Chris you are so right. There is no place in the scriptures where it says, "Forgive and forget."
There are times when forgiveness gives us the opportunity to learn who or what to avoid. We do not need to feed a fire, just quietly walk away and do what we need to protect ourselves from the fire.
This is a wonderful read and I really learned from it.
Douglas NadybalMarch 21, 2019
The act of forgiving implies the other party truly has acted unjustly, or in other words, our forgiving implies their guilt. I have found that sometimes there is no real sin, just conflicting interests that become entrenched and immovable objects. Better I think to just try and understand the other persons point of view and what they were seeking. If it become apparent there was no motive other than hate, then it really is time to move on. There isn't always going to be a happy ending. In the article above, the case study showed that there was no resolve to their differences, they just ignored it, which was ironic in that the author said that he felt ignoring it was likewise useless.
CrisMarch 20, 2019
We can forgive a person, but that doesn't mean we must allow that person into our lives again.
Charles DefranchiMarch 20, 2019
Larry was a friend and I a glad Scot and Maurine continue publishing his articles in his magazine. This one is particularly powerful in terms of what is being expected of us in terms of spiritual refinement. As most of us, I feel that I have on so many occasions been wrongfully treated, and though I do not have a mind to retaliate, I do find it difficult not to relive thoses offenses and hold grudges against those who committed them, even decades later. Larry's writing on forgiveness is bringing to me new and fresh insights and will help me in letting go of such perfectly sterile and counter-productive grudges.
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CubbyMarch 22, 2019
Chris you are so right. There is no place in the scriptures where it says, "Forgive and forget." There are times when forgiveness gives us the opportunity to learn who or what to avoid. We do not need to feed a fire, just quietly walk away and do what we need to protect ourselves from the fire. This is a wonderful read and I really learned from it.
Douglas NadybalMarch 21, 2019
The act of forgiving implies the other party truly has acted unjustly, or in other words, our forgiving implies their guilt. I have found that sometimes there is no real sin, just conflicting interests that become entrenched and immovable objects. Better I think to just try and understand the other persons point of view and what they were seeking. If it become apparent there was no motive other than hate, then it really is time to move on. There isn't always going to be a happy ending. In the article above, the case study showed that there was no resolve to their differences, they just ignored it, which was ironic in that the author said that he felt ignoring it was likewise useless.
CrisMarch 20, 2019
We can forgive a person, but that doesn't mean we must allow that person into our lives again.
Charles DefranchiMarch 20, 2019
Larry was a friend and I a glad Scot and Maurine continue publishing his articles in his magazine. This one is particularly powerful in terms of what is being expected of us in terms of spiritual refinement. As most of us, I feel that I have on so many occasions been wrongfully treated, and though I do not have a mind to retaliate, I do find it difficult not to relive thoses offenses and hold grudges against those who committed them, even decades later. Larry's writing on forgiveness is bringing to me new and fresh insights and will help me in letting go of such perfectly sterile and counter-productive grudges.
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