counsel. I need to do this. Thanks for being so honest and sharing what you learned with the rest of us.
MARYFebruary 12, 2015
OH MY -NOW I AM WRITING TO YOU-I HAVEN`T MISSED A BOOK- THANKS - YOUR WRITING ABOUT MARRIAGE REMINDS ME OF AN ARTICAL FROM GORDON B. HINCKLE-I CAN`T QUOTE IT BUT BEING KIND TO YOUR SPOUSE AND ABOVE ALL TO BE UNSELFISH. THANKS FOR THIS MOST'' RECENT''STORY" FOR US - "THE BEST ONE OF ALL" THANKS FOR THE SERVICE YOU PERFORMED FOR US . LOVE MARY
mormonyoyomanFebruary 11, 2015
Not all wives respond to kindness or any kind of love. Almost every article or book I've read, puts the blame or responsibility on the husbands. Except for Sister Brotherson's article awhile back, and it has been deleted from Meridian. Are we males so horrible that not only our wives and society, but now even the Church seems to reject us as husbands and fathers.
Mike MansfieldFebruary 11, 2015
Thank you for the sage advice and insights, Rick.
DuellaFebruary 11, 2015
I loved this article. Very common sense that gets overlooked in the frustrations of every day life. We need to remember the Why's of why we got together in the first place. And service to each other is always the solid in staying together.
Barrie GilesFebruary 11, 2015
At dinner the other night, one of my friends compared marriage to the stock market. It has some gut wrenching drops and some wonderfully high gains. All in all, if you stay in it, your investment generally goes up in value over time, no matter what the stock price is on any given day. I loved this article Richard. It brought tears to my eyes because, like most married people, I have felt the regret of years of misunderstanding, and the joy of finally getting the message from God that the only way to change a relationship is to change yourself. The trick is to keep investing. Most divorces could probably be avoided if we look at the situation from an investor point of view. Smart investors make regular deposits to their account to take advantage of dollar cost averaging. And they never sell low.
bobFebruary 11, 2015
We've been married 37 years. My oldest son, when he had been married ten years, came to us with a problem, "I think I'm heading to a divorce". What? My wife and I had a fight, and I think it means a divorce. Apparently my wife and I had so effectivly hidden our quarels, that he felt that there was no fighting allowed in marriage. We took time to review with him our many trials and suggested that he needs to find a way to work on his marriage just as we did. I so appreciate your suggestion - that Love means making my partner happy. We just fought it out - or worse, ignored our differences until we created a dull-ache, and learned to live with it. Not an effective tool. My wife once told me that she Loved me, just didn't lilke me - and wondered if an eternity without a friend woujld be lonley. Great counsel in the article. Thanks
Randall McNeelyFebruary 11, 2015
Beautiful article. Lessons on many levels. The power of prayer, the blessings that come from selfless service as acts of love, the strength we gain personally and collectively when we forget about ourselves. Thanks so much for sharing. My life has been blessed today because of it.
CharlieBrown2292February 11, 2015
Hi Richard: I was praying for guidance about my marriage and found your article this morning upon checking on Meridian page...if I had described my own marriage and relationship with my wife, one couldn't have seen any difference with what you experienced. I knew intuitively that your approach to solving your marital challenges was the right one, but it does help to see it in writing. This gives me the kind of perspective I needed in order to work at saving my marriage, family... and myself! May the Lord bless you for your invaluable insights.
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