May I add my voice requesting the Church educate their ward and stake leaders on mental illness. My mentally ill husband manipulated our bishops and other ward members through his lies and stories to try to manipulate me into doing what he wanted. After I finally stopped attending church because of the spiritual abuse, the bishop called him to a leadership position and sent him home to find out if I would support him in this calling! One more manipulation, trying to guilt me into line. Never once was I asked what was really happening. May God forgive them. But may He require them to see the damage they did and to pay the same price they visited on me. Do these men know how they have brought the church and the priesthood into disrepute. I simply have no more trust or respect to give them.
JeanetteJuly 29, 2017
I noticed recently that the rate of serious mental illness in the general population was just about equal to the divorce rate in Utah County, Utah. I have wondered if there is any correlation. My heart goes out to the questioner. I was married for 5 years to a seriously mentally ill man. But I did not recognize that that was what his symptoms meant. My eternal marriage was destroyed by his illness and I filed for divorce. It would be decades later before I realized what had actually been happening. I would have made another decision had I known the truth at the time. But I finally had to accept that not everything can be repaired, even by the Atonement of Christ. Some decisions are not fixable. I hope the best for you.
vickieJuly 28, 2017
its too bad we don't have maybe high school teachings about mental illness and what to do and how to help someone who has it...the married partner to someone who has it can feel overwhelmed or left out or think that their partner doesn't love them ..while the person suffering isn't doing that at all. education is the key.
Junk BinJuly 28, 2017
Lots of luck Brother. I discounted the warning signs and married someone with the same problem as your wife. Nothing like living with a hair triggered delusional paranoid split personality person. Go the the 7/11 arrive back home in 15 minutes and the whole situation at home had blown up.
After having my character assassinated with friends in church and the leadership, it moved on to work. It became worse when treatment was brought up and arranged.
There are times when it is better to vacate a bad situation than live in it
Sue AndersonJuly 28, 2017
I would also suggest that this husband do a lot of research before choosing a psychiatrist for his wife. Find one who is conservative in his or her treatment, who believes in using as little medication and as few medications as possible to control symptoms. Side effects and withdrawals are fewer and less when drugs are kept to a minimum, but some docs just like to dose their patients up and get them out the door. Also, consider going in to see that psychiatrist without providing him the previous diagnosis, to see whether he or she comes up with the same one. Psychiatrists can make mistakes in diagnosing a patient's illness, especially if their relationship is a short one. For instance, a bipolar person can also have psychotic episodes. It's always good to get a second, even a third opinion, as psychiatry is anything but an exact science. Hope everything works out!
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AmyAugust 4, 2017
May I add my voice requesting the Church educate their ward and stake leaders on mental illness. My mentally ill husband manipulated our bishops and other ward members through his lies and stories to try to manipulate me into doing what he wanted. After I finally stopped attending church because of the spiritual abuse, the bishop called him to a leadership position and sent him home to find out if I would support him in this calling! One more manipulation, trying to guilt me into line. Never once was I asked what was really happening. May God forgive them. But may He require them to see the damage they did and to pay the same price they visited on me. Do these men know how they have brought the church and the priesthood into disrepute. I simply have no more trust or respect to give them.
JeanetteJuly 29, 2017
I noticed recently that the rate of serious mental illness in the general population was just about equal to the divorce rate in Utah County, Utah. I have wondered if there is any correlation. My heart goes out to the questioner. I was married for 5 years to a seriously mentally ill man. But I did not recognize that that was what his symptoms meant. My eternal marriage was destroyed by his illness and I filed for divorce. It would be decades later before I realized what had actually been happening. I would have made another decision had I known the truth at the time. But I finally had to accept that not everything can be repaired, even by the Atonement of Christ. Some decisions are not fixable. I hope the best for you.
vickieJuly 28, 2017
its too bad we don't have maybe high school teachings about mental illness and what to do and how to help someone who has it...the married partner to someone who has it can feel overwhelmed or left out or think that their partner doesn't love them ..while the person suffering isn't doing that at all. education is the key.
Junk BinJuly 28, 2017
Lots of luck Brother. I discounted the warning signs and married someone with the same problem as your wife. Nothing like living with a hair triggered delusional paranoid split personality person. Go the the 7/11 arrive back home in 15 minutes and the whole situation at home had blown up. After having my character assassinated with friends in church and the leadership, it moved on to work. It became worse when treatment was brought up and arranged. There are times when it is better to vacate a bad situation than live in it
Sue AndersonJuly 28, 2017
I would also suggest that this husband do a lot of research before choosing a psychiatrist for his wife. Find one who is conservative in his or her treatment, who believes in using as little medication and as few medications as possible to control symptoms. Side effects and withdrawals are fewer and less when drugs are kept to a minimum, but some docs just like to dose their patients up and get them out the door. Also, consider going in to see that psychiatrist without providing him the previous diagnosis, to see whether he or she comes up with the same one. Psychiatrists can make mistakes in diagnosing a patient's illness, especially if their relationship is a short one. For instance, a bipolar person can also have psychotic episodes. It's always good to get a second, even a third opinion, as psychiatry is anything but an exact science. Hope everything works out!
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