What about when you've reached a point where you are tired of trying? I really need some insight on this. I don't have a horrible marriage. I'm just tired of being the only one who seems to care about it. I keep doing the things I know to be right. I keep doing the things I'm told will make our marriage better. I get nothing back. Affection has never been a strong point for her, and I knew that going in, but it's waning more and more. She's happy and content. I'm finding it hard to hide my resentment. We've been married 30 years. I don't know what to do.
Wally GoddardJanuary 16, 2018
Thank you to Leah and Marilyn for humble and honest sharing. May God bless you and your families. Wally
Wally GoddardJanuary 16, 2018
No, Charlie Brown, I'm afraid I didn't receive your message. Would love to hear from you. My current email is [email protected]
LeahJanuary 16, 2018
Excellent article. I wish I could have followed this advice 25 years ago when I chose divorce. At the time I thought I was justified but I lived to regret that choice. Divorce is a disaster for the children - no matter what the world tells you. And it was not long before I learned I was part of the problem. Looking back I see there was so much I could have done. I wish I had read the Book of Mormon every day, and asked the Lord to guide and strengthen me. I wish I had been kind. I wish I had focused on improving myself rather than criticizing him and seeing where HE could improve. I have learned a lot and grown a lot, but I forfeited the blessing of temple marriage and exposed my children to the harshness of the world without a strong family to support and bless them. Make these decisions with care.
MarilynJanuary 16, 2018
After nearly 30 years of marriage, I can testify to these truths you’ve written. I’d never read them many of them before but learned them through experience and so much affliction in our lives and rough periods with my spouse. Life can be so hard but I’ve found that when I keep my covenants and have faith in and look to my Lord and Savior in all things, He more than makes up for what I am suffering.
CharlieBrown2292January 16, 2018
Dear Wally,
You have no idea how you blessed my life and marriage over many years through your writings! I will actually translate and copy this article for our local Church Leadership, which, as everywhere else, is dealing with too many couples considering divorce.
To address another matter, I did send you a long message through Email to catch up with you after too many years, but I am not sure you received it. If you did, please let me know - a Yes or No answer will be enough. If you did not, then I would know because I wouldn't receive any message on my gmail account. Many thanks and blessings.
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OttersareFunMarch 9, 2018
What about when you've reached a point where you are tired of trying? I really need some insight on this. I don't have a horrible marriage. I'm just tired of being the only one who seems to care about it. I keep doing the things I know to be right. I keep doing the things I'm told will make our marriage better. I get nothing back. Affection has never been a strong point for her, and I knew that going in, but it's waning more and more. She's happy and content. I'm finding it hard to hide my resentment. We've been married 30 years. I don't know what to do.
Wally GoddardJanuary 16, 2018
Thank you to Leah and Marilyn for humble and honest sharing. May God bless you and your families. Wally
Wally GoddardJanuary 16, 2018
No, Charlie Brown, I'm afraid I didn't receive your message. Would love to hear from you. My current email is [email protected]
LeahJanuary 16, 2018
Excellent article. I wish I could have followed this advice 25 years ago when I chose divorce. At the time I thought I was justified but I lived to regret that choice. Divorce is a disaster for the children - no matter what the world tells you. And it was not long before I learned I was part of the problem. Looking back I see there was so much I could have done. I wish I had read the Book of Mormon every day, and asked the Lord to guide and strengthen me. I wish I had been kind. I wish I had focused on improving myself rather than criticizing him and seeing where HE could improve. I have learned a lot and grown a lot, but I forfeited the blessing of temple marriage and exposed my children to the harshness of the world without a strong family to support and bless them. Make these decisions with care.
MarilynJanuary 16, 2018
After nearly 30 years of marriage, I can testify to these truths you’ve written. I’d never read them many of them before but learned them through experience and so much affliction in our lives and rough periods with my spouse. Life can be so hard but I’ve found that when I keep my covenants and have faith in and look to my Lord and Savior in all things, He more than makes up for what I am suffering.
CharlieBrown2292January 16, 2018
Dear Wally, You have no idea how you blessed my life and marriage over many years through your writings! I will actually translate and copy this article for our local Church Leadership, which, as everywhere else, is dealing with too many couples considering divorce. To address another matter, I did send you a long message through Email to catch up with you after too many years, but I am not sure you received it. If you did, please let me know - a Yes or No answer will be enough. If you did not, then I would know because I wouldn't receive any message on my gmail account. Many thanks and blessings.
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