As scared as she is of being lonely or affecting the family she needs to divorce this guy and when any family members ask her why, she needs to concisely and honestly tell them why. He needs to be shown to the family what he really is, a serial adulterer, dishonest and a liar. A one time honest mistake with sincere repentance is a whole different thing than what this guy has done. No one can blame another for breaking their covenants. Being in a sexless or non-adventurous or non-affectionate marriage, which is what the comment by H North is implying does not justify infidelity or breaking ones covenants.
CindyJanuary 27, 2023
H North's comment is disgusting! Don't blame the victim. Even if his statement were true, lack of affection, or anything else a wife may or may not do, does not give a husband the right to cheat nor excuse his behavior. There are many ways to handle an unhappy marriage and cheating is never ok.
KateJanuary 27, 2023
Oh my, H North's answer is the classic spiel of an adulterer--it's always the wife's fault: "I couldn't help myself, you weren't meeting my needs!" What a bunch of self-serving baloney. I wonder if he (and i'm 99% sure H. North is a he) is aware of how clearly and obviously he outed himself? I sincerely hope there is not still a MRS. H North. Yikes.
H NorthJanuary 27, 2023
Oftentimes, an unfaithful person's actions are initiated by long-term lack of affection from one's spouse. It takes two to tango. It's tiring to hear one spouse complain that the other cheated, without taking any responsibility for their actions, or inactions, that contributed to the situation. A spouse who receives more love and affection than they can take in will seldom stray, and will have no motivation to do so.
There's an old saying: a woman marries a man hoping to change him, and he won't; a man marries a woman hoping she won't change, and she does. Don't throw stones in glass houses.
Marilyn HaddJanuary 27, 2023
What an awesome insightful response to a most painful question. Bless you, dear sister. Heal.
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Corey D.January 29, 2023
As scared as she is of being lonely or affecting the family she needs to divorce this guy and when any family members ask her why, she needs to concisely and honestly tell them why. He needs to be shown to the family what he really is, a serial adulterer, dishonest and a liar. A one time honest mistake with sincere repentance is a whole different thing than what this guy has done. No one can blame another for breaking their covenants. Being in a sexless or non-adventurous or non-affectionate marriage, which is what the comment by H North is implying does not justify infidelity or breaking ones covenants.
CindyJanuary 27, 2023
H North's comment is disgusting! Don't blame the victim. Even if his statement were true, lack of affection, or anything else a wife may or may not do, does not give a husband the right to cheat nor excuse his behavior. There are many ways to handle an unhappy marriage and cheating is never ok.
KateJanuary 27, 2023
Oh my, H North's answer is the classic spiel of an adulterer--it's always the wife's fault: "I couldn't help myself, you weren't meeting my needs!" What a bunch of self-serving baloney. I wonder if he (and i'm 99% sure H. North is a he) is aware of how clearly and obviously he outed himself? I sincerely hope there is not still a MRS. H North. Yikes.
H NorthJanuary 27, 2023
Oftentimes, an unfaithful person's actions are initiated by long-term lack of affection from one's spouse. It takes two to tango. It's tiring to hear one spouse complain that the other cheated, without taking any responsibility for their actions, or inactions, that contributed to the situation. A spouse who receives more love and affection than they can take in will seldom stray, and will have no motivation to do so. There's an old saying: a woman marries a man hoping to change him, and he won't; a man marries a woman hoping she won't change, and she does. Don't throw stones in glass houses.
Marilyn HaddJanuary 27, 2023
What an awesome insightful response to a most painful question. Bless you, dear sister. Heal.
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