The marriage relationship is sacred and should not be spoken of lightly or with disrespect. Trust is an essential element in marriage. I would be devastated if my husband abused that trust by speaking about our marriage to others. Brother Steurer made some excellent points. Problems in the marriage should be worked out within the marriage. If that doesn't work, a visit with the Bishop would be a good step. He will keep your private issues private and he is endowed with inspiration to give guidance according to gospel principles. Even a trustworthy friend might "slip" and reveal your confidences to others. This could seriously harm the marriage and trust within the marriage, and also your friendship. As Brother Steurer noted, the problems you reveal to others might cause them to have bad feelings toward your spouse long after you have forgiven them.
Learned the Hard WayDecember 20, 2024
On the other hand... my ex's family had a strict "never talk about the family outside of the house" rule, and it took me a long time to find out that they were all covering up generations of abuse. Isolating you from your support system is a prime tactic of abusers. Keeping issues between just the two of you doesn't work if one of you is an abuser.
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MaryannJanuary 1, 2025
The marriage relationship is sacred and should not be spoken of lightly or with disrespect. Trust is an essential element in marriage. I would be devastated if my husband abused that trust by speaking about our marriage to others. Brother Steurer made some excellent points. Problems in the marriage should be worked out within the marriage. If that doesn't work, a visit with the Bishop would be a good step. He will keep your private issues private and he is endowed with inspiration to give guidance according to gospel principles. Even a trustworthy friend might "slip" and reveal your confidences to others. This could seriously harm the marriage and trust within the marriage, and also your friendship. As Brother Steurer noted, the problems you reveal to others might cause them to have bad feelings toward your spouse long after you have forgiven them.
Learned the Hard WayDecember 20, 2024
On the other hand... my ex's family had a strict "never talk about the family outside of the house" rule, and it took me a long time to find out that they were all covering up generations of abuse. Isolating you from your support system is a prime tactic of abusers. Keeping issues between just the two of you doesn't work if one of you is an abuser.
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