I agree with you 100%! Also, we can choose NOT to take offense as easily as we can CHOOSE to take offense. Here’s another challenge...when I’ve tried to apologize for giving offense, yet the other person does not accept—or even acknowledge—my apology. Over the years, when this happens (which fortunately isn’t too often) I’ve learned to find my peace in the Atonement of Jesus Christ. These types of situations used to eat away at me. Then, one day, I realized it was my own lack of faith in our Savior’s Atonement that was keeping me from finding “...the peace which passeth understanding....”
K. Chin, Modesto, CA
Maryann TaylorFebruary 22, 2021
Joni--we have ALL done it--many times not even realizing until the words are out of our mouths how inappropriate they were. I agree we need to lighten up and forgive one another. HOWEVER, you brought up one comment that needs to be nipped in the bud among church members. Members of the church should NEVER, and I mean NEVER, ask someone when they are going to start a family. This is an extremely personal question and is sometimes asked in a manner that suggests the people are really failing or sinning because they don't have children yet! This needs to be unacceptable, and if that means replying with, "Oh, my! Why would you ask me that?! That is an extremely personal question." Sometimes people DO need to be corrected.
CraigFebruary 22, 2021
Every. Single. Day. I often don't realize I have said something that was stupid, crass, or uncaring until after I had spoken the words out loud. Because it always sounds more funny, thoughtful, logical, or inspiring in my head, but somewhere in that vast distance from my brain to my mouth, it gets lost in translation and comes out cringeworthy. We are all human and making our way down the path like everyone else, only some of us trip on our feet more often than others and that is just fine.
pamFebruary 20, 2021
Thank you for this article. I will read it a couple of times since the content is very pertinent to me! At least I'm not alone in all my blunders.
Pam
Erica BarbosaFebruary 20, 2021
Thank you for sharing your insight. Life is so much more pleasant when we assume that other people's intentions are usually good.
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Kathleen ChinFebruary 23, 2021
I agree with you 100%! Also, we can choose NOT to take offense as easily as we can CHOOSE to take offense. Here’s another challenge...when I’ve tried to apologize for giving offense, yet the other person does not accept—or even acknowledge—my apology. Over the years, when this happens (which fortunately isn’t too often) I’ve learned to find my peace in the Atonement of Jesus Christ. These types of situations used to eat away at me. Then, one day, I realized it was my own lack of faith in our Savior’s Atonement that was keeping me from finding “...the peace which passeth understanding....” K. Chin, Modesto, CA
Maryann TaylorFebruary 22, 2021
Joni--we have ALL done it--many times not even realizing until the words are out of our mouths how inappropriate they were. I agree we need to lighten up and forgive one another. HOWEVER, you brought up one comment that needs to be nipped in the bud among church members. Members of the church should NEVER, and I mean NEVER, ask someone when they are going to start a family. This is an extremely personal question and is sometimes asked in a manner that suggests the people are really failing or sinning because they don't have children yet! This needs to be unacceptable, and if that means replying with, "Oh, my! Why would you ask me that?! That is an extremely personal question." Sometimes people DO need to be corrected.
CraigFebruary 22, 2021
Every. Single. Day. I often don't realize I have said something that was stupid, crass, or uncaring until after I had spoken the words out loud. Because it always sounds more funny, thoughtful, logical, or inspiring in my head, but somewhere in that vast distance from my brain to my mouth, it gets lost in translation and comes out cringeworthy. We are all human and making our way down the path like everyone else, only some of us trip on our feet more often than others and that is just fine.
pamFebruary 20, 2021
Thank you for this article. I will read it a couple of times since the content is very pertinent to me! At least I'm not alone in all my blunders. Pam
Erica BarbosaFebruary 20, 2021
Thank you for sharing your insight. Life is so much more pleasant when we assume that other people's intentions are usually good.
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