Thank you for this article!
I have faced this problem for many years and its nice to find that it isn't my fault!!!
It wouldn't be as bad if he would say something nice about me once in a while ???? And I have said that to him over and over and over and over again. I lost my trust in him many years ago when I found the porn stuff I'm a very deflated woman, now illness has come I can't go nowhere.
I know that my Heavenly father really likes me xx
And his incredible son died for us, that he is our Saviour
Maryann TaylorJuly 25, 2020
I really like the advice given here. The man who demeans his wife needs to experience immediate consequences for his behavior. Perhaps if she immediately leaves the social event every time he speaks unkindly about her, he might finally get the message and stop this unacceptable behavior. If this means leaving him stranded without a car, so be it.
HalJuly 24, 2020
My wife and I are both jovial people and used to make wise cracks in the company of others at each other's expense. We both realized some of these remarks, though meant in fun, were actually hurtful. We learned to deal with this by saying something like, "Honey, I feel like you are criticizing me," or "Sweetheart, I feel like you're putting me down with that comment." We say this aloud regardless of who is present. That pulls us back into focus and, while momentarily embarrassing, helps us remember who it is we are talking about.
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TruJuly 26, 2020
Thank you for this article! I have faced this problem for many years and its nice to find that it isn't my fault!!! It wouldn't be as bad if he would say something nice about me once in a while ???? And I have said that to him over and over and over and over again. I lost my trust in him many years ago when I found the porn stuff I'm a very deflated woman, now illness has come I can't go nowhere. I know that my Heavenly father really likes me xx And his incredible son died for us, that he is our Saviour
Maryann TaylorJuly 25, 2020
I really like the advice given here. The man who demeans his wife needs to experience immediate consequences for his behavior. Perhaps if she immediately leaves the social event every time he speaks unkindly about her, he might finally get the message and stop this unacceptable behavior. If this means leaving him stranded without a car, so be it.
HalJuly 24, 2020
My wife and I are both jovial people and used to make wise cracks in the company of others at each other's expense. We both realized some of these remarks, though meant in fun, were actually hurtful. We learned to deal with this by saying something like, "Honey, I feel like you are criticizing me," or "Sweetheart, I feel like you're putting me down with that comment." We say this aloud regardless of who is present. That pulls us back into focus and, while momentarily embarrassing, helps us remember who it is we are talking about.
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