This obviously cuts both ways. My precious wife lost interest in intimacy some years ago (we are not anywhere near 70). She was still responsive to my overtures until about a year ago when intimacy became increasingly painful for her. We tried a variety of remedies (lubricants, positions, etc.) to no avail. She is still willing to try other options even though her drive is non-existent. For all that, I feel very loved by my wife because of her deep consideration for my feelings. She loves me in many other ways that do not involve intimacy, so this is not a deal-breaker for either of us.
Maryann TaylorFebruary 8, 2021
When I was young, I used to think people over 70 lost interest in sex. Now that I am approaching 70 this year, I have a whole new attitude! Older couples can and DO enjoy sexual intimacy. I think the advice in this article is excellent, but there is another important avenue for you to explore: VIAGRA!!! Encourage your husband to get a complete physical and ask your Dr. about it. Don't give up. You do NOT have to sacrifice this important part of your relationship.
happy wife at 70February 5, 2021
My husband had surgery to remove a prostate because of cancer about 12 years ago. No more erections unfortunately but NOT the end of our sex life. Bless his heart he tried everything pump, injections, pills that gave him massive headaches. Nothing worked so we accepted our limitations and decided to work with what we had....our love and desire for each other. I don't want to be inappropriate here but I want to help...we both still reach satisfaction but it is done manually.
Old GuyFebruary 5, 2021
Ouch! The word "perform" should be outlawed when talking about intimacy between husband and wife! It denotes to many that he is putting on a "performance," as opposed to jointly participating in an intimate activity in which both persons involved are actively expressing their love for each other. A husband who is expected to "perform" is usually a man who has been demoted down to the same social standing as a well-trained family dog who does tricks, or even the family cat who spends hours chasing a laser light for the family's amusement. Respectfully, the one worried about their husband's "performance" should perhaps be evaluating her own "performance" or lack of. Perhaps her "performance" needs to be updated in such a way that it will motivate him to rejoin the circus and once again "perform."
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HalFebruary 16, 2021
This obviously cuts both ways. My precious wife lost interest in intimacy some years ago (we are not anywhere near 70). She was still responsive to my overtures until about a year ago when intimacy became increasingly painful for her. We tried a variety of remedies (lubricants, positions, etc.) to no avail. She is still willing to try other options even though her drive is non-existent. For all that, I feel very loved by my wife because of her deep consideration for my feelings. She loves me in many other ways that do not involve intimacy, so this is not a deal-breaker for either of us.
Maryann TaylorFebruary 8, 2021
When I was young, I used to think people over 70 lost interest in sex. Now that I am approaching 70 this year, I have a whole new attitude! Older couples can and DO enjoy sexual intimacy. I think the advice in this article is excellent, but there is another important avenue for you to explore: VIAGRA!!! Encourage your husband to get a complete physical and ask your Dr. about it. Don't give up. You do NOT have to sacrifice this important part of your relationship.
happy wife at 70February 5, 2021
My husband had surgery to remove a prostate because of cancer about 12 years ago. No more erections unfortunately but NOT the end of our sex life. Bless his heart he tried everything pump, injections, pills that gave him massive headaches. Nothing worked so we accepted our limitations and decided to work with what we had....our love and desire for each other. I don't want to be inappropriate here but I want to help...we both still reach satisfaction but it is done manually.
Old GuyFebruary 5, 2021
Ouch! The word "perform" should be outlawed when talking about intimacy between husband and wife! It denotes to many that he is putting on a "performance," as opposed to jointly participating in an intimate activity in which both persons involved are actively expressing their love for each other. A husband who is expected to "perform" is usually a man who has been demoted down to the same social standing as a well-trained family dog who does tricks, or even the family cat who spends hours chasing a laser light for the family's amusement. Respectfully, the one worried about their husband's "performance" should perhaps be evaluating her own "performance" or lack of. Perhaps her "performance" needs to be updated in such a way that it will motivate him to rejoin the circus and once again "perform."
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