You are the Mom. You are in charge of the discipline and care of your son. The grandmother needs to defer to you. Period. Of course you and your husband should be on the same page on discipline, but if he is deferring to his Mom just because she is his mom, that is wrong. And to say that is just the way she is -- that is a cop out. Then you could just say - well this is just the way I am. On the other hand, be open minded on how to discipline. You could learn something from grandmother. But above all, the parents, not the grandparents are charged with guiding and protecting their kids. Be strong.
DebrahJune 1, 2018
Agreeing with you. Sometimes it is good to let your children learn that different people act in different ways but are not necessarily wrong. As the child grows, mamma can teach her child that when he is with that grandma and grandpa he needs to act in a more formal way.
It could be she needs to quit being a mamma bear, too.
As a teacher and developmental specialist I have also learned that a child may act typical for their age, but still needs guidance so that the behavior does not continue on into non-age appropriate years. A good example is tattling. It is very normal for children about 6 years old. Still it is not an appropriate behavior unless there is a danger involved and the child needs to be instructed about what is tattling and what is not tattling.
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DavidJune 1, 2018
You are the Mom. You are in charge of the discipline and care of your son. The grandmother needs to defer to you. Period. Of course you and your husband should be on the same page on discipline, but if he is deferring to his Mom just because she is his mom, that is wrong. And to say that is just the way she is -- that is a cop out. Then you could just say - well this is just the way I am. On the other hand, be open minded on how to discipline. You could learn something from grandmother. But above all, the parents, not the grandparents are charged with guiding and protecting their kids. Be strong.
DebrahJune 1, 2018
Agreeing with you. Sometimes it is good to let your children learn that different people act in different ways but are not necessarily wrong. As the child grows, mamma can teach her child that when he is with that grandma and grandpa he needs to act in a more formal way. It could be she needs to quit being a mamma bear, too. As a teacher and developmental specialist I have also learned that a child may act typical for their age, but still needs guidance so that the behavior does not continue on into non-age appropriate years. A good example is tattling. It is very normal for children about 6 years old. Still it is not an appropriate behavior unless there is a danger involved and the child needs to be instructed about what is tattling and what is not tattling.
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