Your Hardest Family Question: My ex-husband is playing games with his visitation
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DaleFebruary 3, 2014
Was I the only one thinking this was a one-sided artcile? While I am not divotced myself, I do have family members who are, and it is ALWAYS he/she is bad and poor me for one reason or another, when that is rarely the case.
Albert SchindlerFebruary 3, 2014
Geoff, I fully agree with your response to the problem this young, single Mom is having with her ex. I, too, had similar problems, only in my case, it was with my ex wife! I live in Canada, and she even moved to the US for several years which prevented me from seeing my children, and I had visiting rights, so I know how frustrating something like that can be. However, now that my children are fully grown, the shoe is on the other foot. The silly nonsense that my ex displayed during those early years is coming back to haunt her. Although it is difficult at the time, a mature response will win the day and your children will love you all the more for it.
JanetJanuary 31, 2014
Geoff, As the divorced mother of seven wonderful children - now grown and parents themselves - I would make a strong suggestion: make the children responsible for their own clothes and property. sit down with them and talk about how fortunate they are to have nice clothing when so many children in the world have so very little, and be sure they understand that it costs money to buy them which you work to pay for. (Depending on their age, you may want to go over your budget with them.) Then each time they go with their dad, have a written list - which the children can write and you check off - of everything they take so they can check off the list as they repack to come back home. If they forget an item, they must retrieve it the next time they are at their dad's or forgo some other need or treat to pay for the item's replacement. That should put a stop to the carelessness in a hurry. I would add teaching them that taking care of their own property is evidence that they are being good and accountable stewards of what the Lord has blessed them with. See D & C 104:13 and 54-56..
AngelaJanuary 31, 2014
Both my daughters are divorced and their solution to the missing clothes issue (because even the best of dads aren't very clued in where kids' clothes are concerned) is to establish two separate wardrobes, that is, clothes that stay at dad's place and clothes that stay at Mom's. It can take a little while to get this organised but it's worth the effort and saves time in getting packed.
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