I'm going to have to put this article on my mirror to remind me it's not okay to be forcefully right and fight over things that can slide, which is must everything. . Thank you for this great article, it has my name written all over it.
Rob ChappellMarch 11, 2018
Very insightful and helpful! (I’m quite sure I am “right “ about that!)
LkoutzMarch 10, 2018
Thank you! This is such a wonderful article. I needed it!
Been ThereMarch 9, 2018
My wife was very abused as a child, mentally and physically. "Being Right" has always been one of her main ways of "protecting herself". She has been so obsessed with being right that I "had to" agree with her and agree she was right or I was accused of not trusting her and demeaning everything she stood for. In our marriage she has only admitted to being wrong three times -- once a decade. I can tell you first-hand, always being right is emotional violence. It is mental abuse. It robs those around of your their self-esteem and their self-confidence. It tears down the spirit and soul of your spouse and your children. It makes them believe they are as stupid as your always having to be right makes them feel. . . . It took therapy and becoming a mental health professional herself for her to see what she was doing to all those around her. She doesn't force us to agree she is right anymore, but she still won't admit when she is wrong; that is, to her, too much of a sign of weakness.
pamMarch 9, 2018
Boy, talk about seeing yourself in a talk. That was definitely written for me, ha! I will try to remember that all the time!
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Diane S.March 14, 2018
I'm going to have to put this article on my mirror to remind me it's not okay to be forcefully right and fight over things that can slide, which is must everything. . Thank you for this great article, it has my name written all over it.
Rob ChappellMarch 11, 2018
Very insightful and helpful! (I’m quite sure I am “right “ about that!)
LkoutzMarch 10, 2018
Thank you! This is such a wonderful article. I needed it!
Been ThereMarch 9, 2018
My wife was very abused as a child, mentally and physically. "Being Right" has always been one of her main ways of "protecting herself". She has been so obsessed with being right that I "had to" agree with her and agree she was right or I was accused of not trusting her and demeaning everything she stood for. In our marriage she has only admitted to being wrong three times -- once a decade. I can tell you first-hand, always being right is emotional violence. It is mental abuse. It robs those around of your their self-esteem and their self-confidence. It tears down the spirit and soul of your spouse and your children. It makes them believe they are as stupid as your always having to be right makes them feel. . . . It took therapy and becoming a mental health professional herself for her to see what she was doing to all those around her. She doesn't force us to agree she is right anymore, but she still won't admit when she is wrong; that is, to her, too much of a sign of weakness.
pamMarch 9, 2018
Boy, talk about seeing yourself in a talk. That was definitely written for me, ha! I will try to remember that all the time!
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