Honestly this man needs to move his family to where he is or find a job back home, this is very dangerous territory. Some good advice can be found in the books: "Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It," by Jerry B. Jenkins and "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage," by Willard F. Jr. Harley.
BeenThereOctober 4, 2015
If you're calling someone of the opposite gender your "bestie," and it's not your spouse, you're cheating. Plain and simple. If that wife accepts being called the other man's bestie, that's cheating.
If he's picking up his children, he can stay in the car and she can send them out to him. Why does he have to linger for an HOUR in the house when picking them up? RED FLAG!
This wife will have to 'fess up to her flirting, or accepting the other guy's flirting. If it's hurting her husband, that should be the end of it. when I read that text, I felt cheated upon for the husband. It reminded me of years ago when I found that texting on my ex-husband's clandestine phone that he had with his "bestie." He wouldn't give her up, so we divorced. Texting/sexting is cheating. If that other guy is "lusting" after the wife, that's adultery. Lust = adultery.
Your marriage comes first. Your marriage comes first. Your marriage comes first.
DwightOctober 2, 2015
Dead Right On! Thank you for your answer. Technology can be and for too many has been a two edge sword. Access to church material and faith strengthening articles, movies and conference through technology is a tremendous blessing when we use it. However the great imitator, counterfeiter and liar is working non-stop to persuade, tempt and influence the misuse of technology to bring filth in our homes, create relationships through Face Book, texting and others that seem on the surface "OK" but are simply too often planting the seeds of distraction from what is wholesome, good and appropriate.
andreaOctober 2, 2015
I think this husband needs to have a chat with the newly divorced man and ask that he show more respect for their marriage and to recognize that he probably wouldn't like it if it was him in the husband's shoes. Furthermore, both parties (divorced man and wife) need to remember the scripture in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 which says to "abstain from all appearance of evil" and on the (hopefully rare) occasions they need to cross paths, the wife needs to get a friend to be there at the very least.
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AudreyOctober 6, 2015
Honestly this man needs to move his family to where he is or find a job back home, this is very dangerous territory. Some good advice can be found in the books: "Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It," by Jerry B. Jenkins and "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage," by Willard F. Jr. Harley.
BeenThereOctober 4, 2015
If you're calling someone of the opposite gender your "bestie," and it's not your spouse, you're cheating. Plain and simple. If that wife accepts being called the other man's bestie, that's cheating. If he's picking up his children, he can stay in the car and she can send them out to him. Why does he have to linger for an HOUR in the house when picking them up? RED FLAG! This wife will have to 'fess up to her flirting, or accepting the other guy's flirting. If it's hurting her husband, that should be the end of it. when I read that text, I felt cheated upon for the husband. It reminded me of years ago when I found that texting on my ex-husband's clandestine phone that he had with his "bestie." He wouldn't give her up, so we divorced. Texting/sexting is cheating. If that other guy is "lusting" after the wife, that's adultery. Lust = adultery. Your marriage comes first. Your marriage comes first. Your marriage comes first.
DwightOctober 2, 2015
Dead Right On! Thank you for your answer. Technology can be and for too many has been a two edge sword. Access to church material and faith strengthening articles, movies and conference through technology is a tremendous blessing when we use it. However the great imitator, counterfeiter and liar is working non-stop to persuade, tempt and influence the misuse of technology to bring filth in our homes, create relationships through Face Book, texting and others that seem on the surface "OK" but are simply too often planting the seeds of distraction from what is wholesome, good and appropriate.
andreaOctober 2, 2015
I think this husband needs to have a chat with the newly divorced man and ask that he show more respect for their marriage and to recognize that he probably wouldn't like it if it was him in the husband's shoes. Furthermore, both parties (divorced man and wife) need to remember the scripture in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 which says to "abstain from all appearance of evil" and on the (hopefully rare) occasions they need to cross paths, the wife needs to get a friend to be there at the very least.
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