This is truly a helpful article. I had never heard the quote....
“Advice is what you ask for when you already know the right answer but you don’t like it.” My new favorite quote... This made me laugh out loud and say ‘This is the meaning of life’... Thank for your work.. I just found you today...
What a great light-hearted discussion about listening, which is something I'm working on being better at. I love that you poke fun of yourself. Finding humor in situations is a great way to help relieve tension during serious discussions.
While I think there are times when just listening is important and empathizing is what is needed most, the thought of doing this with every conversation makes me want to never talk (or listen) to anyone ever again! I love the word "wallowing." It reminds me of the many times that I hear the same person saying the same things over and over without any intention of changing the situation. Sometimes this person is me, but usually after I hear myself a few times, I think, " I either have to change this or resign myself to it and get on with my life. Ultimately, we are the only ones who control our attitudes and constant complaining doesn't help anything. Saying something aloud can help us focus on the situation, but constant whining does no good at all. Listening to constant whining, like I'm doing now, - well you get the picture. I was not cut out to be a psychologist.
A Pastor once prayed to become more patient. Next thing, his efficient Secretary had an accident, that caused her to be temporarily incapacitated. Her replacement turned out to be slow and making lots of mistakes. The Pastor soon got very annoyed with her, until he realized that she represented the very answer to his prayer! Along the same lines, the Lord gave me a Finnish wife, whose culture greatly contrasts with Mediterranean one. They remain silent until the other one is done while we are used to talking on top of each-other!
As Joni suggests, it is never too late to learn to develop better communication skills out of desire for happy and loving relationships. Many thanks for the article!
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