This sounds similar to my marriage --- and yes, we have struggled -- but my husband is a faithful priesthood holder and has always treated me with the utmost respect and love. It took us a few years to figure things out, but after our children were in school, we realized that I had the better education and could better provide for our family. So, I returned to work full-time. I earn twice as much as my husband and have been able to give our family a nice middle-class life. I love working and my husband has been very supportive of my career. It has blessed our children. We have both always put the Lord first and that is the key to a successful marriage. At some point this young woman will need to accept the reality that I had to -- if I wanted a life of financial stability -- I had to be the primary breadwinner. If this woman does NOT want to be the primary breadwinner and if she is okay living a life that is not financially stable -- she probably should seek another companion. My reality is that I am the breadwinner because I have more education and job skills that command a higher income. There is nothing wrong with my choice -- it has pulled our family out of an uncertain and untenable financial situation and provided us with economic stability. I love my husband and focus on his strengths -- which are many. I have learned to ignore his weaknesses and celebrate his strengths.
This sounds like a continuation of a 21st century problem, and that is very demanding females. What should be expected is that a person who is a covenant keeping hard working person should be the goal. Yes, we live in a monetary society, but the princess syndrome is getting old. If it isn't right, leave. There are lots of people who appreciate more than how many degrees a person has, and this is coming from a couple who collectively have 5 degrees between them.
What I gather from this account is that we have here a young woman who finds herself facing a certain amount of insecurities. One good example of this is her panic on her wedding day. It came neither from the Holy Ghost nor from the Adversary, but from her own self-talk. Before considering breaking her marriage or attempting to fix it, she should get counseling on how to better manage her emotions, and.learn to deal with the challenges of life in a more serene manner.
This sounds like a very high maintenance female that should end this marriage. It seems that she does not know what is really important, sorry there is more to life than many degrees, and I have more than two. If if doesn't feel right, than it isn't, but don't put on earthly qualifiers to justify it.
At the very least they should continue to postpone having children until they are sure. Don't force a marriage, specially when it can still dissolve peacefully. After having children the game is much more difficult.
At any rate it is their choice, but if you have to work that hard at the beginning usually it just gets much worse before it gets any better.
Two marriages I know of on the opposite end of what is being described, one with emotional abuse that began right away and lasted 12 years, with an ahigh functioning autistic man and the other with a narcissistic bride whose father in law told the groom he had to sever his relationship with his parents to cleave unto his new wife , and he has. Both are still enduring consequences that are awful. It is not easy to see the future negative possibilities.
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