COMMENTS: There is ALWAYS the bigger picture - the spiritual lessons that both chose to experience here with one another in the pre-earth life - and these lessons are often designed /learned through much adversity / challenges in relationships with others. Understand your individual and mutual conditioning / thinking and expectations about marriage.that mostly form the basis of your problems. Remove all judgment of one another - you are only responsible for your individual life - not his/hers. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not to your own understanding of how your marriage relationship is going / should or must be. Acknowledge - thank the Lord for your current problems/challenges - and He will direct your paths - in his way - at his time - in the manner for your individual and mutual best good - even though to you the path may seem hopeless or you may seem unwilling to take the path that you have been given - trust in the Lord and his goodness and love for you both - for your best good - trust no matter what happens - he will abide with you and bring you peace - if not today, as it is meant to be.
Love, Gary Dennis
GrandpaJanuary 12, 2018
I have been a steady reader of this column since it began, and I am married to an LCSW, with whom I discuss this column, and I have to say that this is the best, most fair reply that has been printed in any of your columns. It felt as if you went out of your way to not take sides or make assumptions. I can feel the writer's pain, but I can also feel the husband's pain. Your advise on how she could open up a dialogue with him was excellent; if followed she would be able to talk to him without having to throw up her defenses and "defend" herself, because the moment she does that the conversation will be over. Only knowing what little that is told in this letter, I get the feeling that listening to each other is what BOTH parties in this relationship might need. Again, excellent reply; thank you!
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Gary DennisJanuary 12, 2018
COMMENTS: There is ALWAYS the bigger picture - the spiritual lessons that both chose to experience here with one another in the pre-earth life - and these lessons are often designed /learned through much adversity / challenges in relationships with others. Understand your individual and mutual conditioning / thinking and expectations about marriage.that mostly form the basis of your problems. Remove all judgment of one another - you are only responsible for your individual life - not his/hers. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not to your own understanding of how your marriage relationship is going / should or must be. Acknowledge - thank the Lord for your current problems/challenges - and He will direct your paths - in his way - at his time - in the manner for your individual and mutual best good - even though to you the path may seem hopeless or you may seem unwilling to take the path that you have been given - trust in the Lord and his goodness and love for you both - for your best good - trust no matter what happens - he will abide with you and bring you peace - if not today, as it is meant to be. Love, Gary Dennis
GrandpaJanuary 12, 2018
I have been a steady reader of this column since it began, and I am married to an LCSW, with whom I discuss this column, and I have to say that this is the best, most fair reply that has been printed in any of your columns. It felt as if you went out of your way to not take sides or make assumptions. I can feel the writer's pain, but I can also feel the husband's pain. Your advise on how she could open up a dialogue with him was excellent; if followed she would be able to talk to him without having to throw up her defenses and "defend" herself, because the moment she does that the conversation will be over. Only knowing what little that is told in this letter, I get the feeling that listening to each other is what BOTH parties in this relationship might need. Again, excellent reply; thank you!
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