What about toxic people who if allowed back into your life would keep you from being able to recognize yourself as a son or daughter of God, or even a disciple of Christ? Some abuse is more than physical. The sexual abuse, emotional abuse and mental abuse can also leave long lasting scars.
cbApril 28, 2015
I had a friend in our writers group who always found offense by myself and other members when none was intended. After talking to her she apologized and said she knew I wouldn't have done that. Later she resurrected the incident in her writing and also that against the other members. It was bullying to kind people who had taken her in in spite of her abrasiveness. She even brought her unkind writings in to my boss and coworkers and sent it to many others. I had to cut off this relationship because it always returned to the situation of her living as a victim. It was too stressful for me to deal with with other important matters in my life. I've always felt bad that it came to this since she has so few friends, but this article substantiates my decision to stay clear of that kind of abuse. I still wish her the best but had to set a boundary.
joyce youngApril 28, 2015
I have a wonderful son. However, he is upset with me because my daughter and her husband and child are living with us. They've been here 6 months and previously were living with us for 3 years. Her husband has had many job problems (not enough pay etc.) He also has emotional and physical problems, which are not debilitating but still hard. We feel that we can help them until they get on their feet hopefully by getting a better job so they can live on their own. My son feels we are enabling them and they are lazy for not getting out on their own. So he has cut off communications with us until we let him know when they will move out. This has caused a lot of stress for me since I'd like to see him and his son, a 2 year old grandson. I don't know how to approach it except to be stubborn and not try and communicate. I appreciated this article because in a way I feel like I'm in prison and it's unfair of him to cut me off from him and his family. Communication is so important. I don't need him telling me what decisions to make. Thanks for your article.
A Happy HubbyApril 28, 2015
Great article. So glad you expressed the issue so well. I am amazed that some members cut off all communication with a family member just because they no longer feel the church is true. Where is the Christ like love in that. It just pushes people away. Or someone that kicks a son out of the home because he is says he is gay. I am glad one of the apostles has said doing so is cause for repentance. Shunning does not change people, love does.
Dr. Beu'lah mary OmarApril 28, 2015
Thank you so much for your wonderful article. I have been working to release my heart from prison, so was able to use your experience with the sister as an example of how to treat my less active heart. Thank you for that. God be with you always
Sis Omar.
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anonymousApril 28, 2015
What about toxic people who if allowed back into your life would keep you from being able to recognize yourself as a son or daughter of God, or even a disciple of Christ? Some abuse is more than physical. The sexual abuse, emotional abuse and mental abuse can also leave long lasting scars.
cbApril 28, 2015
I had a friend in our writers group who always found offense by myself and other members when none was intended. After talking to her she apologized and said she knew I wouldn't have done that. Later she resurrected the incident in her writing and also that against the other members. It was bullying to kind people who had taken her in in spite of her abrasiveness. She even brought her unkind writings in to my boss and coworkers and sent it to many others. I had to cut off this relationship because it always returned to the situation of her living as a victim. It was too stressful for me to deal with with other important matters in my life. I've always felt bad that it came to this since she has so few friends, but this article substantiates my decision to stay clear of that kind of abuse. I still wish her the best but had to set a boundary.
joyce youngApril 28, 2015
I have a wonderful son. However, he is upset with me because my daughter and her husband and child are living with us. They've been here 6 months and previously were living with us for 3 years. Her husband has had many job problems (not enough pay etc.) He also has emotional and physical problems, which are not debilitating but still hard. We feel that we can help them until they get on their feet hopefully by getting a better job so they can live on their own. My son feels we are enabling them and they are lazy for not getting out on their own. So he has cut off communications with us until we let him know when they will move out. This has caused a lot of stress for me since I'd like to see him and his son, a 2 year old grandson. I don't know how to approach it except to be stubborn and not try and communicate. I appreciated this article because in a way I feel like I'm in prison and it's unfair of him to cut me off from him and his family. Communication is so important. I don't need him telling me what decisions to make. Thanks for your article.
A Happy HubbyApril 28, 2015
Great article. So glad you expressed the issue so well. I am amazed that some members cut off all communication with a family member just because they no longer feel the church is true. Where is the Christ like love in that. It just pushes people away. Or someone that kicks a son out of the home because he is says he is gay. I am glad one of the apostles has said doing so is cause for repentance. Shunning does not change people, love does.
Dr. Beu'lah mary OmarApril 28, 2015
Thank you so much for your wonderful article. I have been working to release my heart from prison, so was able to use your experience with the sister as an example of how to treat my less active heart. Thank you for that. God be with you always Sis Omar.
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