Thanks to all of you for your excellent thoughts and kind words. We are all on this journey of becoming more Christlike together-and we are cheering each on. Happy Holidays to all of you!! Love, Mary Bell
It helps me to know that others have to beg for help with patience! Thanks for the article and the posted comments!
Wonderful article, thank you! My wife and I will review it together this evening.
I totally agree, I've also used prayer as an antidote to choosing contention, and it's a strategy that works wonders. When my son who has Cerebral Palsy would hit me full in the face full of his own turmoil of frustrations, I would often break down in tears and sob my heart out to God right there and then praying for his heart to be softened that he wouldn't feel the need to strike out and that I too wouldn't feel the need to strike out with the words and tone of my voice.
Although it wasn't a miracle cure, it took him a few months to really get out of this heartbreaking habit, it certainly helped me to be able to handle the outbursts with greater calm and compassion. It seems vital to me that if we want our children to be able to control their temper, they must have as good an example to follow in their parent or caregiver as possible.
And at the time for the parent it feels like a mighty sacrifice, a huge injustice to choose the soft response, the adversary would much rather have us believe we are justified in our anger and retaliation. What we are doing is breaking a whole family history of retaliation, which all comes down to that pivotal moment of choice as the trigger comes at us. I fixed a quote to the wall above our dinner table so I could read it often which says, "And that which doth not edify is not of God, and is darkness" D&C 50.21-22.
For years and years, my New Year’s Resolution was to not yell at my kids and to be more patient. Every year I failed. I felt like a terrible mother. One year I decided NO MORE! This year I will just set the resolution to BE KIND. That was the key! I found that when I was kind, I was also more patient and didn’t yell as much. This was a great article that reminded me of my days as a young mom.
Thank you for this reminder. This was an answer to my prayers this morning. (Prayer also helps when you have young adult children. )
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