Sometimes "carrying our cross with the Lord's help" means walking away from a toxic marriage. Anyone in this church who has been divorced, especially men, know the pain that comes from having to deal with the ignorance, judgment, and general disdain of the membership including, unfortunately, some Bishops and Stake Presidents. There are many reasons for divorce and they are exceedingly complex so I suggest that, unless and until you've personally gone through it, don't judge or condemn those that do.
Hallelujah! Finally a sensitive understanding of one of many reasons divorce can be necessary and become a blessing to the parties involved, My reason was very different and involved infidelity. But the "permission" to divorce has not been a message we divorced folks have often heard. How lovely to be understood and to be taught that the Lord does sustain us as we move forward during and after this painful event.
I appreciated Meggan's candid description of her experience with divorce, but I'm concerned about the privacy of her ex-husband. If I was him, I wouldn't want my personal struggles published to the world on YouTube, the Deseret News website, and LDS websites.
@CharlieBrown2292 I think the fact that the woman in the video held on through a drug addiction and held on through their estrangement and ultimately didn't let go until HE left HER hardly communicates that you can just give up when things get hard. If anything I think they picked the perfect example to communicate that saving the marriage should be the first priority and that if it falls apart anyway, your life doesn't have to be over.
This is the first time I view a video on a Church official website that leaves me with mixed feelings. On one hand, it is good for the many LDS people - whose numbers keep increasing - to be comforted with the knowledge that they can move on with their lives after a divorce and receive great blessings through keeping their Temple covenants and serving in the kingdom, very possibly being even led to a new companion that will bring them happiness. On the other hand, could the message be misunderstood by some in such a way that, when things become very challenging in a marriage - and only but a few marriages escape that - there is hope in walking away from it rather than "carrying our cross with the Lord's help"? The intent in publishing this video was certainly good, but I am concerned that some people - especially those who find themselves in the midst of a marital crisis - may misinterpret is and consider that it is OK to let go under their special circumstances.
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