I completely understand what this dear sister is going through. My husband left me many years ago for someone else when my children were toddlers. I lost the child I was carrying. He never took any responsibility for his children. I am still alone 35 years later because no man has ever expressed an interest in me and I am now too old anyway and not well. I can't volunteer because I've had a stroke and can't get around anymore.Loneliness is pain that never goes away. I don't want to be alone in Heaven but I have no choice. No celestial marriage for me.
Radhika RishiMay 30, 2016
I am so very sorry this Sister is struggling with so much pain. I am also alone in the world, though not widowed. My mother gave me some wonderful advice before she went through the veil. She said "You are in a unique position. You can pick your family." Pick well, my Sister. Sometimes a surrogate family member can become a bigger blessing to you. We have a family friend that my mother asked to take over mother duties. She is a very honorable person. After my mother passed, I was a passenger in a horiffic car accident. I was paralyzed. I could not eat, dress, brush my teeth and was left totally blind amongst many other problems. This friend came over daily and took care of me. Mind you she was in her 80's. I could feel the love she had for me. I have since regained the ability to walk, feed myself, dress myself and other things. Do I still struggle? Yes. But, I remember this woman daily. I am happy to call her "Mom". Pick your family. All the advice given, I agree with and follow. If I can be of service, feel free to contact me.
Mary KankampMay 27, 2016
Thankful for someone to write her experience, for I too am alone in the same way. My husband and our only child are both deceased. Extended family lives far away and too old to be hired, I am looking to do volunteer work in the community when I can get time from all the church callings. It is helps to know there are others with the same concerns.
M. HansenMay 27, 2016
I am so sorry for what this sister is going through and wish I could help her. I lost my mother, brother-in-law and then husband within three months but I do have children, siblings and in-laws. I can't imagine having no one to rely on or talk to, but even in a room full of family I can still feel extremely alone. Losing my husband was like losing an appendage - I just feel different. That's when I rely on my Father in Heaven or think of the Savior and how alone he felt in the garden and on the cross. Staying busy and planning things to look forward to helps - like lunch with a friend, attending social or charitable functions, travel or try something new that doesn't take you too far out of your comfort zone. If you need to hole up by yourself, that's ok too just don't stay there too long because it's hard to get out of that dark place. Sorry this is so long. Hope it helps someone and that I remember to take my own advice.
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PaulaJune 1, 2016
I completely understand what this dear sister is going through. My husband left me many years ago for someone else when my children were toddlers. I lost the child I was carrying. He never took any responsibility for his children. I am still alone 35 years later because no man has ever expressed an interest in me and I am now too old anyway and not well. I can't volunteer because I've had a stroke and can't get around anymore.Loneliness is pain that never goes away. I don't want to be alone in Heaven but I have no choice. No celestial marriage for me.
Radhika RishiMay 30, 2016
I am so very sorry this Sister is struggling with so much pain. I am also alone in the world, though not widowed. My mother gave me some wonderful advice before she went through the veil. She said "You are in a unique position. You can pick your family." Pick well, my Sister. Sometimes a surrogate family member can become a bigger blessing to you. We have a family friend that my mother asked to take over mother duties. She is a very honorable person. After my mother passed, I was a passenger in a horiffic car accident. I was paralyzed. I could not eat, dress, brush my teeth and was left totally blind amongst many other problems. This friend came over daily and took care of me. Mind you she was in her 80's. I could feel the love she had for me. I have since regained the ability to walk, feed myself, dress myself and other things. Do I still struggle? Yes. But, I remember this woman daily. I am happy to call her "Mom". Pick your family. All the advice given, I agree with and follow. If I can be of service, feel free to contact me.
Mary KankampMay 27, 2016
Thankful for someone to write her experience, for I too am alone in the same way. My husband and our only child are both deceased. Extended family lives far away and too old to be hired, I am looking to do volunteer work in the community when I can get time from all the church callings. It is helps to know there are others with the same concerns.
M. HansenMay 27, 2016
I am so sorry for what this sister is going through and wish I could help her. I lost my mother, brother-in-law and then husband within three months but I do have children, siblings and in-laws. I can't imagine having no one to rely on or talk to, but even in a room full of family I can still feel extremely alone. Losing my husband was like losing an appendage - I just feel different. That's when I rely on my Father in Heaven or think of the Savior and how alone he felt in the garden and on the cross. Staying busy and planning things to look forward to helps - like lunch with a friend, attending social or charitable functions, travel or try something new that doesn't take you too far out of your comfort zone. If you need to hole up by yourself, that's ok too just don't stay there too long because it's hard to get out of that dark place. Sorry this is so long. Hope it helps someone and that I remember to take my own advice.
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