Been thereNovember 14, 2014

Yes, forgiveness and trust are not the same. Forgiveness is to stop hating. Forgiving does not prevent the natural consequences of sin--it does not erase punishment and the required repentance. It frees you to decide how you want to handle the problems, without the interference of hate. If he won't go to counseling or make serious changes on his own, there will be consequences. The consequence might be divorce or it might be that you will suffer as this abuse continues. If you need help in deciding, please talk to a counselor yourself. I'd say a husband who says his wife has to forgive and trust him is making demands where he has no right to do so.