This letter could have been written by me, though my situation is much like Vickie's. It's not easy, especially when the children are being taught about Eternal Families at church. I have faith that Heavenly Father has a plan for our family though. Whether it's in this life or the next, I'm sure we'll be an eternal family.
Sister ADecember 16, 2013
Ditto. 49.5 years. Thank you for your insights.
VickieDecember 15, 2013
Thank you for publishing this question and your response. My situation is a little different in that my non-member husband is supportive of my church activity - to a certain degree. As a lot of non-members, he feels that the Church requires a lot of us, and he is jealous of my time. In the beginning it was work to make sure he felt that he was my number one priority - but I wasn't going to sacrifice my faith (because I expected the same respect back from him.) However it did mean that I didn't accept every opportunity for service that I really wanted to. We have now been married over 15 years and he has grown in his respect for the Church. I always thought that when we had children he would soften toward the church. Then we weren't blessed with children, I have made sure that my bishop and Relief Society President understand my situation. I have requested specific brethren to be my home teachers - those that I know who would come regularly and get to know my husband for the great man that he is - without pushing him to join the Church. He has grown to love these men. I will be eternally grateful to them for their love toward my husband. I still make it a matter of daily prayer that his heart will be softened to the point that he will join the church. I often wonder why we were brought together if our union will not be eternal...and yes, I know it was MY choice to marry a non-member. I make no excuses for that. I know that I am suppose to be married to this man. I have learned so much from our lives together. It is making me a better person. It has helped me to draw closer to my Heavenly Father - who I know wants me to be happy. I can't count the number of tender mercies that I have been granted as I have turned to Him in prayer. Thank you again for speaking to this.
MattDecember 13, 2013
Your response is spot on. Thank you. My in-laws chose to make religious differences a contest of wills and they used their children pawns in their emotional war. I like Dr. Lund
Mary GagneDecember 13, 2013
Though I have been assurred and reassured a number of times, that there is hope for an eternal marriage, this article boosts me up again. After 56 years of marriage without my husband joining the church, he passed away. My prayer and deepest hope is that he is learning the gospel truths now and when the time comes we can be reunited in eternal marriage.
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JacindaJanuary 27, 2014
This letter could have been written by me, though my situation is much like Vickie's. It's not easy, especially when the children are being taught about Eternal Families at church. I have faith that Heavenly Father has a plan for our family though. Whether it's in this life or the next, I'm sure we'll be an eternal family.
Sister ADecember 16, 2013
Ditto. 49.5 years. Thank you for your insights.
VickieDecember 15, 2013
Thank you for publishing this question and your response. My situation is a little different in that my non-member husband is supportive of my church activity - to a certain degree. As a lot of non-members, he feels that the Church requires a lot of us, and he is jealous of my time. In the beginning it was work to make sure he felt that he was my number one priority - but I wasn't going to sacrifice my faith (because I expected the same respect back from him.) However it did mean that I didn't accept every opportunity for service that I really wanted to. We have now been married over 15 years and he has grown in his respect for the Church. I always thought that when we had children he would soften toward the church. Then we weren't blessed with children, I have made sure that my bishop and Relief Society President understand my situation. I have requested specific brethren to be my home teachers - those that I know who would come regularly and get to know my husband for the great man that he is - without pushing him to join the Church. He has grown to love these men. I will be eternally grateful to them for their love toward my husband. I still make it a matter of daily prayer that his heart will be softened to the point that he will join the church. I often wonder why we were brought together if our union will not be eternal...and yes, I know it was MY choice to marry a non-member. I make no excuses for that. I know that I am suppose to be married to this man. I have learned so much from our lives together. It is making me a better person. It has helped me to draw closer to my Heavenly Father - who I know wants me to be happy. I can't count the number of tender mercies that I have been granted as I have turned to Him in prayer. Thank you again for speaking to this.
MattDecember 13, 2013
Your response is spot on. Thank you. My in-laws chose to make religious differences a contest of wills and they used their children pawns in their emotional war. I like Dr. Lund
Mary GagneDecember 13, 2013
Though I have been assurred and reassured a number of times, that there is hope for an eternal marriage, this article boosts me up again. After 56 years of marriage without my husband joining the church, he passed away. My prayer and deepest hope is that he is learning the gospel truths now and when the time comes we can be reunited in eternal marriage.
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