Kevin came up to my desk after class. âProfessor Howard, may I talk to you?â
âSure,â I answered. âWhat would you like to talk about?â
âI want to wait until everyone else is gone?â he whispered.
I nodded, and erased the board and did a few other cleanup tasks as we waited. My class had just finished a test review. I provide questions that the students are to complete and bring to class. They then go over them in groups to make sure they understand everything.Â
Once the other students had vacated the room, I sat on the edge of the desk. âSo, Kevin, what can I help you with?â
âIâm sorry to keep you after class,â Kevin replied, âbut I didnât want to hurt anyoneâs feelings if they overheard me. I just wanted to say that I just canât work with my group.â
âPersonality conflict?â I asked.
That was usually the reason students gave for wanting to change groups. It was often caused by a boy and a girl in the group dating and something going wrong in their relationship.Â
Kevin shook his head. âNo. Itâs just that theyâre so stupid I canât stand it. I know all of the answers, and they donât get the math at all. Theyâre no help to me.â
âIf you know the material, canât you help them?â I asked.Â
He shook his head. âI donât work well with stupid people.â
I was a little taken aback by all of this. I have had students previously who thought they were too smart to work with others, but I had never had anyone be so blunt about it.
âIs there any group you would like to be part of?â I asked.
Kevin shook his head. âFrankly, as I listened to all of the groups around me, I realized that theyâre all stupid. I would be better off doing it on my own.â
I paused at his arrogance, but I have learned that someone who doesnât want to work with others shouldnât be forced toânot for the sake of the person, but for the sake of the other group members. It causes too much disharmony.
âIf thatâs how you feel, you donât have to work with a group on the next review.âÂ
He thanked me and left. I shook my head in disbelief. I thought about it a minute, and then noted the names of each member of his group so I could check their scores.Â
A couple of days later, after the test closed, I logged in to check grades. The class average was seventy-four percent. Every one of the other members of Kevinâs group scored even higher, receiving Aâs and Bâs. I assumed Kevin must have done really well, but when I looked at his grade, I was surprised. He had scored a sixty-two percent.Â
I said nothing to him, but when I announced the class average, I did see Kevin ask his group members how they did. When they responded, his expression was priceless.
On the next test, he didnât work with his group. Once again, the class average was in the seventies, and Kevinâs group members received Aâs and Bâs. Kevin scored a sixty-percent. He asked me how his group members did, but I couldnât legally tell him, so he asked them.
After class, Kevin came up to see me. âProfessor Howard, do you know what I scored on my two tests?â I nodded, so he continued. âI thought it had to be a fluke for my group members to get Aâs and Bâs when I got a sixty-two. I decided they must have drug me down. But it happened again without them. What should I do?â
âI would suggest you study with your group,â I replied. âA smart person knows that he can learn something from everyone.â
Kevin nodded, and the next time we did a review, Kevin was actively participating with his group. His test ended up being a B. He stayed after class the next day to talk to me.
He just smiled and said six words. âA smart person learns from others.â
Kevin had learned something even more important than math.
TeressaMarch 16, 2017
Love it! What a great lesson we get to learn over and over by experience. Grateful for the life that gives us that opportunity to learn. Way to let him find that lesson through personal choice.