A member stopped by the room I was in on Sunday asking who to ask abt making an appointment with the bishop. The member left & came back a while later & asked who you go to when you have questions "there are no answers to" & asked if you just mail them straight to Church hq. I said they'd just mail them right back to your stake president & suggested she make an appointment with him.
I just get the feeling the member is looking for a way out & a confrontation w/the leadership. What would you do as a friend/rank & file member to alleviate concerns or thwart a coming rampage?
MaryannAugust 23, 2013
I feel like the questions suggested here will only encourage the gossip. Once you begin asking questions you are accepting the person's invitation to take part in gossip. I think the best thing we can do is to show compassion with a simple: "I'm so sorry that happened." We can follow that with : "You need to talk to him (or her) and express your feelings." This is in harmony with the Savior's teaching that we should go alone to those who have offended us and talk with THEM, not other people.
peter kirima August 22, 2013
I see so much of these in Africa.i guess sometimes it has to do with choices.i think each of us has been guilty on one instance or another probably due to anger or unfavourable circumstances.yet, the only way to safety is to stay away from such practices
Happy HubbyAugust 21, 2013
I just read the first part of this article along with this one. It is very good and has a great point. Evil speaking of anyone is wrong.
I also like / agree with many of the comments mentioning that having a disagreement with a leader does NOT equal
DarcyAugust 21, 2013
My response to this article is that all the church leaders should go and take serious classes in communication, meaning, how to be empathic listeners. Always pray about what to say and you will find that the Lord will always guide us to just lovingly accept peoples feelings. This acceptance of feelings without any advice at all will help to dissipate the complainers feelings. You will not be showing you agree with them you will just be showing you care about them and respect them and love them.
Craig FrogleyAugust 21, 2013
Well done and well written...very engaging and certainly important as we seek the unity of our Zion promise. Thank you for so many very practical suggestions. This is a keeper.
C BakerAugust 21, 2013
Thank you very much for these suggestions. Sometimes the problem is just not knowing what to say.
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kcSeptember 2, 2013
A member stopped by the room I was in on Sunday asking who to ask abt making an appointment with the bishop. The member left & came back a while later & asked who you go to when you have questions "there are no answers to" & asked if you just mail them straight to Church hq. I said they'd just mail them right back to your stake president & suggested she make an appointment with him. I just get the feeling the member is looking for a way out & a confrontation w/the leadership. What would you do as a friend/rank & file member to alleviate concerns or thwart a coming rampage?
MaryannAugust 23, 2013
I feel like the questions suggested here will only encourage the gossip. Once you begin asking questions you are accepting the person's invitation to take part in gossip. I think the best thing we can do is to show compassion with a simple: "I'm so sorry that happened." We can follow that with : "You need to talk to him (or her) and express your feelings." This is in harmony with the Savior's teaching that we should go alone to those who have offended us and talk with THEM, not other people.
peter kirima August 22, 2013
I see so much of these in Africa.i guess sometimes it has to do with choices.i think each of us has been guilty on one instance or another probably due to anger or unfavourable circumstances.yet, the only way to safety is to stay away from such practices
Happy HubbyAugust 21, 2013
I just read the first part of this article along with this one. It is very good and has a great point. Evil speaking of anyone is wrong. I also like / agree with many of the comments mentioning that having a disagreement with a leader does NOT equal
DarcyAugust 21, 2013
My response to this article is that all the church leaders should go and take serious classes in communication, meaning, how to be empathic listeners. Always pray about what to say and you will find that the Lord will always guide us to just lovingly accept peoples feelings. This acceptance of feelings without any advice at all will help to dissipate the complainers feelings. You will not be showing you agree with them you will just be showing you care about them and respect them and love them.
Craig FrogleyAugust 21, 2013
Well done and well written...very engaging and certainly important as we seek the unity of our Zion promise. Thank you for so many very practical suggestions. This is a keeper.
C BakerAugust 21, 2013
Thank you very much for these suggestions. Sometimes the problem is just not knowing what to say.
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