His wanting sex more than her sounds like a normal guy and her response sounds about normal for a woman, particularly an older woman with a religious background. What troubles me about this, especially from a guys viewpoint is that he doesn't seem to be doing anything else but asking for sex or waiting around thinking about it. Not helping with the yard work or around the house or having any activities or hobbies is not normal or healthy, even more so if he's not doing it because he's not getting sex. He needs to talk to counselor and/or a doctor. For her I would recommend reading Sister Laura Brotherson's book or the book Real Intimacy or The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and any of Sheila Wray Greg life's articles or books.
Anonymous for obvious reasonsNovember 22, 2021
It is unfortunate that more people do not understand the physiological effects of chronic aging and disease on the act of intimacy on both men and women.
To be brief, when sexual difficulties are encountered, a man will become hypersexual attempting to "burn" through and fix the problem where a woman will become hyposexual and retreat from the problem. I realize that this description is a generalization and that situations outside the norm are a given.
I returned from my mission, got married and soon developed acute prostatitis that soon developed into a deep chronic infection that made completion of intimacy painful. I too, became hypersexual making excessive demands on my wife.
Diabetes, injuries with neurological damage, an improper circumcision, hypertension, hormonal disorders are some of the things that can affect sexual sensation that is experienced.
Love, consideration, care and understanding are needed by both husband and wife in such situations.
Such things are experienced by both sexes as we age and as "opposition in all things" is experienced.
Again, it is indeed unfortunate that such things are not understood because if they were, I know that much frustration and unhappiness in this mortal existence could be avoided.
Jessica WhitakerNovember 21, 2021
Sounds like the husband may be viewing pornography, have a history of sexual abuse, and/or lack developmental maturity. The wife may be wisely stearing clear of any creepy encounters.
Jill A.November 21, 2021
Wow I wish I could have had this counsel when I was married and several different counselors recommended committing to sex three times a week, which I did, and of course didn't help. This counsel makes so much sense. Thank you
MickeyNovember 21, 2021
This man sounds extremely selfish and like he is addicted to pornography.
Anonymous for obvious reasonsNovember 20, 2021
I would like to add this…. As a man feels like his sexual stamina if waining, he may behave is ways to desperately to stave off the inevitable decline. Trust me on this. As I have aged, I have felt increased desire for sexual fulfillment just to prove to myself that “I am as good as I ever was.” (To borrow a line from Toby Keith.)
I would recommend that along with Mr. Steurer’s recommendations, you compliment him on his love-making as well as other things even when you are not going to fulfill his desires. Reassure him that he is fine, loved, and desirable whether or not you are having sex.. So those occasions that you do not of cannot meet his needs, he doesn’t take is as an affront or a rejection.
My wife has done this and we enjoy healthy intimate relationship both sexually and emotionally, with a lot of love and laughter. And it’s okay as I age. It isn’t like it was. But I am literally head over heels devoted to her and the attention she can and does give me.
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CDNovember 22, 2021
His wanting sex more than her sounds like a normal guy and her response sounds about normal for a woman, particularly an older woman with a religious background. What troubles me about this, especially from a guys viewpoint is that he doesn't seem to be doing anything else but asking for sex or waiting around thinking about it. Not helping with the yard work or around the house or having any activities or hobbies is not normal or healthy, even more so if he's not doing it because he's not getting sex. He needs to talk to counselor and/or a doctor. For her I would recommend reading Sister Laura Brotherson's book or the book Real Intimacy or The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and any of Sheila Wray Greg life's articles or books.
Anonymous for obvious reasonsNovember 22, 2021
It is unfortunate that more people do not understand the physiological effects of chronic aging and disease on the act of intimacy on both men and women. To be brief, when sexual difficulties are encountered, a man will become hypersexual attempting to "burn" through and fix the problem where a woman will become hyposexual and retreat from the problem. I realize that this description is a generalization and that situations outside the norm are a given. I returned from my mission, got married and soon developed acute prostatitis that soon developed into a deep chronic infection that made completion of intimacy painful. I too, became hypersexual making excessive demands on my wife. Diabetes, injuries with neurological damage, an improper circumcision, hypertension, hormonal disorders are some of the things that can affect sexual sensation that is experienced. Love, consideration, care and understanding are needed by both husband and wife in such situations. Such things are experienced by both sexes as we age and as "opposition in all things" is experienced. Again, it is indeed unfortunate that such things are not understood because if they were, I know that much frustration and unhappiness in this mortal existence could be avoided.
Jessica WhitakerNovember 21, 2021
Sounds like the husband may be viewing pornography, have a history of sexual abuse, and/or lack developmental maturity. The wife may be wisely stearing clear of any creepy encounters.
Jill A.November 21, 2021
Wow I wish I could have had this counsel when I was married and several different counselors recommended committing to sex three times a week, which I did, and of course didn't help. This counsel makes so much sense. Thank you
MickeyNovember 21, 2021
This man sounds extremely selfish and like he is addicted to pornography.
Anonymous for obvious reasonsNovember 20, 2021
I would like to add this…. As a man feels like his sexual stamina if waining, he may behave is ways to desperately to stave off the inevitable decline. Trust me on this. As I have aged, I have felt increased desire for sexual fulfillment just to prove to myself that “I am as good as I ever was.” (To borrow a line from Toby Keith.) I would recommend that along with Mr. Steurer’s recommendations, you compliment him on his love-making as well as other things even when you are not going to fulfill his desires. Reassure him that he is fine, loved, and desirable whether or not you are having sex.. So those occasions that you do not of cannot meet his needs, he doesn’t take is as an affront or a rejection. My wife has done this and we enjoy healthy intimate relationship both sexually and emotionally, with a lot of love and laughter. And it’s okay as I age. It isn’t like it was. But I am literally head over heels devoted to her and the attention she can and does give me.
tfNovember 20, 2021
Is he addicted to porn?
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