Have to agree with the Arden Hansen comment. Well meaning as they are, Psychologists, Doctors, wives and the like all only want to 'hack away at the branches' of the problem of someone who is obese. There are platitudes and tons of people who think they have great advise for the "fat people who just need to do something about their situation", like stop shoving food down their throats and get to the gym. That is just like recommending that people dying from cancer or serious car accident injuries just need to get a grip, stop eating so much and work out at a gym every day in order to get better. That is no more ridiculous than assuming fat people are so because they don't know any better or don't care about themselves or have no will power. True obesity is ONLY a terribly obvious SYMPTOM of an deeper complex illness. Until the REAL illness(es) are discovered and repaired all the well-intentioned 'hacking at branches' in the world is not going to solve the basic root of the illness and its sad, unappealing visual 'symptom'.
DonaApril 25, 2014
Good advise, but I have discovered that those with such problems haven't discovered with their whole heart that that are children of a loving Heavenly Father. With that recognition they see themselves with different eyes and strive to please God. Such people who realize this become some of the best missionaries in healp others loose weight.
A change of life style for the whole family is extremely important, like living the Word of Wisdom.
JonboyApril 25, 2014
The wife mentioned that he stopped breathing during the night. I did the same being overweight. My wife had just read an article in a magazine about sleep apnea , she told me that unless I got that checked out by a doctor, she would be sleeping in another bedroom. I got it checked and found as they told me I was 'major league' into sleep apnea . I began using a CPAP for sleeping at night and was amazed that I actually had energy when I woke up in the morning. The doc said that I only had 50% oxygen in my blood due to the breathing interruptions during the night. Sleep apnea sufferers are at great risk of heart attacks, stroke, and grand mall seizures during their sleep. He needs to see a Dr. yesterday.
Arden HansenApril 25, 2014
Wonderful advice about dealing with difficult relationship issues and making sure our hearts are in the right place. But I would be real careful about assuming the "real issue" is one of the many thrown out here in the armchair analysis of obesity which NO ONE in science or psychology has the final answer. Acting on the assumption that the root cause is addiction or depression or denial or self-destruction or lack of self-respect could lead one into muddy waters and worsen the situation. Leave the diagnosis to a professional, please, who has all the data to hand.
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hollandparkMay 2, 2014
Have to agree with the Arden Hansen comment. Well meaning as they are, Psychologists, Doctors, wives and the like all only want to 'hack away at the branches' of the problem of someone who is obese. There are platitudes and tons of people who think they have great advise for the "fat people who just need to do something about their situation", like stop shoving food down their throats and get to the gym. That is just like recommending that people dying from cancer or serious car accident injuries just need to get a grip, stop eating so much and work out at a gym every day in order to get better. That is no more ridiculous than assuming fat people are so because they don't know any better or don't care about themselves or have no will power. True obesity is ONLY a terribly obvious SYMPTOM of an deeper complex illness. Until the REAL illness(es) are discovered and repaired all the well-intentioned 'hacking at branches' in the world is not going to solve the basic root of the illness and its sad, unappealing visual 'symptom'.
DonaApril 25, 2014
Good advise, but I have discovered that those with such problems haven't discovered with their whole heart that that are children of a loving Heavenly Father. With that recognition they see themselves with different eyes and strive to please God. Such people who realize this become some of the best missionaries in healp others loose weight. A change of life style for the whole family is extremely important, like living the Word of Wisdom.
JonboyApril 25, 2014
The wife mentioned that he stopped breathing during the night. I did the same being overweight. My wife had just read an article in a magazine about sleep apnea , she told me that unless I got that checked out by a doctor, she would be sleeping in another bedroom. I got it checked and found as they told me I was 'major league' into sleep apnea . I began using a CPAP for sleeping at night and was amazed that I actually had energy when I woke up in the morning. The doc said that I only had 50% oxygen in my blood due to the breathing interruptions during the night. Sleep apnea sufferers are at great risk of heart attacks, stroke, and grand mall seizures during their sleep. He needs to see a Dr. yesterday.
Arden HansenApril 25, 2014
Wonderful advice about dealing with difficult relationship issues and making sure our hearts are in the right place. But I would be real careful about assuming the "real issue" is one of the many thrown out here in the armchair analysis of obesity which NO ONE in science or psychology has the final answer. Acting on the assumption that the root cause is addiction or depression or denial or self-destruction or lack of self-respect could lead one into muddy waters and worsen the situation. Leave the diagnosis to a professional, please, who has all the data to hand.
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