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December 4, 2024

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Glen DanielsenMay 3, 2017

I think the issue is selfishness. It the absense of "an anxious concern for the welfare" of our eternal companion. It is stunning to me how applying of a single gospel principle can remove all complexity from a problem scenario.

CharlieBrown2292May 2, 2017

Something annoys me about all those sex-oriented articles never making a mention of how the gospel does also apply to appropriate and fulfilling sex. For, "by the power of the Holy Ghost, one can know the truth of all things," including the issue of sex in a marriage. Being in tune with the Spirit indeed would enable Latter-Day Saints to remain in harmony with gospel essentials, rather than imitating the world and risking stepping into the Adversary's territory.

GuyApril 30, 2017

I'm on the other end of this issue. There is something I would love to enjoy together with my wife, but she is uncomfortable with the idea of it. Trying to talk about it just leads to her looking at me like I'm some kind of deviant even though it is something that is not a sin and that many, many couples in and out of the church enjoy. It hurts that she is unwilling to even try to move in my direction. Sometimes it feels like sex always has to be on her terms, her timetable, her rules, and my feelings and desires and needs just are not important to her.

Thank youApril 28, 2017

This was a very well thought-out reply; thank you for it. The inability to discuss intimate needs and wants is a killer. My experience is that my spouse was taught that you can only do "this" and "that" and absolutely nothing else; anything else was not even considered; not even discussable. The "routine" established on our honeymoon when we were both shy virgins who didn't know what they were doing was never allowed to be varied. Our intimate time turned into one being obedient to the other's childhood teachings. Please take the advise of discussing and working out a course both can be happy with. I also heartily agree with the remark that porn is not a good example of true intimacy. Porn is a "how-to" for cheap thrills; it does not teach you how to love and cherish your spouse. I am left wondering: was the husband reading a sex manual, or was he watching videos and reading titillating sex novels? To me, there is a difference between "medical" or "marital" advise and pornography.

Anon MaleApril 28, 2017

Going through this exact issue with my spouse almost to the tee. Having the conversation will be extremely difficult and unsafe.

RobertApril 28, 2017

Excellent article. The topic is an issue in many marriages. You have handled it very wisely and fairly. If I know my spouse wants something more or something different and I'm not open to communicating freely about it, then I'm closing down communication channels. There is nothing wrong or immoral in a husband and wife's intimate physical relationship if they both agree. Whether or not we are comfortable with something is the issue, not whether an activity, place or position is "right" or "wrong."

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